Any other gay/bi people here?

[Please_stop]

Hi, just a curiosity.
I'm a lesbian, and although I'm at ease with my sexuality, my relationship with my family really went downhill after my coming out. And that's one of the reasons I'm here, but that's another story!

 

[Lemons]

I am bisexual
I also felt my relationship with my family took a turn when they found out. It isn't an easy thing and I'm bad at this stuff but you are not alone

 

[Alchemist]

Honestly, I think I might be bisexual, but it's hard to explore one's sexuality when you are alone.

 

[mel_laree]

I am also bisexual, or pansexual, I don't know. I haven't told my family because I know it would put them off and I wouldn't be able to handle that hurt.

 

[lost_soul83]

Hi, just a curiosity.
I'm a lesbian, and although I'm at ease with my sexuality, my relationship with my family really went downhill after my coming out. And that's one of the reasons I'm here, but that's another story!

Personally, I identify as bisexual. Welcome to the site! I'm here if you ever wanna chat.

 

[200_ponies]

Yep, I'm a lesbian as well. My sexuality is actually one of the few things in my life that I find positive and is not a force for more negativity. Of course, it wasn't always that way!

I'm sorry to hear that your relationship with your family has gone downhill after you came out. That's really tough.

 

[AhG]

Very gay.

 

[Please_stop]

Yep, I'm a lesbian as well. My sexuality is actually one of the few things in my life that I find positive and is not a force for more negativity. Of course, it wasn't always that way!

I'm sorry to hear that your relationship with your family has gone downhill after you came out. That's really tough.

If I have to be honest, it's not so horrible anymore. It's just that years of having to keep everything hidden and the entire year after coming out spent with my mother constantly shouting abuse have worsened my already fragile state of mind.
Nowadays we just don't really talk to each other about stuff. It's like a status quo we're all unhappy with, but can't find the way to change it

 

[suicidal_joe]

Hello and welcome to SS!!
I'm bi and too afraid to come out to my family cuz i know they wont accept me (at least for now), but some of my friends (and classmates) do know. When I first came out to my close friends a few years ago the way some of them treated me changed, like every skin contact (whether on purpose or not) from me is disgusting to them, but that was years ago and it's better now. I know its not the same but I hope your family will treat you better one day .

 

[Please_stop]

Hello and welcome to SS!!
I'm bi and too afraid to come out to my family cuz i know they wont accept me (at least for now), but some of my friends (and classmates) do know. When I first came out to my close friends a few years ago the way some of them treated me changed, like every skin contact (whether on purpose or not) from me is disgusting to them, but that was years ago and it's better now. I know its not the same but I hope your family will treat you better one day .

Thank you, I'm very sorry for what you've been through... My mother essentially flooded our shared bathroom with detergent when I told her, since she didn't want to catch anything from me. I hope you're ok now.
Don't worry, they do now. It's just that I've been very hurt in the past, and it has left some physical and emotional scars.

 

[phoenixx]

Im bisexual (and also trans guy) but I'm closeted and probably will never be able to come out. One of the reasons I want to ctb.

 

[suicidal_joe]

Thank you, I'm very sorry for what you've been through... My mother essentially flooded our shared bathroom with detergent when I told her, since she didn't want to catch anything from me. I hope you're ok now.
Don't worry, they do now. It's just that I've been very hurt in the past, and it has left some physical and emotional scars.

Sorry to hear about what your mother did, but hey at least its better now? I hope they said sorry. and I wish you the best

 

[muretax]

Bisexual here ‍

 

[GreyMagic]

I feel comfortable with saying I am bisexual, but probably if am honest I'm on the borderline of being a Lesbian I guess. But still really unsure about it. Its probably weird that my relationships with my ex girlfriends and boyfriends have all started with meeting them online on forums.

 

[bhav]

I'm gay and that's one of the reasons I want to ctb. I feel a ton of guilt and shame whenever I think sexual thoughts about another dude and it's so internalised I don't think it'll ever go away.

 

[Kikoo Loool]

Hi, just a curiosity.
I'm a lesbian, and although I'm at ease with my sexuality, my relationship with my family really went downhill after my coming out. And that's one of the reasons I'm here, but that's another story!

It's heartbreaking that being lesbian can cause trouble in famlial relationships

 

[Exile]

I'm gay and that's one of the reasons I want to ctb. I feel a ton of guilt and shame whenever I think sexual thoughts about another dude and it's so internalised I don't think it'll ever go away.

