Are suicide letters a good idea?

[livelaughlove]

I'm writing some to close friends, family and other important people. But do you think it's better to just not write any. Like would they rather just not want to deal with me anymore and just forget? Not have anything to do with me. Or would they want a goodbye? Or like closure?

 

[exhaustedanonymous]

it depends on the person, the situation, etc.. personally, i doubt ill be writing any letters. i have too many words in my head to voice them properly.

but i mean, if you do want to write the letters and they don't care, they don't.. have to read them. you won't loose anything by writing them, besides time and some grief. maybe writing letters will even give you a better sense of closure. and if they do want closure or a goodbye, then they can read them and have them and treasure them a bit. i dont know what the people in your life are like so i cant give very specific advice but maybe this helps..,??

 

[jodes2]

They're not a bad idea but I think it's much much better to say what you have to say face to face with people so they have a chance to help and make a difference. Cutting people off and just leaving notes is kind of bad. Imo a note should just reflect that everything has already been discussed so you can just focus on saying you love them etc

 

[FuneralCry]

I would personally see writing a note as being beneficial, but I guess that it's a personal decision whether to write one or not. I think that those left behind would prefer to have some kind of farewell and/or explanation, as if they don't they would be left with unanswered questions, and a note could provide some closure.

And by the way it's a terrible idea being open with others about wanting to die through having conversations, it will likely just cause other people to interfere with suicide plans and it will definitely make things worse.

 

[releasespieces]

Actions louder than words. I have nothing to say to anyone that hasn't been said already.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

If you have never talked about it before it us better to leave something because otherwise they will always wonder. I know words can't fully capture your pain and you won't be around to further explain anything, but experience shows that something is better than nothing.

I finally put a few to paper myself.

 

[AerialBoundaries]

I'm planning on leaving a letter, or a video of some sort. I want those close to me to have closure.

I've always had difficulty reaching out. I just wish the few out there who care about me, could get inside of my head for a while, to see the demons that I deal with.

 

[Mister Skittles]

I think they are good, as they give you a chance to really reflect on what you are about to do. They can give the chance to make you reflect on your life and your loved ones and all you have achieved in life. I was once feeling very depressed and thus had the urge to write my will, however while writing it, it gave me the chance to really think about all I had done. It made me realize how much I had and how much I had to lose. It also helps prevent impulsive suicides. As taking the time to reflect deeply, can make you change your mind.

 

[outrider567]

I think you should say something

 

[stilhavinightmares]

Notes can offer closure and maybe even comfort (that's my hope at least). I don't see any reason not to leave a note unless you simply don't want to. It's a personal decision; obviously only you know the people in your life best.

 

[AcidBurn]

Whether or not to write suicide letters is a very personal decision, and it is important to consider the feelings of those who will receive them. Writing suicide letters can be a way to provide closure, express love, and apologize for any hurt caused. It can also be a way to explain why the decision was made, and to provide comfort and understanding to those who are left behind. Ultimately, it's up to you to decide if suicide letters are the best way to provide closure for your loved ones.

 

[plushjuggybandit]

i think if there wasnt a letter it would eat away at them even more. thinking about why you did it, what ur last thoughts might have been, wondering if they had a part in it etc etc. i think its better to write one to give them some peace of mind when u pass

 

[DeathToSpiesSMERSH]

I'm planning on writing a letter or series of letters to those that I loved and do love. Hoping to provide some closure and reassure them that it wasn't their fault in any way, that it's what I wanted and I had to do it.

 

[Georg]

I will just write down the reason (loneliness) and that my mother can have my savings. I see no point in writing a several pages long letter.

 

[pillow933]

I'm writing some to close friends, family and other important people. But do you think it's better to just not write any. Like would they rather just not want to deal with me anymore and just forget? Not have anything to do with me. Or would they want a goodbye? Or like closure?

I think writing a letter is immensely valuable if you care about your loved ones/friends. One thing that plagues them for years is why, and if you're able to alleviate that by providing some form of explanation in a letter then you're helping. Personally for me, I'd write several pages worth, to get all my thoughts out and to try and best illustrate as best I can my thought processes and reasoning. Of course it's easier not to, but I think my family and friends deserve better than that.

 

[sevenkarmas]

I've decided to leave a note for the cops. I will send my estranged wife an informational note: account IDs, passwords, numbers and names that she needs to collect my last paycheck, group policy life insurance information. Nothing else.

 

[DeathToSpiesSMERSH]

I've decided to leave a note for the cops. I will send my estranged wife an informational note: account IDs, passwords, numbers and names that she needs to collect my last paycheck, group policy life insurance information. Nothing else.

This is good advice, I've made sure to append my note to my sister. Thanks :)

 

[Fl4u]

"Sorry."

 

[koko]

I have written and rewritten a note many times over. I think it is a personal decision and for me I want my family to know it wasn't them and nothing they could have done. I feel guilty and try to explain my mental illness and PTSD. I also have a separate note for my wife with all passwords and key info. I want to make things easy for her as possible.

 

[AJwantsToGo]

It's up to you and the family dynamic, your relationship with your friends etc. Personally I write stuff then erase it and then just give up. I think a tape works better for me.

 

[m1dN_ight]

I've always figured I wouldn't leave a note. It always seemed strange to me that people will call into question as to whether or not it's a suicide if there's no note. With everything left unsaid, I kind of like the mystery; leaving it to others to fill in the gaps. Feels a little vindictive in a way, but that's not my intention; I don't want people to suffer more than they have to.

I do have my music though