Discussion Anyone else actually happy as hell being single? Genuinely tho.

[Spreadingmywings]

Men and women are utter garbage to each other.


This is what happens when you love yourself so little that you make narcissistic dummies feel privileged and give them your wallet. The translation to real life dating and finding a partner will just get more brutal for the normies that actually need a person to fill some void of happiness.

 

[pilotviolin]

i cant see the embed bc of my adblocker lol but part of overcoming my romantic lonliness was that im not too keen on actively participating in the dating environment. love will come if it was meant to be, for me, maybe never, and thats okay. maybe its just online but the amount of weird aggression i see or dehumanisation isnt very encouraging.

 

[rozeske]

No, not even a little bit.

 

[AmericanMary]

I am queer & poly and have been unpartnered for abt a month. It's the only time rly I've ever been single. I. Love. It.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Realistically, I think I am better off alone. My dumbass biology gets me all dewy eyed over romantic love but I think it's likely that's mostly fairytale bullshit. I can't say I look at many real life relationships and feel envious. Couples I've been around are quite often bickering, humiliating one another or feeling insecure about the relationship and fishing for validation all the time.

I think there's so much potential to be hurt in a relationship. Doesn't really seem worth the risk. I suppose I'm still a romantic at heart but I think (thankfully,) common sense tends to win out for me in the end.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

Yeah, I am happy being single. Having a relationship is exhausting and honestly isn't even worth it. Besides, a relationship wouldn't make me not crave death (and I have experience to back this statement up with). I can't relate to the people here who are suicidal because they aren't able to get into a relationship. I think my neurotype is just far different from theirs to care about being in a relationship. Being single is far better as I can have more time to myself.

Though, regardless of whether I'm in a relationship or not, I'll want to be dead as life just isn't worth it either way. A relationship wouldn't help me from not being a slave after all

 

[Spreadingmywings]

Realistically, I think I am better off alone. My dumbass biology gets me all dewy eyed over romantic love but I think it's likely that's mostly fairytale bullshit. I can't say I look at many real life relationships and feel envious. Couples I've been around are quite often bickering, humiliating one another or feeling insecure about the relationship and fishing for validation all the time.

I think there's so much potential to be hurt in a relationship. Doesn't really seem worth the risk. I suppose I'm still a romantic at heart but I think (thankfully,) common sense tends to win out for me in the end.

"often bickering, humiliating one another" my parents still do this, it's just beyond cringe, embarrassing and immature.

 

[MHCheese454]

Men and women are utter garbage to each other.


This is what happens when you love yourself so little that you make narcissistic dummies feel privileged and give them your wallet. The translation to real life dating and finding a partner will just get more brutal for the normies that actually need a person to fill some void of happiness.

MGTOW cope.

Without a woman loving me, life is pointless. That's the reality as an inkwel.

 

[JaegerCA]

If you like anime, watch School Days lmao

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I'm not, but I'd have to actually have one first to know for sure that I wouldn't be happy in one. At least I know I'd be happier than I have been for at least a few weeks.

 

[lyfsoverrated]

Yes I have a negative view on relationships. I'm not interested in using someone or being used. Being dependent on another is a recipe for disaster in my past experiences.

 

[foreverfalling]

Not happy being single, but I know the alternative could be worse. I had a relationship and although she wasn't as direct like in OP, would do exactly the same thing low key. I felt just as lonely as when single. I wasn't with someone that was on my side, I was fighting a war to keep the relationship intact, me alone against her and all her family and all her friends and 99% of other people on her side.

I don't want to use or be used either, but that is the very nature of a relationship. So whilst I really like the idea of a standard relationship with two people being attracted to, loving each other and being together forever, I know it doesn't exist. So I'm doomed to be single and die alone.

 

[NumbItAll]

If the alternative is that, then I'd rather be single. I don't understand those games. Being rude, demanding, and confusing is not cute or attractive. People should say what they mean and be respectful. I'm still completely miserable being single though.

 

[eatantz]

Just lol at this Cope . Femboys or transgirls is where it's at blud

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I wasn't prepared for this at all (๏̯͡๏)

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Just lol at this Cope . Femboys or transgirls is where it's at blud

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Are you even allowed to post this shit on here?

 

[derpyderpins]

That's the reality as an inkwel.

Is this some type of Splatoon character?

