Anyone else don't want thier parents or relatives to attend thier burial/funeral?

[Unknown21]

I hate my parents so much, they abused me and neglected me and caused me a lot of suffering in my life. I'll write in my will that i don't want any of them to be involved in my burial.
I need to express my resentment, anger and hatred towards them. I want them to know that I am never satisfied with them, especially my parents. They have committed crimes against me and my hatred for them is beyond description/ Indescribable.

Anyone else feel the same and can relate to this?

I don't feel guilty or evil for doing that because what they did to me is enough to deserve public execution. If I could take revenge, I would take the most severe revenge I could.

They will not even be guilt tripped bc they don't care about me.

 

[prettyclam]

That's relatable. I don't want a funeral, burial, or any ceremony either purely because of my parents. I'm hoping they just cremate me then pour my ashes into the sewers or something. I'd rather that happen than for them to fake grieve at my funeral. That's not enough to express my hatred though, so my method of revenge will be calling them out in my suicide note

 

[Forever Sleep]

If I manage to hang on until my Dad goes first, I intend to pre-pay for direct cremation. In my case, it's more that I don't want people to feel obliged to travel 100's of miles for my funeral. I kind of doubt anyone would anyway so, it would be such a waste.

 

[voir2]

I do not know if that's insane but I would like to disapear without anything more.
The nearest reasonable thing would be a cremation without ceremony.

 

[Unknown21]

I do not know if that's insane but I would like to disapear without anything more.
The nearest reasonable thing would be a cremation without ceremony.

Yes I agree, I wish I could be cremated too but that is not allowed where I live unfortunately.

 

[fishlover]

i dont have a good relationship with my mom and im not close to most of my family. thinking about it, it feels awkward to imagine them at any sort of funeral of mine. i probably wouldnt exclude them outright, but to avoid everything i think i just wanna get cremated. id probably write in my will to not have a funeral but if they do anyway, its whatever at that point. as long as im cremated i probably wont care. i just dont want them to see my body in any way at all.

 

[ecniv]

I don't even want a funeral. I want to be forgotten as soon as possible after my life ends.

 

[CatLvr]

The only person who cares about me at all is my son. I'd be perfectly happy if they just tossed me off a cliff somewhere and called it good. I certainly don't want him spending money on me after I'm gone. I'd rather he and his family take a nice vacation with that money.

 

[Dusk till dawn]

No, i would rather be left alone to rot somewhere else, preferably in a place inaccessible to everyone

 

[hereornot]

Here where I live, it is possible to leave a registered letter with last wishes (and smaller payments), which I will use to pay the funeral and burial costs, without a wake.

Because if there was, it would be stated in the letter that my family members would not be able to participate.

 

[angelfeather]

I also wouldn't want my mother to attend my funeral (although want a direct cremation) She and my father are the cause of my mental health struggles through abuse and doesn't even acknowledge it. My father is already dead and so she would not be welcome.

 

[Yume Nikki]

I don't want a funeral, but I can't control if my family chooses to have one for me since they were raised as Catholics. I do hold resentment towards my mom for staying with my alcoholic abusive father though, so it's a complicated situation.

The people I would most definitely not want to attend is anyone from highschool due to the trauma it has inflicted on me, I had a horrid group of stalkers who tried finding all of my socials to continue to harass me after a dispute. They were a shitty awful friend group that even tried to follow me home one day after I left the train. I also had a bunch of rumors spread about me being the weird girl for just being quiet. I don't want to remember those years and I could care less if they grew or changed.

 

[outrider567]

No funeral, as per my instructions in my CTB notes

 

[JustHere1]

My CTB declaration upon paper is no funeral, no wake or celebration, no headstone. Cremate me and my late bearded dragon (my heart, my love, I had her for 12 years before she passed from kidney failure) - mixing our ashes, and spreading them in a forest by the lake I love. I don't want anyone publicizing my death for sympathy. My family is dead to me, but I cherish my brother. I will not be reconnecting with any but him (if he chooses) when they pass on as well. But for here, nobody cares to check in more than a text. My house is empty except for me and mine. It will be the same in death - the care given in life was little, I will not have tears of 'loss' over my body or grave. "You only know what you have when it's gone." A heartbreaking statement, complacency. I will not be here for them, I will be here for me. Just my personal wishes.

 

[Malfunction]

I don't want a funeral, obituary, nothing. Anyone I want to make aware will know.

 

[FindingVeritas]

Gosh I already know my mother will be a nightmare at my internment, but it would feel wrong barring her from it since my father will be unable to attend due to his health. She isn't coming to my celebration of life if anyone chooses to hold one, there will probably only be maybe 3-4 people in attendance anyway.

I've voiced enough times that she is the primary reason I wish to be dead, but I think she's incapable of acknowledging when she gas caused pain. The hurt that she inflicted has poisoned me, but I don't want my last action to be one of bitterness. I am her youngest and my father's only biological child, I feel a sense of obligation to let them grieve

 

[dontwakemeup]

I'm so sorry you had to deal with all that. If I could give you a hug I would. It's so difficult to understand how people can do stuff like that to their kids and get away with it? You deserve justice, this world is so cruel.

I was abused also and had a terrible childhood. I prayed someone would come and save me and that day never came. I plan to leave my state for good and never look back.

I don't blame you for not wanting to them to come. Hopefully you will would be enough to not allow them to come. I'm not sire how that would work. Who would plan your funeral then? I sure hope there's a hell because a lot of people deserve to be there!