Anyone else just buy things that you don't desire?

[CoolGuy9]

i often go to the store to buy candy and stuff like that. Very often I don't even want any candy and when i'm at home, I just eat it because why not. I also buy games quite often that I don't even play. My steam library has almost 300 games and most of the games I either haven't even played of have just tried out once or twice.
Its like i'm addicted in spending money.

 

[uiop]

It's perfectly normal. Impulsive spending releases those 'feelgood' chemicals in your brain, giving you temporary happiness. I'm the same way.

 

[Kyrok]

Sometimes when I'm at my desk and not able to focus on work, I buy stuff I really don't need on Amazon. Recent examples: an extra cell phone case as a back-up since I sometimes misplace mine, an extra travel mug so I don't have to clean mine as often, an extra Bluetooth headset, etc.. I bet I waste a hundred a month, sometimes more, on frivolous purchases.

 

[intheweeds]

I'm the opposite. Spending money gives me anxiety.
I'm constantly looking for ways to save more money on bills and looking for deals on the things I do buy.

It's weird because I used to spend a lot of money on gaming too and I think my brain began to finally realize that I had a addiction and I had to consciously make a effort to not spend money on it anymore.

 

[Final Escape]

i often go to the store to buy candy and stuff like that. Very often I don't even want any candy and when i'm at home, I just eat it because why not. I also buy games quite often that I don't even play. My steam library has almost 300 games and most of the games I either haven't even played of have just tried out once or twice.
Its like i'm addicted in spending money.

You probably get a little buzz from buying new stuff and have a shopping addiction lol! If u can afford it than it's probably not going to effect u but if u can't afford it then it's a problem. It's just like any other addiction the only difference is it's a behavioral one vs substances. I became addicted to sex as a young person most likely due to sexual abuse and it is documented that kids from fatherless homes become more promiscuous because it impacts you biologically. It puts you into R selected mating strategy instead of K. K selection is more selective about breeding but R selection leans toward many offspring and low investment in your offspring. Got carried away lol!

 

[Broken]

I used to enjoy shopping, buying material things. That all becomes pointless when you destroy your future and lose hope! Now I just buy drugs to get me through the day until I get my N

It's perfectly normal. Impulsive spending releases those 'feelgood' chemicals in your brain, giving you temporary happiness. I'm the same way.

Haha I don't even get joy out of impulse spending anymore. I'm well and truly fucked! It's like my brain has registered that it's fake happiness . It really is true that money or material gain does not make you properly happy.

 

[uiop]

I used to enjoy shopping, buying material things. That all becomes pointless when you destroy your future and lose hope! Now I just buy drugs to get me through the day until I get my N

Haha I don't even get joy out of impulse spending anymore. I'm well and truly fucked! It's like my brain has registered that it's fake happiness . It really is true that money or material gain does not make you properly happy.

Fun drugs make me happy.

 

[EmotionlessWanderer]

In the past I implusively bought a shit ton of games that I barely even played or haven't touched after a couple of months.

 

[Broken]

Fun drugs make me happy.

Seems like fake happiness if you've got to use a drug. I knew drugs didn't make me happy but I never realised they could make me feel so miserable. Just my experience though.

 

[CoolGuy9]

You probably get a little buzz from buying new stuff and have a shopping addiction lol! If u can afford it than it's probably not going to effect u but if u can't afford it then it's a problem. It's just like any other addiction the only difference is it's a behavioral one vs substances. I became addicted to sex as a young person most likely due to sexual abuse and it is documented that kids from fatherless homes become more promiscuous because it impacts you biologically. It puts you into R selected mating strategy instead of K. K selection is more selective about breeding but R selection leans toward many offspring and low investment in your offspring. Got carried away lol!

The idea that some people can become addicted to sex is is so weird to an absolute virgin like me. The idea of even 1 girl wanting to have sex with me is weird and to some they can get enough for it to become an addiction. Anyway i'm not really sure if my shopping addiction is a problem. I keep getting fatter and I don't have the ability to save up any money so that's the bad. The good is that I have something very little to enjoy in my life of misery so not sure if I should even bother to fix it.

 

[Final Escape]

The idea that some people can become addicted to sex is is so weird to an absolute virgin like me. The idea of even 1 girl wanting to have sex with me is weird and to some they can get enough for it to become an addiction. Anyway i'm not really sure if my shopping addiction is a problem. I keep getting fatter and I don't have the ability to save up any money so that's the bad. The good is that I have something very little to enjoy in my life of misery so not sure if I should even bother to fix it.

Well there's a difference in the value of young men and young women. It's more common for young men to start out not being desirable to the opposite sex because guys are born biologically poor and girls are the most valuable when young biologically. Most girls can easily find sex when young because eggs are more valuable then sperm biologically. So basically girls start out high value and gradually lose it but guys gain value as they gain skills and resources. Under the current system most women are interested in the top 20% of attractive men which makes it tougher for guys not as high status in looks or money.