Discussion Anyone ever tell you, its all in your head?

[Xebsora29]

I know when someone is belittling me.
I know when they're making constant remarks behind my back.
I know when they're staring, its disappointment or disgust.

"Its all in your head.."

Nah, I can tell.
People, can tell.
Especially when we know you're aware of our depression and condition.
Especially when others tell you.

People tend to blame it on the mental capacity and circumstances we're in, but nah we're not dumb.

You guys know what I mean?

 

[Deleted member 1496]

I was dancing in club. A woman comes up to me, imitates me. I thought she was dancing with me. Then she runs back to her friends, points at me, and they all laugh. My therapist's response: "You don't know if they were making fun of you. Did they actually say they were making fun of you? Read the cognitive dissonance book again."

And at the same time, he tells me I need to learn to trust myself. Geesh.


Aside: Moving to a city with new wave specific clubs was much more accepting. Even got a date with my dancing. :)

 

[Jiggers334]

I understand how you feel.

 

[Mr2005]

Yeah the issue I had with my appearance was in my head. Except it wasn't and I've spent fifteen years being treated like a crazy person.

 

[oxymoron]

I know when someone is belittling me.
I know when they're making constant remarks behind my back.
I know when they're staring, its disappointment or disgust.

"Its all in your head.."

Nah, I can tell.
People, can tell.
Especially when we know you're aware of our depression and condition.
Especially when others tell you.

People tend to blame it on the mental capacity and circumstances we're in, but nah we're not dumb.

You guys know what I mean?

Yes. My fucking friend keeps telling me.

 

[Death.]

Next time just pinch them in the face.

When they complain of any pain, just tell them "It's all in your head"

 

[sadgirl2002]

Yes and I hate it when I'm told that.

 

[faust]

Oh, yes, many people say that.
Like a ghost saying that humans do not exist - they are all in your head.
I have a friend who is constantly telling me about brain. That every problem is because we don't know how the brain works.
You know, if somebody is not able to help you, they try to make the problem invisible.
To some extent that leaves them without a responsibility to help you.
It seems to them that they did something although they did nothing.

 

[KiraLittleOwl]

All the time

 

[Shakespear's Brother]

That, and "you have too much time on your hands. If you had a job, you wouldn't be so wrapped up in your head."

Bitch, that is not how OCD works.

 

[BridgeJumper]

Same tho. 'You need college / a job / a hobby' etc and youll stop worrying and wanting to die. As if it was working.
Currently at home with an anxiety attack and none of my parents give a fuck
In your head smh. And my flu is in my lungs

 

[Sensei]

Yes and no. No one has ever said to me that it's all in my head, but I've been thinking about it a lot. I am a failure in some respects. That is a fact and it's not just something I've made up. However, I might be exaggerating my problems and I might be ignorant of ways to cope with them. I don't know and I'm not sure I'll ever find out.

 

[Death.]

Fuck all the ignorant cunt whores who fail to understand our pain simply because it is not visible.

 

[PoisonedJuliet]

I know when someone is belittling me.
I know when they're making constant remarks behind my back.
I know when they're staring, its disappointment or disgust.

"Its all in your head.."

Nah, I can tell.
People, can tell.
Especially when we know you're aware of our depression and condition.
Especially when others tell you.

People tend to blame it on the mental capacity and circumstances we're in, but nah we're not dumb.

You guys know what I mean?

This. This is what my best friend says to me all the fucking time. He says, "It's all in your head. You've just got to get over it" He says the voices I hear are all in my head. Everything is easily fixable and all in my head. That's what everyone says. I hate it. I'm so over it. It doesn't seem like it's "all in my head" when it consumes me and makes me live in a constant nightmare. I hate it when people say this. I know what you mean. I can't stand people who act like this is nothing

 

[Flash]

It's the echoes in your mind

 

[Deformationalplagio]

Yes and im depresed because of my deformed head/skull wrong choise of words they used there :')

 

[Deleted member 1465]

if somebody is not able to help you, they try to make the problem invisible.

That is indeed exactly what they do. I've started calling it out now for what it is.

 

[porfin1234]

just speaking for myself...

as much as it irritated me when people said just meditate, do hobbies, etc, your life is fine it's in your head etc etc... taking things too seriously... things aren't that bad...

They were right.. I had everything I could ask for in life but because I was so resistant to letting myself be happy, or distract myself from emotions and SI.. I just dug myself so deep that I couldn't even see a way out. I believed my thoughts and emotions so much that no one was able to get through to me. If I would've been willing to set aside my beliefs and changed my patterns slowly of thinking, I suspect I would still have intense emotions but could manage them with much healthier behaviors. And not taken things so personally so I could build better relationships. Instead I alienated people by only listening to the broken record in my head. I do honestly think I simply spent too much of my time in my head and not busy with productive things. I may not have been totally "cured" but it could've helped me out of vicious cycle sooner. Instead I created a reality more aligned with my negative self talk. I blamed it on outside circumstance, so I ran away from it, only to make matters worse when it didn't fix things.

in the past I wouldn't let myself even do things I enjoyed because I always thought I wasn't good enough, so I would stop trying. No way to progress with that attitude.
Again speaking for my situation. I don't think mental illness is simply cured with a "change in attitude". But stories we tell ourselves in our minds really do affect us. It's not enough to try once or twice to change it. It has to be a literal rewiring that takes time and effort.

 

[faust]

That is indeed exactly what they do. I've started calling it out now for what it is.

It is like : "There is no poverty and starvation, there is economic growth"