Discussion Being a Trans woman in Alabama

[Upon a hanging Body]

Living in Alabama as a trans woman feels like trying to exist in a world that's built to erase you. Every day is a battle...sometimes small, sometimes huge. The streets, the laws, the attitudes, the constant sideways glances and whispered judgments....it all chips away at you. You're forced to navigate spaces that weren't made for people like you, spaces where your existence is treated like a threat, a joke, or a mistake.

You learn to measure every word, every action, every glance. You learn to hide pieces of yourself just to survive. And even then, there's no real safety...no real sense that you belong anywhere. The loneliness isn't just physical it's in the air, in the eyes of strangers, in the silence when your existence isn't acknowledged. You start to feel invisible and hypervisible at the same time, like your life is both ignored and judged.

It's exhausting. It's painful. It's terrifying to think about stepping outside and being reminded that you're not accepted, not really. Every law, every policy, every passing comment reminds you that society doesn't see you as human...it sees you as something to control, something to shame.
I believe that this horrible state hides how many transgender people have committed suicide here. I believe they think of us less then people and sweep us indee the rug like dirt.

I've been beaten for being who I am , I've been emotional torn apart by other trans people who I thought were loved ones or friends.
This state.... this world isn't mean't for me. I'm a alien around humans at this point and it makes me sick .

 

[Dejected 55]

I know a few transgender people... and I know at least a couple living here in the southeastern US... and it makes me sad how difficult many moments in their lives are, that don't have to be difficult at all. People will go out of their way to hurt a stranger before they will take a moment to be kind even to someone they know.

It is so much easier to be kind than to hate. I never understand it. I am sorry for your experiences, and for any other transgender person suffering.

 

[GhostInTheMachine]

Do you live near anywhere urban, or are you trapped in the sticks? I ask because maybe there's a queer district near you. Alabama is one of the worst states in the country in general, but especially so if you're trans. Still, even in bumfuck shitholes like it, there's places that offer an oasis for us. I hope one day you can leave that place for a better one, be it in life or death.

 

[collapsenik]

Agh, I'm so sorry </3

 

[Ligottian]

I live in Alabama. I'm not trans but straight male. This place is a shithole.

 

[amerie]

Oh girl I'm so sorry, I know my words don't mean much but my dad is from the south and it seems kinda miserable there. They seem like mean people who aren't really aspirational so they take it out on others to make up for their lack of self fulfillment. A lot of my family from what I've heard just sits at home and talks about other people and what they're doing and smile in their face and do nothing with their lives. My dad gtfo with nothing and lived in various states before settling in California. Although it's not as warm as the south those warm connections aren't even real.

I genuinely wish you getting tf out of there very soondon't take their mean words to heart