Anyone else with a bad reputation?

[ForgottenTomb]

I have not done anything to a person, but rumours have taken a life on its own, and I am now experiencing what it feels to have a negative public reputation. I remind myself that none of these people have even spoken to me or heard anything from me, but the fact that everyone hates me and that I am all alone in this world gets me sometimes. I wish people didn't care about whether I succeed or fail, but the fact that people genuinely want to see me suffer/degraded is not exactly motivating to say the least. In my case this is a real life situation, so I am eagerly dreaming about moving somewhere else where people won't recognize my face, but until I move I will have to deal with people talking behind my back and getting harassed on the streets by angry people who I don't even know the names of.

Does anyone else have a bad reputation that is affecting their quality of life? Maybe you are being bullied. Maybe your face became infamous on television or video. Maybe people accused you of things you didn't do. Maybe your own friends talk badly about you behind your back. Whatever the situation is, it would really help to know I am not the only one who's experiencing that the world is against me and no one is rooting for me.

 

[Peaceful Departure]

I have not done anything to a person, but rumours have taken a life on its own, and I am now experiencing what it feels to have a negative public reputation. I remind myself that none of these people have even spoken to me or heard anything from me, but the fact that everyone hates me and that I am all alone in this world gets me sometimes. I wish people didn't care about whether I succeed or fail, but the fact that people genuinely want to see me suffer/degraded is not exactly motivating to say the least. In my case this is a real life situation, so I am eagerly dreaming about moving somewhere else where people won't recognize my face, but until I move I will have to deal with people talking behind my back and getting harassed on the streets by angry people who I don't even know the names of.

Does anyone else have a bad reputation that is affecting their quality of life? Maybe you are being bullied. Maybe your face became infamous on television or video. Maybe people accused you of things you didn't do. Maybe your own friends talk badly about you behind your back. Whatever the situation is, it would really help to know I am not the only one who's experiencing that the world is against me and no one is rooting for me.

Super relatable! I went out of my way to support a girl i knew needed some serious help. Within a month i felt trapped as if i left i was more than convinced she would kill herself. Over the next year we more or less became a couple, and i worked my ass off to try to get her stable. I was holding her hand in public (she would frequently shut down and cry). She has bpd, and ptsd so things were more than difficult. I eventually helped her get to support groups (same protocol holding her hand, introducing her, and we would leave when she was overwhelmed.)
After a year i finally felt she would survive with out me, but she had been rather abusive to me over the relationship. One of the results of this was not being able to interact with other girls, which basically turned me into a recluse. She had me controlled in many ways as i felt if i upset her she could die (bpd plus anger = disaster in this case). So i basically never stood up for myself out of fear. When i finally did stand up for myself, she somehow saw it as abuse (literally the polar opposite of what was happening.)
She then took it upon herself to tell everyone in her groups that im her abuser and she's afraid of me.
The past year has been me trying to help her understand why im not her abuser and why me raising my voice is all i can think to do when she's screaming at me. She's spent the past 8 months reassuring me that she will never speak of me in this way in more than 2 support groups in town (the compromise we came to). She pinky promised me which she's always told me is life and death for her. Well 2 weeks after we finally stopped seeing each other, i got confirmation that she's telling how horrible i am to everyone in these groups (approximately 300 people).
So now im frozen with fear, life is basically over because i was already dealing with a lot before her, and the most baffling part is i helped her, she destroyed me, and im seen as this horrible guy who abuses women in my hometown (a place she was brand new to when i found her).

 

[ForgottenTomb]

Super relatable! I went out of my way to support a girl i knew needed some serious help. Within a month i felt trapped as if i left i was more than convinced she would kill herself. Over the next year we more or less became a couple, and i worked my ass off to try to get her stable. I was holding her hand in public (she would frequently shut down and cry). She has bpd, and ptsd so things were more than difficult. I eventually helped her get to support groups (same protocol holding her hand, introducing her, and we would leave when she was overwhelmed.)
After a year i finally felt she would survive with out me, but she had been rather abusive to me over the relationship. One of the results of this was not being able to interact with other girls, which basically turned me into a recluse. She had me controlled in many ways as i felt if i upset her she could die (bpd plus anger = disaster in this case). So i basically never stood up for myself out of fear. When i finally did stand up for myself, she somehow saw it as abuse (literally the polar opposite of what was happening.)
She then took it upon herself to tell everyone in her groups that im her abuser and she's afraid of me.
The past year has been me trying to help her understand why im not her abuser and why me raising my voice is all i can think to do when she's screaming at me. She's spent the past 8 months reassuring me that she will never speak of me in this way in more than 2 support groups in town (the compromise we came to). She pinky promised me which she's always told me is life and death for her. Well 2 weeks after we finally stopped seeing each other, i got confirmation that she's telling how horrible i am to everyone in these groups (approximately 300 people).
So now im frozen with fear, life is basically over because i was already dealing with a lot before her, and the most baffling part is i helped her, she destroyed me, and im seen as this horrible guy who abuses women in my hometown (a place she was brand new to when i found her).

I'm so sorry, that sounds like a frustrating and helpless situation. I recognize this situation all too well: If you are an introverted, private person and the person you come into conflict with is a gossiping people person, you are automatically the bad guy. Regardless of what circumstances actually occurred or what party was actually harmed. That person has gained full control over the narrative just because they talked badly about you to a much bigger amount of people than you have about them. I wish people were interested in helping the victim instead of listening to who's the loudest and persecuting someone based on that.

 

[Peaceful Departure]

I'm so sorry, that sounds like a frustrating and helpless situation. I recognize this situation all too well: If you are an introverted, private person and the person you come into conflict with is a gossiping people person, you are automatically the bad guy. Regardless of what circumstances actually occurred or what party was actually harmed. That person has gained full control over the narrative just because they talked badly about you to a much bigger amount of people than you have about them. I wish people were interested in helping the victim instead of listening to who's the loudest and persecuting someone based on that.

I wouldn't say she's more of a people person than me, rather she traumatized me to an extent that fear has overtaken my ability to be myself. Combine that with her constantly playing the victim and crying, and people are quick to jump on her side. I think in this circumstance, people are also much more likely to side with the woman especially if she's saying I physically abused her (unsure if she did, but given how so much of her story is complete fabrication, I wouldn't be surprised.)
If you're up for sharing, what's your story? Feel free to dm me as well.

 

[Notwinnernotawin]

Witch here (not a completely lie now), crazy (also not a lie anymore), promiscuous, alcoholic, drugged (that's a lie), and so it goes..

 

[thereisthemist]

does infidelity count? cuz mist treat self a trash man already