I completely understand internalized homophobia. I strongly believe, however, that gay sexual urges should be thoroughly celebrated and acted on as often as possible.

 

[Funkbunny]

Gay asexual. I'd rather have a good hot chocolate instead.

So sorry about the family's reaction. Such a shame that what people do in their intimate relations still brings out such idiocy.

 

[Tabbyql]

Hi i identify as bisexual, however I am starting to wonder if I'm lesbian (long story) lol. Yeah my religious "mother" didn't like it, she recently told my brother she prayed that all her children hasn't been born. I'm here if u need to talk.

 

[Please_stop]

I'm gay and that's one of the reasons I want to ctb. I feel a ton of guilt and shame whenever I think sexual thoughts about another dude and it's so internalised I don't think it'll ever go away.

I'm terribly sorry to hear that. I probably shouldn't be saying it on a forum like this, but I really wish that wouldn't be a reason for cbting... It can be hard, but there's no shame in being gay, and I hope you'll come to accept yourself.
If I may ask, have people around been harsh about it? Is it your upbringing or the country you live in?

 

[Funkbunny]

I'm gay and that's one of the reasons I want to ctb. I feel a ton of guilt and shame whenever I think sexual thoughts about another dude and it's so internalised I don't think it'll ever go away.

I don't know you, you don't know me, but you're my brother. Guilt and shame. Very powerful emotions and things I used to struggle with. Where do they come from? What is guilt or shame built on? Your thoughts, your feelings are 100% natural. Love is love and for anyone who can't compute that, well, I feel for them.

 

[Escaper Boy]

I'm gay. I only came out to 1 person which is my best friend. He was shocked and almost had heart attack when I told him. Thankfully, he didn't judge me even though he is religious. He said he accepted me and he didn't care if I was gay. That day was one of the happiest days in my life. I literally was crying (of joy) that night.

I live in very homophobic place. You can be in serious trouble here if people know you're gay. I still haven't tell my family. And I never intend to tell them because being gay is considered as "shame to the family". I don't want people to bad mouth my family because of my sexual identity (because I know people will do it). I think it's not fair for my family to suffer because of me. That's why I prefer to bury this secret with me to my grave.

Sometimes, I feel that life is so unfair. I wish I was born in more accepting country. So I can be who I am without fear or shame. I don't dislike being gay (I like it actually). I only dislike the society's stigma of it.

 

[First loss]

Straight as a pole tbh. Not that it matters considering i am a lonely retard.

 

[housecat]

I am bisexual. Aside from some name calling in school, I haven't had to go through much, mostly because I never got much of a chance to be in a homosexual relationship, and I'm currently married in a heterosexual relationship. I never bothered to tell my mother, who is the only one that would be upset/disappointed. For the most part I don't care about gender that much, but never getting the chance to be with a female has always been a bit of a sore spot for me, particularly as I often find females more physically attractive. I am grateful for what I have, but it's still a bit of a life regret, but women have never been very interested in me.

 

[bhav]

I don't know you, you don't know me, but you're my brother. Guilt and shame. Very powerful emotions and things I used to struggle with. Where do they come from? What is guilt or shame built on? Your thoughts, your feelings are 100% natural. Love is love and for anyone who can't compute that, well, I feel for them.

I live in the UK, but so I know it's not as bad as it could be. Having said that, growing up a lot of people labelled me as gay because of my mannerisms and I think when people try to label you, your immediate response is to push that label away. I internalised a lot casual homophobia growing up and even though I've never been homophobic, I think there's a difference between accepting homosexuality in society and accepting it in yourself. It's not the only reason I want to ctb, though, my life is pretty much a mess, but it is one of the reasons.

 

[Death in Sweden]

I'm a gay man which is a part of why I want to die. I'd like to have a chance to talk to other gay guys who are thinking about death.

 

[Jen Erik]

Gay, mostly (probably a 4.5 on the Kinsey scale)

 

[Exile]

Gay, mostly (probably a 4.5 on the Kinsey scale)

I'm as close to a perfect Kinsey 6 as you can get.

 

[favourite]

Yep, I'm a lesbian as well. My sexuality is actually one of the few things in my life that I find positive and is not a force for more negativity. Of course, it wasn't always that way!

I'm sorry to hear that your relationship with your family has gone downhill after you came out. That's really tough.

Same here. I got a lot of problems, but being gay itself isn't one (my broken relationships are another story).