Are teacher attachments a common trait for people like us?

[1NSPECTOR]

Out of curiosity how many of you have had teacher attachments through your life? Every school year or whatever I'd start/maintain a crush on a teacher even since ages of 8.

I'm 18 now, I hope this stays anon because it's embarassing.
I started going to an autistic support thing at my highschool and omg the help makes me feel good, but also so so SO bad, I've got a huge attachment to a
dedicated support person and it's genuinely making me break down on the last days of the holiday. Cried 'I don't wanna go' throughout this only semester after YEARS of isolation
someone likes me, we make bracelets together sometimes I have made her a lot though but she always seems to have a smile on her face when she sees them I love her so so much

It feels so cucked to say because I'm 18, shes between 28-40 so as much as I try cope she'll never see me as a long term partner, I remember on the highschool induction day even never meeting me before
she looked into my eyes with so much care it made me feel protected and still does it's weird. I used to be so much tougher than this at 16 e.g. intense exercise and self punishment like undereating SIMPLY to make going to school seem easier. It's like she's got the key to my heart It's scary feeling this vulnerable to someone I'll have to say goodbye to in the next 6 months I'm FUCKED.
I believe it's because she's pretty and still nice, when you're ugly like me it makes you fall in love, never dated, 0 friends for 3+ years, I feel bad I had to look at myself today and felt like I
violated everyone. She doesn't deserve to be so pretty and being spoken to by someone like me, let alone made bracelets. I DONT KNOW. She's just so fucking cute OMGG
1'0 height difference, cute face, slight fat deposits on lats and arms like an older woman, it feels like I'm in a romance movie whenever I speak to her she always seems to be happy to see me

I feel awful ranting about looks I guess maybe I do feel most people are superficial, bp'd unfortunately I know how dating works I believe enough to know I can't get her,

 

[martyrdom]

Who is people like us?

 

[Lady_V]

Attachment or crushing on teachers?
Both no for me. Teachers hated me, I had an issue with authority, and I was never attracted to older people as a kid.
Whatever you do don't try to go after your teacher, dude. It will probably lead to a bunch of embarrassment on your end. If you like older women, & you're of age, you have options other than your teacher.

 

[Lfsn_kivacs-rei]

I had crushes and attachments to older female teachers as a kid and teenager (I'm an adult woman). I wouldn't describe them exactly as you have, but a lot of the protective and caring natures they showed towards me were so enticing because I was so bloody depressed (even as a kid), and these teachers, for whatever reason, could tell when other adults couldn't. They looked out for me when things were terrible at home and gave me a safe place to be when the other kids didn't get it, and I didn't know how to describe it. With all those hormones going on, a lot of that "feeling understood" can translate into lust and crushes. But yeah, don't date your teachers. Teachers who date students are bad people.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I had loads of crushes on teachers. I tended to go for older guys for one and, a lot were very attractive. I tend to have an embarassing thing for authority figures too probably. I wouldn't say there was much attachment between any of us though. I was (probably fortunately) very shy. And also, very unattractive. And fortunately, I don't think they overstepped boundaries with anyone.

My attachments were/ are to female teachers. In a plutonic but I suppose also- a motherly figure way. My Mum died when I was a child. I've become long- term friends with a couple of my female teachers.

I could see myself falling for say a male therapist though. It's the sort of person I would find attractive. That combination of authority and being caring. Good really, that in the brief experience I had with therapy, it was a woman.

 

[Hojag]

Not crushes, I just happened to be the class prey everywhere I went; during early school years. Teachers usually felt bad for me and accepted me to hide from the bullies.

Things got worse by 4th grade, but teachers were my only friends at that point. Same for high school, specially when I met my math masters who shown me a direction in life: coding. Not only that, my dear old algebra teacher once caught my shoulder and said clearly:

"Hey. When I was your age, I went through something like this. I know what it's like. I really know. But see, I'm here, ain't I?"

And I know he wasn't lying, because it was like he always knew I was missing some classes for suicidal episodes. It seemed like he could read my mind, because whenever I started to zone out, he asked if I was feeling okay. He was always worried about his students and making sure to remember everyone's names...

I wrote him a letter; thanking him, wishing him strenght and peace of mind. Unfortunately, I've never seen him again, after my senior year.

I wish he could know how his words, how his kindness and wisdom changed my life. Literally, how he saved me when I missed ¾ of the year and needed backup lessons.

I had about 3 bad teachers (one that harrassed me for the whole year just because I told him lighting matches is a chemical reaction. For real), but in general... I can only thank all of them for being there for me when nobody else was. When there were classmates making fun or excluding me, my teachers got me and I felt safe.

 

[Dejected 55]

I had several attractive women teachers along the way. Many of them had unattractive personalities though... but there was one, one time... and it was during my senior year of high school and I had her class early in the day but randomly on one particular day I ended up seeing her at the end of the day when we were on our way to the parking lot. Teachers parked closer, senior students parked farther away... and we sort of ended up just by default walking together until she got to her car first. She was smart, it was a math class and I liked math... so it was more than her just being physically attractive and nice but we shared that interest as well. There's no way anything would have ever happened. But I remember having a crush a bit back then.