Anyone else new to the adult life?

[LastNite]

Im talking about getting a career, a license, and so on. I got terrible social anxiety and very introverted. So introverted that I have never had a friend because of it.
Im thinking of getting into trades. Like as an electrician or something else that requires hard work but pays well.
I dont feel so hopeful about it though. Ive never had a job anywhere. Most of the money I made in my life I made it online.
My interests were never into hard jobs like trade jobs. I was mostly interested in computers, coding, and developing things but it's off the chart for me for a reason.

Im just curious if anyone is in the same sort of spot. I havent thought of suicide in a while I decided after my first attempt to try to give myself another chance but since then it's been very slow progress.

 

[Butterfly-death]

I'm 19 and have no idea what I'm doing. I still feel like a kid honestly. I don't even know what I want to do with my life. I don't even want to be here at all but here I am. I think a lot of young adults are struggling these days though so I would say fake it till you make it and take it one day at a time I guess

 

[K14~♡]

Fellow 19 here, tho I'm thinking of ctb, but yea I feel the same as well TvT When I talked about this to my older online friends before (22 yrs and above), they would tell me that, "Yea it's normal to not know what to do with your life at that age" But we're still expected to integrate into society immediately lol. I don't think that would change quickly, cuz even the 20+ yrs old ppl I've talked to still seemed scared of the world

 

[fallendevil]

Me, and I suck at it.

 

[CaramelAppleStars]

Hello, you're not alone! I'm 18, and despite wanting to take a gap year, my mother would not allow it. If your situation allows it, give yourself some months to a year to adjust.

Try getting a service job of sorts. I am also extremely introverted with severe anxiety, and my first job was a kitchen assistant job. I really loved it, there is minimal talking from my experience. Make a general cover letter and resume, edit the cover letter to tailor to where you're applying when needed (it's not as much work as it sounds :) )

I wish you luck in this, you're strong for giving yourself a chance!!

 

[LastNite]

Hello, you're not alone! I'm 18, and despite wanting to take a gap year, my mother would not allow it. If your situation allows it, give yourself some months to a year to adjust.

Try getting a service job of sorts. I am also extremely introverted with severe anxiety, and my first job was a kitchen assistant job. I really loved it, there is minimal talking from my experience. Make a general cover letter and resume, edit the cover letter to tailor to where you're applying when needed (it's not as much work as it sounds :) )

I wish you luck in this, you're strong for giving yourself a chance!!

Thank you for the assurance!

I'm 19 and have no idea what I'm doing. I still feel like a kid honestly. I don't even know what I want to do with my life. I don't even want to be here at all but here I am. I think a lot of young adults are struggling these days though so I would say fake it till you make it and take it one day at a time I guess

that part sucks I get what you mean. It's really fast how things move. One day youre a kid the other youre all grown up and expected to do something. It all feels so pressuring and fast. I will fake it till I make it though. Thanks and I hope things turn out good for you as well.

 

[Spite]

I'm a bit older (late 20s), but I would like to say to you OP I would highly advise against going into any kind of trade, especially if you are introverted, suffer from social anxiety, or are neurodivergent. Trade work like construction work, electrician work, anything like that, is full of toxic, ruthless, shitty people. Not only that, but they will work you like a dog. Unless you truly feel you are prepared to do all the dirty, gritty, exhausting labour, I seriously wouldn't recommend it.

I'd look into doing almost anything else. I'm curious, why is computing/coding/development off the charts for you? If you absolutely can't get into that line of work, all I can really suggest is to try and get into something that's not too intense... if you can. :/

 

[dreaming]

I'm 19, I'm incredibly suicidal though, there are things I want to do but my life is too unstable and chaotic to pursue them currently.
Depending on what happens soon I may be able to do more towards my life, but I have to rely on other people that constantly give me uncertain answers.
I wish something would change soon.

 

[LastNite]

I'm a bit older (late 20s), but I would like to say to you OP I would highly advise against going into any kind of trade, especially if you are introverted, suffer from social anxiety, or are neurodivergent. Trade work like construction work, electrician work, anything like that, is full of toxic, ruthless, shitty people. Not only that, but they will work you like a dog. Unless you truly feel you are prepared to do all the dirty, gritty, exhausting labour, I seriously wouldn't recommend it.

I'd look into doing almost anything else. I'm curious, why is computing/coding/development off the charts for you? If you absolutely can't get into that line of work, all I can really suggest is to try and get into something that's not too intense... if you can. :/

I can probably handle it. I feel like it's the only option for me and I dont got many other things that I can do. If the work requires it then I would force myself to do it even if it's not comfortable for me.

As for Computer related work, I cant do it because of two main reasons. It's too competitive & I dropped out 11th grade after I tried to kill myself. I couldnt do another year which wouldve been my final and I wouldve gotten a diploma but I decided to just settle for a GED. You know how companies who hire developers are. They look for people with a very good education like going to an ivy league. My dad makes life shit and I had too many problems going on in 11th grade. Idk how I managed to keep most of my grades 90s with additional ap classes.

I'm 19, I'm incredibly suicidal though, there are things I want to do but my life is too unstable and chaotic to pursue them currently.
Depending on what happens soon I may be able to do more towards my life, but I have to rely on other people that constantly give me uncertain answers.
I wish something would change soon.

