am i the only one who thinks like this?

[sirenangelbby]

am i the only one who basically refuses to get into romantic relationships and sometimes even friendships based on the experiences i've had in the past? i've never had a healthy relationship and while it's partly my fault, i feel like everyone i've dated is extremely cruel in some way, which is how most people on earth are anyways. you could be dating someone for several months/years and everything could be going "perfect" and they could be giving you all these false promises about how they want to marry you and be with you forever no matter what and then one day they just no longer want you and act like you never mattered to them. i have been treated so cruelly, by my most recent ex specifically, to the point where he blatantly ignores my existence and has ghosted me for almost 3 months now. and when he did talk to me before that, he was just being really mean to me, basically saying "oh well" that he gave up on me and telling me that he's going to get with another girl and treat her better and i have to watch him do so. i also see a ton of other couples break up/get divorced after years. i know that this is "normal" but it's also heartbreaking. if i can't fully trust someone in a relationship, and every single one i've had has driven me even closer to ctb than i already was, then why get into another one?

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes- I think whether consciously or subconsciously, I haven't made real friendships in years. I just find people let you down. They move on with their own lives and have other priorities. It's hard to really trust again because you don't want to get hurt. As for romantic relationships- I know I wouldn't cope with having my heart broken- so- it seems safer not to trust it to anyone... plus I'm ugly! Lol. It's fine though. Probably better not to have the opportunity to begin with.

 

[Huntfish34]

I agree and relate to a lot of what you stated. I have also never been in a healthy relationship and I know I might be partly at fault . Maybe that's my biggest problem? I have an Extremely hard time letting go or accepting anything I see in a bad light.

Idk exactly what I do wrong.... but in my past 3 relationships it just ends with.... Nothing. No argument, fight or anything to warrant. Just basically ghosted with no word back. Like.... Wtf ? Huh ?

Yeah i agree, its " normal " and heartbreaking at the same time. Like Forever said , people will just let you down. Plain and simple, which I absolutely hate .

Thanks for sharing , helped my mind gain a bit more clarity this morning. I wish you the best in whatever may happen. Godspeed. ♥

 

[Hollowman]

You're not the only one, I've given up on any type of relationship/friendship. I'm incapable, it's one of the main reasons I'll be opting out early.