Asexuals unite!

[TheHatedOne]

Anyone else who's an asexual on here?

I'm one of the sex repulsed ones, I've always been like nah to ''that stuff''. When I discovered the term asexual around 15-16 years old I became happy cause I knew I wasn't the only one who felt like this, no sexual attraction to others, and that what I felt actually had a word.

How did you find out about asexuality? Are you happy with it?

 

[Shadowplay]

Paging @hotelbeneathground

Anyone else who's an asexual on here?

I'm one of the sex repulsed ones, I've always been like nah to ''that stuff''. When I discovered the term asexual around 15-16 years old I became happy cause I knew I wasn't the only one who felt like this, no sexual attraction to others, and that what I felt actually had a word.

How did you find out about asexuality? Are you happy with it?

Do you find people attractive at all? I'm not asexual so I'm legitimately curious.

 

[TheHatedOne]

Paging @hotelbeneathground

Do you find people attractive at all? I'm not asexual so I'm legitimately curious.

I find some people pretty, but I'm not sexually attracted to anyone at all. Can't be.

 

[WhatDoesTheFoxSay?]

I've never been romantically attracted to anyone, save for a video game character whom I was infatuated with in high school. My addiction hurt my grades, and I ended up spending a fortune on what was essentially a pay-to-win game. I eventually got bored with said character, and it came to me that I was only attracted to his looks—I was (and still am) a superficial person, and I don't have what it takes to make a relationship work. My experience put me off trying in real-life.

I cringe when I'm touched, and I don't trust people enough to want to open myself up to them. Perhaps my upbringing and experiences have a role to play in my trust issues and resistance to intimacy. I've had so little human contact, and am so touch-starved that sometimes I don't even feel like a human being.

I have little to no sex drive. In works of fiction, fanservice characters with exaggerated body parts gross me out, and porn, whatever the genre, doesn't turn me on at all. Just found out 'femcels' (the female equivalent of the male incel, or 'involuntary celibate') are a thing. If I were born in 'ye olden days', I would've answered my calling and taken up the nun's habit.

 

[Pluto]

I've looked into this topic from time to time. There are dedicated websites for 'aces'. Seems to be quite a diverse community. It can be a natural way for some healthy people, or can be a product of becoming deeply foreign to human love due to childhood maltreatment, or a lifestyle choice to bypass all of the negative issues associated with human sexuality (overpopulation, predatory behaviours, exploitation, divorce settlements, disease transmission, etc.).

 

[yive]

i wish i was asexual! it's great to have one less stupid need to worry about. sexual urge has brought me a tremendous amount of pain!

 

[Death is beautiful]

I am asexual and everything suits me, I would still never have sex

 

[RudolphTheReindeer]

I'm asexual! I never knew it was a thing until last year. It was nice finding out that there are other people with the same experiences I was feeling.

 

[LonelyBrazilian]

I would love to be asexual. Most of my frustrations and bitterness come from sexual urge.

 

[FuneralCry]

Yes. I am not attracted to anyone. I cannot stand people and I want nothing to do with them. The thought of sex is very repulsive. It is the cause of our suffering after all. If it was not for that we would never exist in the first place. Of course I am happy with being asexual.

 

[motel rooms]

Paging @hotelbeneathground

Do you find people attractive at all? I'm not asexual so I'm legitimately curious.

Why are you summoning the Devil, boy? I so don't belong in this thread. It's impossible for me to find a guy attractive without wanting to get in his pants. If I ended up on a remote island inhabited only by women (talk about nightmare scenarios even for str8 guys ), I'd probably become "situationally hetero" in 2 days. If the sexual abuse I went through as a young boy had made me asexual instead of hypersexual, which definitely could have happened, I think I'd be a raging alcoholic, a heroin addict or long dead.

It can be a lifestyle choice to bypass all of the negative issues associated with human sexuality (overpopulation, predatory behaviours, exploitation, divorce settlements, disease transmission, etc.)

I don't think celibacy/sexual abstinence = asexuality

@AverageFanEnjoyer Was your partner asexual too? You said that the last time you felt true happiness was when you spent the fist night with him. You don't have to answer, of course

 

[Insomniac]

I went from being heterosexual to asexual to feeling disgust towards sex in general. I no longer want anyone to touch me and I feel constantly insecure and terrified of being sexually objectified. I think it's a mental illness at this point, in my case at least.

It has everything to do with my father and my intake of anxiety medication I think.

But I never felt like having sex with anyone in the first place. It's weird. I think it's because I had social anxiety and also because people I was attracted to also scared the shit out of me.

 

[TheHatedOne]

Why are you summoning the Devil, boy? I so don't belong in this thread. It's impossible for me to find a guy attractive without wanting to get in his pants. If I ended up on a remote island inhabited only by women (talk about nightmare scenarios even for str8 guys ), I'd probably become "situationally hetero" in 2 days. If the sexual abuse I went through as a young boy had made me asexual instead of hypersexual, which definitely could have happened, I think I'd be a raging alcoholic, a heroin addict or long dead.

I don't think celibacy/sexual abstinence = asexuality

@AverageFanEnjoyer Was your partner asexual too? You said that the last time you felt true happiness was when you spent the fist night with him. You don't have to answer, of course

First night with him where we gave affection to each other. He isn't asexual but he understands me.

