Discussion Anybody else above 30 and still live with their parents

[Painless_end]

I'm from India, and it's very common here. My problem is that I am 31 and very tired of life. I want to give up but because I live with my parents it's very hard.

There is constant pressure to keep going and do stuff. I have a maladaptive personality with diagnosed schizoid traits which makes it very difficult for me to do any job. In essence, I cannot adjust to any job in any kind of workplace. Bosses, colleagues, the actual work itself, I do not like any of it.

I want to give up and die peacefully but it's so hard.

 

[TAW122]

I'm not 30 years of age yet, but will be later this year. I lived away from parents for a while, but beginning of this year, I moved home due to the changes in my living arrangements. I'm hoping to move out so I can CTB easier, but in the interim, I'm just making peace with things, getting stuff together and sorted, letting things go, and then when time comes (when I have a chance to CTB), follow through and just CTB to end my misery.

 

[lonelyhouse]

I'm 36 and still live with my parents. I hate it.

My parents are wonderful people, don't get me wrong, but I define "success" as being self-sufficient, which I am not. It makes me want to ctb because I feel like they'd be better off without having to support my dumb ass.

 

[Grey-zone]

I "escaped" at the age of 28. Now live with gf, which is ok I guess. My sleep though the past year in my apartment has not been so good--close to awful in some cases. I've discovered that insomnia feeds suicidal urges quite well.
Here in the US living with your parents past a certain age is close to a taboo. One of many bullshit characteristics of American society. At least in India you don't stand out by virtue of living with them--this is quite normal in many other countries, except Western Europe and North America (+ Australia). But I can sympathize strongly with a lack of job skill and confidence--currently unemployed myself. In my mid 20s I began to suspect that I was not cognitively/behaviorally equipped to fend for myself in any fulfilling way in the broader world, aside from, say, janitorial work--prospects might be out there, but I wouldn't know how to even begin to pursue them. I would like to test this hypothesis and prove it wrong, but my disgust with the whole situation of existence makes me impatient to get the thing over with.

 

[disconnection]

I'm about to move back with my mum, her husband and my sister, who's 10 years younger than me. I'm 36. I had a breakdown last year, lost my job, my relationship, etc etc. I feel seriously shit about it so totally get where you're coming from. I tend to do really well at jobs for a bit then it all comes crashing down. Going to give it one more shot but then... Yeah x

 

[Theodora]

Idk I'm 19 and I kind of rely on my parents still .. I can't function on my own

 

[EGR92]

Idk I'm 19 and I kind of rely on my parents still .. I can't function on my own

You're still a baby, of course you still rely on your parents

 

[ygornimoy]

I live with my mother and sister, and I am 50. It is that bad.

I suffer from schizotypal personality disorder. In my opinion, it is a disease. Even though I am a programmer, with an electrical engineering degree, racing thoughts never let me finish any personal projects, and I have to settle for small PHP-programming jobs.

 

[Walilamdzi]

Plenty of people do.

 

[ygornimoy]

Plenty of people do.

Specially in a country like Panama, where a decent salary is like $1000, and a decent apartment costs around $700.

 

[itsallover]

I lived my own until I got sick because of doctors and lost everything. Lawyers let me down too. Im ashamed of it but its not my fault, its this fucked up society's.

 

[Walilamdzi]

It's sad to see people judging themselves because of something like that.

 

[Eren]

I am 25 years old and I still live with my mother.

 

[Maravillosa]

I am 53 and live with my mother. During my freshman year of college (before I was hospitalized for suicidal depression for some six weeks) and while I was in grad school (before I had to leave after three years because I was too depressed and suicidal to focus on my studies) I managed to live on my own, but I don't think Mom ever fully trusted me to live on my own.

 

[Dreamless Sleep]

I live with my mother and sister, and I am 50. It is that bad.

I suffer from schizotypal personality disorder. In my opinion, it is a disease. Even though I am a programmer, with an electrical engineering degree, racing thoughts never let me finish any personal projects, and I have to settle for small PHP-programming jobs.

I am 53 and live with my mother. During my freshman year of college (before I was hospitalized for suicidal depression for some six weeks) and while I was in grad school (before I had to leave after three years because I was too depressed and suicidal to focus on my studies) I managed to live on my own, but I don't think Mom ever fully trusted me to live on my own.

Totally understand and feel for you two!

