Discussion Afraid to DIE VS. Afraid to LIVE: Which one will win?

[Crushed_Innocence]

I refuse to stay here and "endure" pointless suffering simply because I am too afraid to die. I have discovered that part of me that is afriad to live: The suffering, dissapointment, uncertainty, cruelty of the nature of humans, the system of constantly fighting against entropy, emotional despair, mental illness, despair, lonliness, GRIEF, rejection, emptiness... just to name a few..... My fear of dying is being overwhelmed by what lies before me if I chose to live..... I would be choosing MISERY. Many argue that suicide in many cases is irrational. But how rational is it to actively choose a life of misery and suffering when there is a way available to end it?

People in my life tell me that since I can't predict the future I am unjustified to claim that I know my future is going to be bleak, they say give it a try YOU NEVER KNOW.....

I'm done with the gamble. Give me a gurantee or give me death. Since there are no gurantees in this earth realm - fuck it. I die.

 

[Thereisnothing]

I refuse to stay here and "endure" pointless suffering simply because I am too afraid to die. I have discovered that part of me that is afriad to live: The suffering, dissapointment, uncertainty, cruelty of the nature of humans, the system of constantly fighting against entropy, emotional despair, mental illness, despair, lonliness, GRIEF, rejection, emptiness... just to name a few..... My fear of dying is being overwhelmed by what lies before me if I chose to live..... I would be choosing MISERY. Many argue that suicide in many cases is irrational. But how rational is it to actively choose a life of misery and suffering when there is a way available to end it?

People in my life tell me that since I can't predict the future I am unjustified to claim that I know my future is going to be bleak, they say give it a try YOU NEVER KNOW.....

I'm done with the gamble. Give me a gurantee or give me death. Since there are no gurantees in this earth realm - fuck it. I die.

Everything you have said and expressed resonates with me, as though you were reading my mind! I am so sad that you are experiencing such turmoil as this as its horrid isn't it and yet we are so helpless to get anything to change. The whole thing about guarantees is spot on, there is no guarantees with anything in life and that is so frustrating in itself.

 

[WhyIsLife56]

Logically speaking, people should be more afraid of living. Death is nothing to be afraid of since it's waiting for you at the end of the day anyways

 

[TAW122]

Upon being born and when I was younger, I suppose I was more "fearful of death" partially due to social conditioning, the survival instinct, and of course, lacking deep understanding and acceptance of the inevitable (then again at that time I was still very young and naive - like elementary school age). It wasn't until I was about a teenager did my views start to change. As I gotten older, I was more "afraid to live" due to the pain and suffering that awaited me, seeing people go through hospice, in nursing homes, and more. I rationally thought to myself: "I'd rather go than to live like that." Since then, I've always considered that I don't plan to live a long life and that if life is mostly suffering, then I will check out than to stick around for the rare possibility that things "can get better". Even with better results and recoveries, they are oftenly fleeting and rather transient, then back to the same kind of suffering once more.

Whatever others choose to do, whether to live or die, it's their choice and I respect their decision even if it is to continue living until (their natural) death.

 

[Crushed_Innocence]

Everything you have said and expressed resonates with me, as though you were reading my mind! I am so sad that you are experiencing such turmoil as this as its horrid isn't it and yet we are so helpless to get anything to change. The whole thing about guarantees is spot on, there is no guarantees with anything in life and that is so frustrating in itself.

Yes, a trait called "adaptibility" is what determines ones ability to deal with the reality of uncertainty, trauma, amongs many other factors stunts or causing this trait to not fully develop - therefore one will live on a hamster wheel of mal adpated to the truths of this universe. Is hard- anything can happen at any moment.

 

[TheLastGoodbye]

I've felt this way for a while. But every day I become more and more afraid to live and less afraid to die.