Anyone Else Feel Like They Have Nothing In Common With Anyone IRL?

[Anonymoususer1234]

I feel like my mindset, ethics and general life experience has been so different from everyone else. I think nobody can know or understand me. The only person I have stuff in common with is one of my siblings because we grew up together.

I know it's egotistical to think I'm so special but I honestly do feel that way. Nobody I meet seems to understand me. Likewise, I don't understand them.

It's a point of frustration.

I'm not sure how I'm supposed to change that mindset when I'm proven correct every time I speak to anyone else. I'm not sure if that mindset is even worth changing at all.

 

[i dont feel real.]

Yeah, I understand you. Much people feel like that, you are not alone in this. Wish you the best. Remember, there is a lot of people out there. There has to be someone special that can understand you. Trust me, it will be hard, very hard. You might lost hope and think they don't exist, but they probably do. It just a matter of looking harder, I trust you, I know you can make the effort. I wish you the best in anything you decide.

 

[atdusk]

Yes if we talk about friends, family and coworkers, but I've met others in support groups that share similar experiences and views.

 

[derpyderpins]

Are you offering what you want to talk about or do they moreso control the subject matter and you're waiting for something that interests you to pop up?

I recently had a very deep discussion with a friend who is normally more of my silly gaming buddy. Turns out we had some similar trauma and thoughts about existential issues. It just never came up because those are tough subjects to just dive into.

 

[untothedepths]

out the gate irl and online lmao. every friendship i make goes to shit and i legit dont know why. i know im not perfect but ig its just because im nothing.

 

[emma99]

I feel like my mindset, ethics and general life experience has been so different from everyone else. I think nobody can know or understand me. The only person I have stuff in common with is one of my siblings because we grew up together.

I know it's egotistical to think I'm so special but I honestly do feel that way. Nobody I meet seems to understand me. Likewise, I don't understand them.

It's a point of frustration.

I'm not sure how I'm supposed to change that mindset when I'm proven correct every time I speak to anyone else. I'm not sure if that mindset is even worth changing at all.

100%.
When I was younger, my mother who had terrible mental health problems.
Was and still is a religious fanatic. They type of woman who fooled herself
into never getting help because Jesus doesn't create sick children.

She was extremely abusive and neglectful behind closed doors, including, exposing me and encouraging my sibling to abuse me. The worst thing she ever did to me, which for years i could only ever refer to as the way harry potter was locked in the closet in the first movie.

She would always send me to my room. i mean i worked it out before that i must of spent at least 3/4 years locked in solitary confident throughout my whole childhood. often only ever eating a breakfast. and i used to have to listen to her and my sibling laugh whilst watching tv, - that really fucked me up.

So i was never close to them. at at age 19 she shunned me out of the family
and got my siblings on her side.

And so i had a very fucked up perception of moral values which was basically
a casket of allowing people to further abuse me throughout my adult life.

the best way i can describe it is that, she trained me to just shut off, and live in my own fantasy reality, following a narrative of why i was being abused.

It took me along time and still is to, relearn all the false narratives she thought me.
and so with time i have been able to connect with people
but again most of these people are other traumatised people.

but yea, i was an outcast for a very long time.
i had a false narrative that justified this, by condemning the rest of humanity.
and i could never see that it was actual me that was wrong
and not everyone else.


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[WinterLovesMe]

Speaking as an immigrant from Asia to Europe, I get that. Not just in terms of hobbies and things we do, but even in the hardcoded morality and underlying assumptions.

The way of life is just so different and everyone feels incredibly alien. The only solace has been with other internationals. Even in groups dedicated to things I'm interested in people still feel alien. Its strange, and lonely, but I understand you.

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

Yes I feel like i have nothing in common with anyone irl . 99% of them think life is good important valuable. i think life is bad terrible worthless meaningless . a lot of them believe in afterlives god or reincarnation. i don't believe in any god , computer simulation, afterlives , soul , magic etc. i know it's non-existence forever after Death. to me non-existence is a billion times better than living / life / existence

Nothing matters. There is no meaning to life and there is no reason to do anything. why do anything there is no reason. nothing wil matter in 150 years. or in a trillion years. what of the things they tell us are so good enjoyable important will matter in a trillion years? nothing.

many other fundamental beliefs about reality i have nothing in common with anyone anywhere.

 

[Velvet Fortress]

It feels like I have nothing in common with people because I can never connect with anyone. But I know there is nothing unique about me.

It's a contradiction I've never been able to wrap my head around. It almost feels like a curse at times.

 

[Uninfluential_Karma]

It's weird because I feel like I generally can get along with people, but as soon as I try to form a real connection, then I feel like I hit a wall. Maybe I just hope for too much or maybe no one can truly be that close to me. Just whenever I see other people together, I always long for the connection they seem to have.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I do. I have nothing in common with most people irl. Most people irl have dreams, hobbies, passions, goals, aspirations, motivation, determination, happiness, desire to survive for as long as possible, contentment (just barely though) etc etc but I have none of that. Most people can't understand me and I can't understand them. We're just on different wavelengths. If normies tried to understand me, they would just call me mentally ill and try to rewire my views with meds and/or involuntary hospitalisation. People are so oversocialised to where they cannot consider my views with an open mind. Similarly, I can't understand their views either and why they love life. What even is there to love about life that outweighs the suffering, pain and wage slavery that everybody has to go through?

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I think the way my interests and fixations have coalesced are rather atypical. Plenty of people love Pokémon for example but no one I know engages with it the exact way that I have. They don't like all the same games or songs or even the same characters.

With franchises like Sonic, I didn't even grow up with it. I only started liking it because I watched the Game Grumps play Sonic 06 and thought "wow I wonder what better sonic games are like?" Then I played Colors and Generations and they were really great. My experience doesn't seem to be one other fans have. Most new fans of Sonic are too young and only grew up watching the movie or something.

 

[etherealspring]

I think the way my interests and fixations have coalesced are rather atypical. Plenty of people love Pokémon for example but no one I know engages with it the exact way that I have. They don't like all the same games or songs or even the same characters.

With franchises like Sonic, I didn't even grow up with it. I only started liking it because I watched the Game Grumps play Sonic 06 and thought "wow I wonder what better sonic games are like?" Then I played Colors and Generations and they were really great. My experience doesn't seem to be one other fans have. Most new fans of Sonic are too young and only grew up watching the movie or something.

i relate to this actually tho in my case its bc i have a tendency to overly obsess over my interests

 

[archiveofpain]

Yeah, and it's incredibely frustrating, I feel incredibly distant from others and disconnected and even if I try to force myself past this barrier with people it doesn't work. I want to have someone who cares and who actually gets me, and none of the people in my life do but you get used to it at some point

 

[alltoomuch2]

YES!

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

i relate to this actually tho in my case its bc i have a tendency to overly obsess over my interests

So do I. I just never obsess in the way other obsessive people do. Only enough to make it clear I'm obsessed.

 

[Imagined_Euphoria]

Yes. Thats why I'm here