Anyone here also trapped with shit family?

[Water-Lily]

Even if you have a theoretical way out, do you feel trapped where you are? Surrounded by abuse (direct/indirect) and in a home you can't feel safe in?

I plan to work next month and use it as a push to get my masters. And coupled with me now officially having my drivers license, I am making those steps

I just can't help but feel jealous of those who are on their own or are thriving better

And before anyone says it because I know at least one person will, no I don't have any friends or anyone I can move in with. And I don't want to try my chance with any roomate apps or whatever

 

[imissmykitten]

i envy people who were able to move out. it feels suffocating being in there

 

[CTB Dream]

Yea v awful famly make worse no able escp all abuse even injury damage all awfl, vry trap know how feel

 

[unrest]

ehhh. its pretty difficult because the way they behave is out of my control. so sitting with that and constantly being hyper aware of how much they mess up, but thats how they grew up so they see nothing wrong with it, is very hurtful.

 

[ngossia]

everynight my mother wails that she got stuck with my father who is a POS. they fight everyday. this has been happening ever since grade 3. fyi i am in the 2nd semester in the uni now. Our rooms are small and walls not so sound proof so it is extra painful. I feel bad for my mother a lot.

 

[lotus11]

Yes, I am also in this situation right now, same as you trying to use it as a step to get a degree but seeing as I want to die and don't have anything to live for...don't really have a great deal of motivation for getting a degree

 

[Water-Lily]

everynight my mother wails that she got stuck with my father who is a POS. they fight everyday. this has been happening ever since grade 3. fyi i am in the 2nd semester in the uni now. Our rooms are small and walls not so sound proof so it is extra painful. I feel bad for my mother a lot.

even so, I feel at some point you make a choice to stay in certain situations. Like, I dont know your moms circumstances but at the end of the day she made a choice to stay even if that choice was rooted in fear. And I get leaving toxic relationships is never easy (especially when kids are involved) but the children always suffer

My dad was also "too scared" to leave but was a willing enabler who didn't protect all the same. He's just as guilty. Enabler parents who stay should not be let off the hook. Your mother staying is leaving you suffering. You can feel bad for her, but don't let it distract from you taking care of you

I really hope you can escape

 

[ngossia]

even so, I feel at some point you make a choice to stay in certain situations. Like, I dont know your moms circumstances but at the end of the day she made a choice to stay even if that choice was rooted in fear. And I get leaving toxic relationships is never easy (especially when kids are involved) but the children always suffer

My dad was also "too scared" to leave but was a willing enabler who didn't protect all the same. He's just as guilty. Enabler parents who stay should not be let off the hook. Your mother staying is leaving you suffering. You can feel bad for her, but don't let it distract from you taking care of you

I really hope you can escape

The situation is so muddled i dont even know sometimes am i living with the same two person (my parents) or are they multiple different persons under the same skin. Sometimes the fight is ugly where my mom breaks down and threatens to divorce (but doesnt pursue it) and other times i see mom cuddling with my dad at night. This has been happening since 3rd grade and now i am in the second semester at uni. I am immune to it. But yes i dont let it distract from me taking care of them.

Only hope of me escaping this , is moving out for my grad school as there are less grad schools for my subject in my state and the good ones in my state anyways have a low acceptance rate so moving out of the state remains my only choice. I will see about that later and currently focus on my grades and prep for entraces. Thank you for replying :)

 

[Cássius]

it sucks, my dad wants to throw me out of the house soon, I have nowhere to go if that happens.
I've always liked people who differ from stereotypes or who have something different, "alternative" people I would say, people who dress and think differently, etc.
But my father doesn't like it, for him they are all "faggots", and that makes me sad.
I can't get the best grades in school, and there's an awful lot of pressure to do that.
And there are many other problems, which I won't post here, because they fit better in "venting""