Misery99
Student
- May 12, 2020
- 162
I'm stuck with memories from a past relationship and it hurts me so much. He is now married and has a kid with his new wife. I still can't seem to get over it and regrets about all the what ifs and blaming mysef for what I didn't do right. It was a long distance relationship. He never considered me as a real girlfriend as our connection was 95% online. But since I'm a hermit and don't have a social life, it felt like a real relationship for me. He was the one who made the first move and messaged me on a dating site. Then he gave me his number and we added each other on social media. He was a medical doctor by profession. It happened in early 2018. He used to call me nicknames like baby,babe and made me feel like I was his girlfriend. He even said "I love you" to me.Whenever I got a text message from him, it made me feel delighted. I was so attracted to him. He made me feel happy to be alive. But when I feel happy it never lasts.
He was working in a foreign country and wanted to meet me when he visited my country. I had very bad social phobia and agoraphobia so I never left the house on my own. I told my mom about him and said that I want to meet him so bad. But my mom didn't let me go meet him. I cried and suffered a lot but I was ashamed to tell him that I can't come to meet him because I have mental health issues like social phobia and agoraphobia. I thought that he would think that I was a weirdo. So I didn't tell him my mental health problems and the childhood trauma from my mom's behavior of her having sex with other men behind my dad's back. He was born with a silver spoon. He was from a noble family and had everything handed to him but he worked hard to go higher in his medical career too. My life was totally the opposite to him. I feel like a total loser when compared to him. No wonder why he wanted to do nothing with me after he got to know that I was a loser.
So he got bored of our relationship and found a new girl. He said that she came after him but I'm not sure if it's true. She was a young muslim nurse and they had met at work.
But I still feel angry about how he mislead me by texting me like a girlfriend but then suddenly abandoned me after he found a new girl. He's 10+ years older than me. His new wife is even couple years younger than me. His ex wife was also a doctor and they had a son together too.But I think she divorced him because of his cheating and he got bored after she got older. So it's obvious that this guy is a total jerk but my stupid mind blames me for losing him. Why do I even care about a piece of crap like him? If he left the first woman who made him a father, then I'm a nobody to him.
But I still can't overthinking about it.
Early in this year, he had came to my country and he texted me from a new number. He messaged me like he was someone else but I was suspicious and said that I want to hear his voice. Then he revealed that it was him.He said that he wanted to meet me. But I didn't know that he was married at the time. This time I made the decision to not tell my mom and go and meet him secretly. So we met at a hotel room and he wanted to have sex without condoms.I wanted to win his love so I let him have sex with me. He kissed me on the lips and even cuddled with me after sex so I thought that he might like me more than just a friend. But I think it was all an act that he did. He promised to keep in contact with me after sex but he didn't. After I checked his social media account and I was shocked to see that his relationship status was shown as married. So he was already married when he had sex with me. He had broken marriage vows to his wife. So now I feel very angry that he used girls like me for his satisfaction and feel like getting revenge and telling the world what he did. I saw that he had blocked me some time after from his social media account probably because his new wife also uses his account. He blocked me probably because his new wife would get to know that he cheated on her if I messaged him.
I know that he's a filthy guy but I still can't stop my mind from thinking about the past with him. It sucks.
He was working in a foreign country and wanted to meet me when he visited my country. I had very bad social phobia and agoraphobia so I never left the house on my own. I told my mom about him and said that I want to meet him so bad. But my mom didn't let me go meet him. I cried and suffered a lot but I was ashamed to tell him that I can't come to meet him because I have mental health issues like social phobia and agoraphobia. I thought that he would think that I was a weirdo. So I didn't tell him my mental health problems and the childhood trauma from my mom's behavior of her having sex with other men behind my dad's back. He was born with a silver spoon. He was from a noble family and had everything handed to him but he worked hard to go higher in his medical career too. My life was totally the opposite to him. I feel like a total loser when compared to him. No wonder why he wanted to do nothing with me after he got to know that I was a loser.
So he got bored of our relationship and found a new girl. He said that she came after him but I'm not sure if it's true. She was a young muslim nurse and they had met at work.
But I still feel angry about how he mislead me by texting me like a girlfriend but then suddenly abandoned me after he found a new girl. He's 10+ years older than me. His new wife is even couple years younger than me. His ex wife was also a doctor and they had a son together too.But I think she divorced him because of his cheating and he got bored after she got older. So it's obvious that this guy is a total jerk but my stupid mind blames me for losing him. Why do I even care about a piece of crap like him? If he left the first woman who made him a father, then I'm a nobody to him.
But I still can't overthinking about it.
Early in this year, he had came to my country and he texted me from a new number. He messaged me like he was someone else but I was suspicious and said that I want to hear his voice. Then he revealed that it was him.He said that he wanted to meet me. But I didn't know that he was married at the time. This time I made the decision to not tell my mom and go and meet him secretly. So we met at a hotel room and he wanted to have sex without condoms.I wanted to win his love so I let him have sex with me. He kissed me on the lips and even cuddled with me after sex so I thought that he might like me more than just a friend. But I think it was all an act that he did. He promised to keep in contact with me after sex but he didn't. After I checked his social media account and I was shocked to see that his relationship status was shown as married. So he was already married when he had sex with me. He had broken marriage vows to his wife. So now I feel very angry that he used girls like me for his satisfaction and feel like getting revenge and telling the world what he did. I saw that he had blocked me some time after from his social media account probably because his new wife also uses his account. He blocked me probably because his new wife would get to know that he cheated on her if I messaged him.
I know that he's a filthy guy but I still can't stop my mind from thinking about the past with him. It sucks.