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[Jodes]

I have not had one single person tell me they dislike me here yet!
You bunch of dishonest bastards! :) Im Sorry I can seem thoughless/tactless/rude. It's why I have been outcast voluntarily, violenty or in between, my whole life. If you don't likevmevplease tell me. I think honest communication us ALWAYS the best policy.

 

[Xerxes]

Your comments are snarky. I like it.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I think it's maybe unrealistic to think someone either likes or doesn't like you on an internet forum. I mean you can enjoy someone's posts or think they're nice or whatever, but I tend to think there isn't really enough to work with as far as making a solid judgement call, whether positive or negative. I guess what I'm saying is don't sweat it so much. You seem like a totally alright dude to me, but like I said, that doesn't mean much, lol.

 

[Jodes]

I think it's maybe unrealistic to think someone either likes or doesn't like you on an internet forum. I mean you can enjoy someone's posts or think they're nice or whatever, but I tend to think there isn't really enough to work with as far as making a solid judgement call, whether positive or negative. I guess what I'm saying is don't sweat it so much. You seem like a totally alright dude to me, but like I said, that doesn't mean much, lol.

Lmao thanks that does help.

I just hear stories about how kids are driven to suicide by trolls, ...

Your comments are snarky. I like it.

That are? :-/ Thats not good thing, thanks for telling me. I try for a balance between advising, sympathizing , and humour to ease negative things others might be feeling but it usually backfires

 

[stargazer]

Sorry I posted in the wrong place,

 

[longingforrelease]

yeah, I've got one. I got accused the other day here on a thread of being a fake persona, a fraud and even a predator.First one person said it, then two more jumped in. I was fucking devastated. Mods got involved and they know now EXACTLY who I am, where I live, work, etc. I just needed someone to believe I am who I say am here. Finding this place was magical to me. It's been so helpful. I mean it's ironic, I came here looking for help with methods and other issues to help me ctb, but honestly this place proved so welcoming, affirming and non-judgemental that though I continue to take steps toward ctb (cleaning my digital devices, journaling for my daughter) I now sometimes have creeping doubts about whether I still want to die. I mean all the misery that brought me here is still with me, but since I found this place, I'm actually a little less certain about what i should or want to. But since that gang-up the other day, it just doesn't feel the same. Ive gotten some really sweet DMs from several people about it, trying to comfort me, and I'm really grateful for them. But I still don't feel like I'm the same part of this crazy-ass family I found in October. I'm lonelier now. I know I shouldn't let other people's opinions of me influence how I feel, but it happened and I just don't know how to shake it. I suppose if I were healthy enough to handle that sort of thing better I wouldn't be here.

 

[Smilla]

I have no grievances against anyone I meet on an Internet forum except those who are deceptive and predatory (few and far between thank God).

It's my enduring lack of irl connections, plus a plethora of other issues that has led me here.

I've made a couple friends online but you can't expect them to be enduring friends, especially on a forum like this where our common ground is desire to ctb and the method of communication is texts and emojis.

Be happy when you find someone you can chat with but keep expectations low.

 

[gingerplum]

yeah, I've got one. I got accused the other day here on a thread of being a fake persona, a fraud and even a predator.First one person said it, then two more jumped in. I was fucking devastated. Mods got involved and they know now EXACTLY who I am, where I live, work, etc. I just needed someone to believe I am who I say am here. Finding this place was magical to me. It's been so helpful. I mean it's ironic, I came here looking for help with methods and other issues to help me ctb, but honestly this place proved so welcoming, affirming and non-judgemental that though I continue to take steps toward ctb (cleaning my digital devices, journaling for my daughter) I now sometimes have creeping doubts about whether I still want to die. I mean all the misery that brought me here is still with me, but since I found this place, I'm actually a little less certain about what i should or want to. But since that gang-up the other day, it just doesn't feel the same. Ive gotten some really sweet DMs from several people about it, trying to comfort me, and I'm really grateful for them. But I still don't feel like I'm the same part of this crazy-ass family I found in October. I'm lonelier now. I know I shouldn't let other people's opinions of me influence how I feel, but it happened and I just don't know how to shake it. I suppose if I were healthy enough to handle that sort of thing better I wouldn't be here.

Wow. That's awful, and so disappointing in such an otherwise supportive community. I have no idea what could possibly have started people piling on you like that, but I'm sorry it happened, and I hope it resulted in warnings if not outright bans.

Also, it might help to remember, there are more than a few disenfranchised, angsty kids on this forum. Literally kids. I saw a poll where there were maybe half a dozen or more age 13-18. I wonder if I was just angry teenagers.

Edit: I absolutely do not mean to suggest that all teens or teens here are mean-spirited or hateful in any way, I just wonder if maybe there was some immaturity at play.

 

[longingforrelease]

Wow. That's awful, and so disappointing in such an otherwise supportive community. I have no idea what could possibly have started people piling on you like that, but I'm sorry it happened, and I hope it resulted in warnings if not outright bans.

Also, it might help to remember, there are more than a few disenfranchised, angsty kids on this forum. Literally kids. I saw a poll where there were maybe half a dozen or more age 13-18. I wonder if I was just angry teenagers.

Edit: I absolutely do not mean to suggest that all teens or teens here are mean-spirited or hateful in any way, I just wonder if maybe there was some immaturity at play.

Hi gingerplum,
Thank you for your reply. I really appreciate it. I've been thinking about this a lot since it happened and even had an exchange with a mod. One thing I need to recognize is that some of the issues I raise in my story are sensitive. The thing I have appreciated most about this place is that I have felt uniquely free here to open up about things that I've been unable to discus anywhere, or with anyone, else. But I need to remain aware that my story involves issues that are sensitive and I need to respect that. In light of that, I take well the moderator's advice to not send someone a PM about an issue as sensitive as the issue I was engaged in, without first asking permission to do so in the public thread. I'll heed that advice from now on.

As for the presence of really young people among us, I hadn't actually thought about that but I think you're right that it's an important issue. In fact, that only makes it more important for me to be aware of the sensitive nature of certain parts of my story. It's sad, but you're right that there are literally kids here. So listen, I just want to say thank you for taking the time to reply. I really appreciate.
Peace to you.
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