I'm 50 and just moved back in with my mom 9 months ago, but I had been on my own since 18. She has stage 4 cancer and dementia so she cant live alone anymore... but if I'm being honest, since I got divorced 5 years ago I've been struggling on my own, sinking further into isolation and depression, working less and was having a hard time financially so I was probably going to have to sell my house anyway.

Now I'm living in the same bedroom I grew up in. Its depressing af. And I mean literally living in my bedroom... 24/7 because it's where I sleep, eat, watch tv and work. On my bed, with my dogs. I only leave the house to take my mom to chemo, for my Dr. appts or to the store a couple times a month. I'm sometimes amazed at myself for not ctb yet. lol

 

[Cosmiq]

I'm 30 in. the US and don't. I lived with my mom and stepdad and then my dad for a few months each in 2018. Prior to that, I'd lived alone since I was 21 in 2011. Because of the pandemic, I'm out of a job and funds will run low soon. If I weren't planning to ctb don't think I could make it past the fall if the US discontinues the extra unemployment money. I can't go back to living with either of my parents, mostly because my mental health tanked the lowest it's been since I was 20.
I know in the US it was looked down upon but think that many people don't see it like they used to. I'm also aware that many other countries and even minority groups within the US will stay with their parents until they are married or something, or leave for college.

 

[HappyMstake]

Im not 30 and I don't plan to make it to that age anyway, but I recently quit my job because of the huge amount of stress I was under because of Covid-19. I plan on ctb in a few months so I don't have to move back in with my parents, the main reason is I hate being a burden to them or anyone else, so I figured ctb is the best option for me.

 

[s3gfault]

I'm mid 20's and forced to live at home because of physical disability. I don't like it because I feel like it's stigmatized (though certainly less than it used to be) and like someone else mentioned makes me feel like a failure because I can't support myself. Plus anyone that sees me can't necessarily see anything wrong with me since my disability isn't visible so if they don't know the story they just see a young guy that lives at home and doesn't work for no apparent reason. It could definitely be a lot worse though, my parents are great people... semi-annoying to live with at my age but far from intolerable. What's intolerable is that I can't fix my physical disability or rather none of the dozens of doctors I've been to have been able to. If my next treatment fails then I'm CTBing because there's no point in continuing to live like this.

 

[moonangel18]

I'm from India, and it's very common here. My problem is that I am 31 and very tired of life. I want to give up but because I live with my parents it's very hard.

There is constant pressure to keep going and do stuff. I have a maladaptive personality with diagnosed schizoid traits which makes it very difficult for me to do any job. In essence, I cannot adjust to any job in any kind of workplace. Bosses, colleagues, the actual work itself, I do not like any of it.

I want to give up and die peacefully but it's so hard.

I am 31 and still lives with my parents. They won't let me have my own life unless I get married or something. In my country, most parents are just close-minded and believes in really close family ties. If you disobey, you're a good for nothing child and that you are selfish and ungrateful.

I can't buy my own car yet. I can't buy my own apartment. So, I don't have a choice too. I'm really tired and I want my own freedom. Something that I can't get that easily. I want to CTB so bad.

 

[grimfukis]

I'm 33 and moved back in with my parents in the fall. I stopped working at the beginning of 2019 due to depression and had some manic and psychotic episodes later that year. My parents both work and I don't do anything. I lost all my ambitions and interests when I stopped working. I just collect government assistance and continue a meaningless existence. I miss being independent but I have no motivation to pursue that all over again; I feel like that was my last chance at maintaining a decent life and it got messed up. I'm applying for part time work through an agency that provides employment for people with mental illnesses but I sincerely doubt that is going to add meaning to my life. I'm not optimistic that my situation will change anytime soon.

 

[deadgirlahsatan]

Yes. I am way over 30 and still live at home. My health is a mess so i am a useless waste of space. i can't function on my own.

 

[TheEndIsNigh31]

In the UK its not that uncommon especially with wages and how much it costs to.live on your own.

I'm 30, relationship broke down due to my BPD and I lost access to my children. Moved into a crack den as that's all I had to get a roof over my head. Then my best mate told me to move in with him so he's like a brother. I love him to pieces but seeing his kids grow up just tears me up being a dad and missing mine.
Parents abused me emotionally and ones a peado so I wouldn't move in anyway but just think how lucky you are you've got the roof over your head. Its better than homelessness. Then its just gets worse

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

Me too. I'm 27 and still live with my parents. It's one of the reasons I want to kill myself. I'm a mess.