Mh. At the moment I am trying to absolve myself of any and all responsibility and feelings of guilt for my predicament, so I definitely see myself (and also my "perpetrators") as a victim.
The term "victim-mentality" is morally dubious, because most often the people who feel like victims
are victims or have been victimized in the past, and by proclaiming their "mentality" as the cause of their problems, rather than it being the effect of
actual victimization, one absolves one's own guilt and responsibility as a passive bystander and a part of a victimizing society/ community, of which oneself might be a profiteer in many ways.
So I don't particularly like this distinction at all. I think abuser/ victim is the correct distinction and not warrior/ victim. There really is no opposite to "warrior", except maybe "non-warrior". Most victims have to struggle and fight a lot more than the self-proclaimed "warriors" of our day and age, who are most likely either privileged conservatives or cringey keyboard warrior atheists; or simply ignorant people, gym bros and so on.
I always change my mask during the day, I always adapt to certain events and change accordingly. When I talk to my family, I behave differently than when I talk to my niece. Masks that represent your outward behaviour are continuously exchanged. But what intrinsic behaviour makes you want to change the masks to reflect your inner attitude?
I hope I understood your post correctly. What am i? Warrior or a victim? In any case, I always try to be one, because otherwise I exchange my whole mask collection with another one and I don't want to attract attention. I think i'll choose warrior.
Thanks for the post, It gave me the possibility of a introspective approach.
Wearing different "masks" in different social situations is pretty normal tbh.
You also seem to confuse reality with fantasy, in that you don't look at what has actually happened to you, i.e. have you been victimized/ abused or not?, but rather how you like to see and present yourself to others and to yourself. How you like to imagine yourself has no bearing on the facts of the situation. If you have been ridiculed, excluded, physically beaten or sexually abused, etc..., you definitely have been victimized. Now that doesn't mean that you are now "a" victim or that you have to identify as such. It doesn't really matter that much how we identify ourselves anyway; we should look more to the actual circumstances of our life imho.