I wasn't prepared for this at all (๏̯͡๏)

I'm very proud of my reflexes to not open it lol.

 

[ConfusedClouds]

Yes - I've never been in a relationship and don't feel I crave one. I feel enough of a burden the times I have lived in social circles with various friends. I feel safer/more comfortable bumbling along on my own. And if I did ever progress to more (pro)active ideation and actually planning anything then I could not be near others.

I also spent my 20s being 'the single friend' who always got the bitching and moaning about various partners and associated (non) dramas - which kind of put me off - noone highlights the positives so much. But then I'm also still massively awkward and feel like some sort of squirming giggling gossiping kid around relationships so probably missed seeing the positives.

 

[rayray]

Yes because you get to have a life else obsessing over them lol

 

[imissmycat]

I was really happy being single before I met my second girlfriend. Then she kinda ruined my life and I haven't gotten back on my feet since. If I could go back and stay single, I would. If I don't die I'll try to get back to that state. It was a great great time for a few months.

 

[Dark Moon]

If that's how it is then I'd rather be on my own. I'm not about to be disrespected, seen as a wallet and be with someone that hates me. I have a hard time trusting people now.

 

[astr4]

yes. so much, yes. but not because of dating culture, i just can't bring myself to trust another person lol.

speaking as someone bi there's garbage on both ends of the dating pool, i don't see a point in making it a gendered thing.

 

[Spreadingmywings]

I was really happy being single before I met my second girlfriend. Then she kinda ruined my life and I haven't gotten back on my feet since. If I could go back and stay single, I would. If I don't die I'll try to get back to that state. It was a great great time for a few months.

Whatever you do just don't get married, there's a plethora of videos on YouTube of men who've been married and saying how it literally ended their lives before they lived or why you shouldn't.

ps: as i was typing this comment my toddler brother opened the YouTube on firestick TV and this video was on my feed. Made 1 day ago too, if you read through some of the comments you'll see the kind of traps i'm talking bout

 

[danishstarlight]

i had both experiences. relationship is not worth it. it's exhausting, tiring, it takes a lot of energy and knowing how to act in certain situations. i am in one currently and it's draining, even though i enjoy these ones much more than the previous ones.

honestly, if i could, i would isolate myself from people and never interact with anyone.

 

[Spreadingmywings]

i had both experiences. relationship is not worth it. it's exhausting, tiring, it takes a lot of energy and knowing how to act in certain situations. i am in one currently and it's draining, even though i enjoy these ones much more than the previous ones.

honestly, if i could, i would isolate myself from people and never interact with anyone.

Relationships are overrated fr

 

[Iris Blue]

I feel like for me it changes here and there. For the most part I don't mind being single because I feel like there would be too much work to get into the part of a relationship where I'm completely comfortable with that person and can be myself. Sure I get jealous seeing my friends happy with their significant other and sometimes want what they have but my insecurities and antisocial personality seem to get in the way of even trying to attempt having one myself. I definitely feel like it can be a rollercoaster of thoughts and emotions when it comes to dating lol.

 

[emptyenvelopes]

Well dang, I was going to ask what's your secret but after reading the replies it seems that a lot of people are happy because they don't have that much dating experience. Does that mean those of us who have dated before are screwed? One you've loved so deeply it stirred your soul, are you just shaken up for good? Like a shaken up tub of jello that can never be put back together again?! I hope not

 

[-nobodyknows-]

No.

 

[astr4]

Well dang, I was going to ask what's your secret but after reading the replies it seems that a lot of people are happy because they don't have that much dating experience. Does that mean those of us who have dated before are screwed? One you've loved so deeply it stirred your soul, are you just shaken up for good? Like a shaken up tub of jello that can never be put back together again?! I hope not

no, i've loved before, and i hate dating LOL. i think maybe you just had positive experiences with love. for me, i did the dating thing and realized it's all transactional and not worth pursuing.

 

[emptyenvelopes]

no, i've loved before, and i hate dating LOL. i think maybe you just had positive experiences with love. for me, i did the dating thing and realized it's all transactional and not worth pursuing.

What do you mean by transactional?

 

[lamargue]

i've come to accept that i'm probably a genetic dead end. before i hold an oneiric desire for intimacy. now i've realized that laws of attraction cannot be pursued in any practical fashion, at least not without adopting conceptual dogmas to level your own sunken pride. now i just toy with the idea in my own mind