That was me a while ago. I hope things settle down for you to pursue the things you want in life. Good luck on your journey.

 

[GremlinCan56]

I'm 19, I'm incredibly suicidal though, there are things I want to do but my life is too unstable and chaotic to pursue them currently.
Depending on what happens soon I may be able to do more towards my life, but I have to rely on other people that constantly give me uncertain answers.
I wish something would change soon.

Same my life is also too unstable and chaotic. I only turned 20 recently. I feel like the only thing I'd want for now is a situation that doesn't hurt.

 

[ScaredCutter]

im 19 ans i only have a bank and concession card, thabks to my parents help but, i feel lost on jobs, how to even get one because of havibg selective mutism and social anxiety. idk how to use a bank card, or make payments. i feel so behind and stuck.

i qanna work with cats but i may never get it. but, ill be able to do tafe but, im gonna be stuck when its done. idk how to even volunteer either

 

[themisfell]

Im talking about getting a career, a license, and so on. I got terrible social anxiety and very introverted. So introverted that I have never had a friend because of it.
Im thinking of getting into trades. Like as an electrician or something else that requires hard work but pays well.
I dont feel so hopeful about it though. Ive never had a job anywhere. Most of the money I made in my life I made it online.
My interests were never into hard jobs like trade jobs. I was mostly interested in computers, coding, and developing things but it's off the chart for me for a reason.

Im just curious if anyone is in the same sort of spot. I havent thought of suicide in a while I decided after my first attempt to try to give myself another chance but since then it's been very slow progress.

I agree with everyone else that trades are not worth it. Have you considered going to an employment agency if you live in a big enough city? One helped me land a work from home data entry job that is really cushy, but I also realize I was probably a bit lucky.

 

[LastNite]

I agree with everyone else that trades are not worth it. Have you considered going to an employment agency if you live in a big enough city? One helped me land a work from home data entry job that is really cushy, but I also realize I was probably a bit lucky.

Not really. There isnt any interest for me other than trades rn. Maybe I'll get lucky and like it who knows.

 

[ElTopo]

Im talking about getting a career, a license, and so on. I got terrible social anxiety and very introverted. So introverted that I have never had a friend because of it.
Im thinking of getting into trades. Like as an electrician or something else that requires hard work but pays well.
I dont feel so hopeful about it though. Ive never had a job anywhere. Most of the money I made in my life I made it online.
My interests were never into hard jobs like trade jobs. I was mostly interested in computers, coding, and developing things but it's off the chart for me for a reason.

Im just curious if anyone is in the same sort of spot. I havent thought of suicide in a while I decided after my first attempt to try to give myself another chance but since then it's been very slow progress.

You seem young enough, chances are getting into it will help with social anxiety, you just have to take the scary steps every time you get the chance to, I feel like that's the best way to get good.

 

[teapartyparticipant]

hey there. i'm feeling a similar hopelessness and your apprehensiveness about going into a competitive field as one with a rocky educational background resonates. honestly, even if you're able to get into a less prestigious training program initially, such as community college, employers won't give a shit. as long as you have the skills and qualifications to meet the job requirements at the end of the day, they will hire you.

i'm not super familiar with specifically computing, but as someone pursuing academia, which is also extremely competitive, prestige matters, sure. but it's mostly networking, experience, and skills. if you can start small and maybe transfer into a better program, that may be a place to begin your career. you might even save some money. also, nobody cares if you got a ged once you've gotten an undergrad degree. are you sure it's so crucial to have an ivy league degree? i reckon that for faang companies that might be necessary, but maybe you can work in smaller, less competitive positions and still enjoy your work.

 

[LastNite]

hey there. i'm feeling a similar hopelessness and your apprehensiveness about going into a competitive field as one with a rocky educational background resonates. honestly, even if you're able to get into a less prestigious training program initially, such as community college, employers won't give a shit. as long as you have the skills and qualifications to meet the job requirements at the end of the day, they will hire you.

i'm not super familiar with specifically computing, but as someone pursuing academia, which is also extremely competitive, prestige matters, sure. but it's mostly networking, experience, and skills. if you can start small and maybe transfer into a better program, that may be a place to begin your career. you might even save some money. also, nobody cares if you got a ged once you've gotten an undergrad degree. are you sure it's so crucial to have an ivy league degree? i reckon that for faang companies that might be necessary, but maybe you can work in smaller, less competitive positions and still enjoy your work.

I just don't see myself making it. I'm afraid I might give up halfway through, and I also fear being replaced. If you've ever used AI, you'll understand what I'm talking about. It's not chat gpt that you should fear. It's a different AI called Claude/Anthropic, and it's very good at coding. With the right prompt and structure, you could get it to build almost anything. Even the U.S. military wants it.

I think I'll stick with the trades and hopefully make it that way. Right now I'm more interested in becoming an electrician. A week ago I replaced an 2 prong outlet with a GFCI outlet (it cuts power if something irregular happens). It's a lot safer than the previous outlet I had, and I actually had fun doing it. I know the real job involves much more work, but I believe I can do it.
As for the pay, I honestly don't care that much. If I make enough, I just want to move out, rent a small house, and live alone. I don't want to end up like my parents, who had kids and then wonder why they can't afford to live. They brought kids into this world as an investment.