Help Are you going to tell your priest that you are going to ctb when you go to confession?

[Boudika]

I want to confess before I ctb. However, I wonder if I should tell the priest. I live in Poland and here priests can't break the seal of confession even if someone confesses to them that he committed a crime, so I know he won't report me to the police. However, I'm afraid he might not give me absolution or he might want to talk to me after Mass. What do you think? Should I conceal it or take a chance and not conceal it?

 

[MyChoiceAlone]

not even catholic but i'd say that's a bad idea.

 

[Aim]

no need for confessions, the priests boss allready knows!

 

[ThisIsLife]

Do you trust him ?

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I'd not mention it and if you believe in god he knows it already you don't need another human to give you absolution.

 

[S like suicide]

Guess what?
Some years ago during a trip to lourdes I told the priest we were travelling with that i was very suicidal and he just told me that I needed tranquillity and he invited me in his church and to join the scouts...maybe he will not report you to the police but he will talk to you,try to calm you down and stuff like that...pray more,join the church group etc...
Anyway God knows what is in your heart,you maybe want some help and you fell the need to talk about you planning ctb.

 

[greebo6]

He will keep the seal of confession. It is sacrosanct. At least for catholic priests anyway.
Perhaps he might want to talk to you just out of compassion but again, he would not involve others to stop you after he had already heard your confession.
As for what he would say to you in private and about absolving you , well you might just be surprised.
I suspect the stigma about mental health and suicide is not there like it was years ago in terms of how the church reacts/thinks.
If you want to go to confession or/and talk to him just before you go , if you think it may make you feel better then what have you got to lose?
Do that one last nice thing for yourself it it gives you a sense of peace/relief and its what you'd really like.
Anyway , whatever you choose...good luck to you.

 

[isthisit?]

Yeah, just in case I'm gonna confess to my priest. The church is affiliated with the school I used to go to and I somewhat know the head of the church there.

 

[Aim]

I want to confess before I ctb. However, I wonder if I should tell the priest. I live in Poland and here priests can't break the seal of confession even if someone confesses to them that he committed a crime, so I know he won't report me to the police. However, I'm afraid he might not give me absolution or he might want to talk to me after Mass. What do you think? Should I conceal it or take a chance and not conceal it?

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I want to confess before I ctb. However, I wonder if I should tell the priest. I live in Poland and here priests can't break the seal of confession even if someone confesses to them that he committed a crime, so I know he won't report me to the police. However, I'm afraid he might not give me absolution or he might want to talk to me after Mass. What do you think? Should I conceal it or take a chance and not conceal it?

Idk this one is hard. Would be wired if he directely told you he supported you in cbt! But at the same time, who knows! Only one way to fiend out I guess! I bigger question I assume is will it affect you ? good luck

 

[DeepCD]

I'm not Catholic, but ... maybe this short film will help you decide, .

 

[rainydaysnail]

If you tell him there's a chance he won't absolve you but he may be able to give you valuable advice and it's someone to talk to who won't judge you or tell anyone. There's a chance the confession wouldn't be valid anyway if you're concealing a plan to ctb because it can be considered a mortal sin but i'm not sure.

 

[Daughter of Sorrow]

I am also Catholic. To confess is better not to confess. This is the one person that you can tell everything to, and he cannot tell a soul. The Catachesim of the Catholic Church does say that those that die by suicide, if they were suffering from a mental illness, are not automatically condemned, as it had in previous iterations for suicide. Here's the full text:

If suicide is committed with the intention of setting an example, especially to the young, it also takes on the gravity of scandal. Voluntary co-operation in suicide is contrary to the moral law. Grave psychological disturbances, anguish, or grave fear of hardship, suffering, or torture can diminish the responsibility of the one committing suicide.

Again, the confessional seal is absolute. Breaking it, even if he thinks it is saving your life does not matter in terms of consequences, which are clear: automatic excommunication. He might want to talk to you in the confessional, to try and change your mind. How you respond is your choice. In the end, if you've given a full confession, you're absolved.

I hope this helps.

 

[Life Is My Coffin]

Honestly I think that might be the best person you can possibly tell, even your own mom or dad will try to do something to get you involuntarily institutionalized if you told them such a thing. But he won't. I'd do it if you absolutely must tell someone (which I understand the need to want to tell someone, it's just most people will react in a really fucked up way if you do)

 

[Boudika]

Honestly I think that might be the best person you can possibly tell, even your own mom or dad will try to do something to get you involuntarily institutionalized if you told them such a thing. But he won't. I'd do it if you absolutely must tell someone (which I understand the need to want to tell someone, it's just most people will react in a really fucked up way if you do)

I don't want to tell anyone. I just want to confess my sins and suicide is a sin... you know, i don't want to go to hell after all :/

 

[DEATH IS FREEDOM]

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