Anyone else feel helpline, therapy, etc., are useless?

[Life'sA6itch]

I tried "therapy" but have had bad experiences with either incompetent or self absorbed therapists and gave up after 3 tries with different therapists. One went on and on about politics and religion from the start with no provocation & another told me to pack up and move out of state in our first and only 30 min session because I was having issues with loud weed smoking neighbors whose habits made their way into my apt. That was insane "advice."

I tried one of those helplines where you talk but it doesn't really feel like they're listening or grasping the impacts of traumas put upon you by others, not anything you had a choice in. I didn't choose to have a mother who never said I love you, never said I'm proud of you and never hugged me but always beat me, threatened to beat me and/or cussed at me multiple times weekly if not daily. I never chose to be hit by a supervisor at work. I never chose that my older sister could steal what should have been my $73,333 inheritance or also my younger sister's $73,333 inheritance before we ever knew they existed.

When I called a helpline I felt I was just exposing my pains and it was like they're disconnected, maybe listening, maybe not and when the conversation was over, nothing was better, nothing was changed and I was back to what I wished never was with no palatable way out. I just don't get the point of therapy. Why do I have "work" to do when it's literally the world outside of me assaulting and insulting me?

 

[ma0]

I've been in and out of therapy twice now, and considering the fact I'm here it's pretty obvious nothing's changed.

I've also heard horror stories from helplines, so I can only imagine the shit that goes on there.

 

[donttalktome]

its useless if u have real life problems and a normal untwisted view on them
no therapist will help you with money health debts etc. so its a purely self-introspective thing for people that already have their life in order good enough to even go into therapy
if u dont fall into this category, dont bother

 

[pulleditnearlyoff]

I tried "therapy" but have had bad experiences with either incompetent or self absorbed therapists and gave up after 3 tries with different therapists. One went on and on about politics and religion from the start with no provocation & another told me to pack up and move out of state in our first and only 30 min session because I was having issues with loud weed smoking neighbors whose habits made their way into my apt. That was insane "advice."

I tried one of those helplines where you talk but it doesn't really feel like they're listening or grasping the impacts of traumas put upon you by others, not anything you had a choice in. I didn't choose to have a mother who never said I love you, never said I'm proud of you and never hugged me but always beat me, threatened to beat me and/or cussed at me multiple times weekly if not daily. I never chose to be hit by a supervisor at work. I never chose that my older sister could steal what should have been my $73,333 inheritance or also my younger sister's $73,333 inheritance before we ever knew they existed.

When I called a helpline I felt I was just exposing my pains and it was like they're disconnected, maybe listening, maybe not and when the conversation was over, nothing was better, nothing was changed and I was back to what I wished never was with no palatable way out. I just don't get the point of therapy. Why do I have "work" to do when it's literally the world outside of me assaulting and insulting me?

Ikr! It's just pathetic how bad the MHS are. Never met a psychologist/psychiatrist who helped me. They only made me feel worse most of the time. And like you said, why do we have to change, instead of the bad world and bad people?

 

[mortalityisbadass]

The process of finding a good therapist absolutely sucks ass. I've had a lot of shitty, unhelpful therapists. The good ones that I've found previously only lasted a couple months because of them changing companies, which fucked over my insurance coverage. Other ones were going on stress leave due to COVID.

I've worked with over a dozen therapists, and the way I've found good ones is to kinda vibe check them within the first session or two. Ask about how long they've worked with mentally ill people, what they're specialties are, stuff like that.

I've also found that group therapy and support groups have been helpful if you wanna vent to other people who have similar issues. Those tend to be free or low cost.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

Yeah, these things are useless to me because the issue I have with is existence itself but of course therapists, hotlines etc are doing what they do with the automatic assumption that life is beautiful, life is a gift etc. There's no use in trying to tell them that the mechanism of life itself is broken and that there is no harm in choosing to give up because there is no point to any of our existence in the first place. These people act like non existence is a harm to the beings who are dead but that's just illogical.

What would help me is getting access to nembutal or the sacro pod, not some pro life bullshit of life being valuable and that the struggle is worth it. Another thing that would help me is meeting others who acknowledge how shitty existence itself is