 

[motel rooms]

First night with him where we gave affection to each other. He isn't asexual but he understands me.

You say you're repulsed by sex. You're obviously not aromantic. Does kissing & hugging repulse you too?

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I like sex only occasionally and prefer to go solo if you catch my drift. The only exception is when I am with someone new and then I want the validation and physicality. But it grows old for me so quickly, usually after a month or two. Like if I'm in a long term relationship I probably have sex 5 times a year if that. I'm like an in-between asexual.

 

[motel rooms]

I like sex only occasionally and prefer to go solo if you catch my drift. The only exception is when I am with someone new and then I want the validation and physicality. But it grows old for me so quickly, usually after a month or two. Like if I'm in a long term relationship I probably have sex 5 times a year if that. I'm like an in-between asexual.

Didn't you say you were a once-a-day guy when it cums to fapping? How long are your sessions? Maybe you're a solosexual. That's what we're supposed to call chronic wankers these days

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

Didn't you say you were a once-a-day guy when it cums to fapping? How long are your sessions? Maybe you're a solosexual. That's what we're supposed to call chronic wankers these days

Exactly right. Oh man sometimes I edge for hours. Definitely a chronic wanker. Solosexual is too woke for me. And you? Do you still choke the chicken even with a bf?

 

[TheHatedOne]

You say you're repulsed by sex. You're obviously not aromantic. Does kissing & hugging repulse you too?

Aromantic means not experiencing romantic attraction to anyone, that's not my case (unfortunately). Kissing and hugging obviously don't repulse me, in fact I love these. I'd take a hug or a cuddling session anytime.

 

[Shadowplay]

Aromantic means not experiencing romantic attraction to anyone, that's not my case (unfortunately). Kissing and hugging obviously don't repulse me, in fact I love these. I'd take a hug or a cuddling session anytime.

Pre-COVID here in Melbourne, Australia we had cuddle parties. They are explicitly non-sexual. It reminds me I might look into them again as we are coming out of lockdown, but unfortunately I deleted my Facebook where I found out about them. I never attended so not exactly sure how they work. They might have them near you (I have no idea in the world where you live).

 

[TheHatedOne]

Pre-COVID here in Melbourne, Australia we had cuddle parties. They are explicitly non-sexual. It reminds me I might look into them again as we are coming out of lockdown, but unfortunately I deleted my Facebook where I found out about them. I never attended so not exactly sure how they work. They might have them near you (I have no idea in the world where you live).

I live in Eastern Europe and never heard of such thing around here :D

 

[motel rooms]

Exactly right. Oh man sometimes I edge for hours. Definitely a chronic wanker. Solosexual is too woke for me. And you? Do you still choke the chicken even with a bf?

Yes. I slobber all over him every day & the sex is satisfying, but I still need to masturbate as well. It's a disorder.

 

[Shadowplay]

I live in Eastern Europe and never heard of such thing around here :D

Worth a Google. Apologies if you don't have Google in Eastern Europe. :-)

 

[miserableforever]

Anyone else who's an asexual on here?

I'm one of the sex repulsed ones, I've always been like nah to ''that stuff''. When I discovered the term asexual around 15-16 years old I became happy cause I knew I wasn't the only one who felt like this, no sexual attraction to others, and that what I felt actually had a word.

How did you find out about asexuality? Are you happy with it?

I am on and off asexual. For the most part I don't think about sex. I don't look at humans thinking anything sexual. I might find them attractive but not in a sexual way. It's weird. I'm in a relationship and we go through phases of nothing for weeks.. He doesn't mind, he's the same way as me.
Before him I was completely asexual. I had relationships and was active, but dreaded doing it.

 

[TheHatedOne]

Worth a Google. Apologies if you don't have Google in Eastern Europe. :-)

fortunately that exists at least :)

 

[Shadowplay]

fortunately that exists at least :)

We'll give it a look ya never know. I don't know a lot about this, but I am in need of intimacy.

 

[Pluto]

I don't think celibacy/sexual abstinence = asexuality

I stand corrected.

Asexuality is distinct from abstention from sexual activity and from celibacy,[7]​[8]​ which are behavioral and generally motivated by factors such as an individual's personal, social, or religious beliefs.[9]​ Sexual orientation, unlike sexual behavior, is believed to be "enduring".

Asexuality - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

 

[Shadowplay]

fortunately that exists at least :)

I just joined a cuddle site. You can find partners who do it for free, which takes some work apparently - no surprises there, or pay a professional which I plan to do. It is strictly Platonic at least according to the rules; I imagine last thing they want is the cops getting involved, or many people trying to use it for sex (obviously some will). I might give this it's own thread.

 

[motel rooms]

Aromantic means not experiencing romantic attraction to anyone, that's not my case

I know what it means, that's why I said you were obviously not aromantic...

 

[motel rooms]

@AverageFanEnjoyer Was your partner asexual too? You said that the last time you felt true happiness was when you spent the fist night with him. You don't have to answer, of course

Thank God you didn't notice this, OP! Talk about an embarrassing Freudian slip...

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

You say you're repulsed by sex. You're obviously not aromantic. Does kissing & hugging repulse you too?

I'm the opposite side of the coin from OP--aromantic but not asexual.

I'm totally romance-repulsed. Kissing, hugging, cuddling, get that shit away from me. Hate it. It disgusts me.