about the friends you had

[luten]

Have you ever had a best friend?

Me : Yes

6: These were all long-term friendships, and best friends.


Two of them immigrated to Canada in 2010 to pursue their medical careers.

One died in 2018, we had an eighteen year friendship. I went to Thailand in 2018 for a holiday, when I came back I learned that he passed away, missed his funeral.

The other two I grew up with, but our personalities changed so much that I couldn't justify keeping these friendships. I paid the bills when we went out, yet they said bad things about me behind my back, regardless of my loyalty towards them.

There is one more which I also grew up with, after school we lost contact, but in 2007 our path crossed again. In 2011 our friendship ended. I still talk to him.

how about you ?

wolf

 

[BlankUser]

I'm sorry you lost your friendships and had to deal with your best friend's death. Do you wish to have a really close friend right now?
I had a few best friends throughout my life, but it turned out that those friendships were more important to me than to them. While we had really great times, I had to deal with some gossip and bitchiness as well. Then later our outlooks on life have changed and our paths diverged.
And I cut ties with my last best friend two years ago... We were really close. We grew up together in a very toxic and abusive environment, we were both suicidal and had to deal with similar stuff in life, so we understood each other a lot. But during the last years of our friendship she turned out to be somewhat toxic. She was gossiping behind my back, lied to me many times and I caught her in those lies. And when she needed me, I was always there for her whenever I could. If I was busy and she called me in distress I would drop everything and listen to her, try to help her. But when I needed her, she was there only when it was convenient for her it seems... And whenever I had some little successes or some good things happened (those things don't happen to me often) she tried to diminish my joy a bit. I don't know why she became like that, maybe she was never genuine, but it was a hard decision to tell her how I feel and that we need a break from each other. She got extremely offended, said something not so nice to me so I blocked her everywhere. I still miss her, she has really good qualities about her personality, but I can't deal with toxicity and being taken for granted. Maybe it's for the best.

 

[W’ren]

Yes but she didn't stick around after the first suicide attempt that landed me in a psych ward.
I'd attempted before but wasn't found- and survived. Kept quiet-
And then there was my childhood bestie who i have as a FB friend- but we are so far removed from each other.
She has almost everything i could ever want… and i am just that sick echo of what i was when i thought i was going somewhere in life so long ago-

Apparently i'm not worth standing by when the going gets rough.

That's why i like animals better than humans. No lies, no broken promises- and unconditional love. They are as you see them.

So ya, i do have a bestie- my dog. I can actually trust him.

 

[Life_and_Death]

I had 'friends' but most where fake so i ditched them all about 6yrs ago.
I had 1 bestfriend but her going behind my back with my bf was the last straw after years of her putting me last while i put her first.
I dont have as many friends now but i know the ones i do have wont fuck me over.

 

[Lmd]

I lost some close friends through the years due to my personality and my situation. I learned from it and now I have amazing and wonderful people by my side. I think that my friends are the only really good thing in my life right now.

 

[heretogethelp]

Have you ever had a best friend?

Me : Yes

6: These were all long-term friendships, and best friends.


Two of them immigrated to Canada in 2010 to pursue their medical careers.

One died in 2018, we had an eighteen year friendship. I went to Thailand in 2018 for a holiday, when I came back I learned that he passed away, missed his funeral.

The other two I grew up with, but our personalities changed so much that I couldn't justify keeping these friendships. I paid the bills when we went out, yet they said bad things about me behind my back, regardless of my loyalty towards them.

There is one more which I also grew up with, after school we lost contact, but in 2007 our path crossed again. In 2011 our friendship ended. I still talk to him.

how about you ?

wolf

I have friends but i can't be open with them about the depth of my depression. They would probably be horrified if they knew the truth about it.

 

[luten]

I'm sorry you lost your friendships and had to deal with your best friend's death. Do you wish to have a really close friend right now?
I had a few best friends throughout my life, but it turned out that those friendships were more important to me than to them. While we had really great times, I had to deal with some gossip and bitchiness as well. Then later our outlooks on life have changed and our paths diverged.
And I cut ties with my last best friend two years ago... We were really close. We grew up together in a very toxic and abusive environment, we were both suicidal and had to deal with similar stuff in life, so we understood each other a lot. But during the last years of our friendship she turned out to be somewhat toxic. She was gossiping behind my back, lied to me many times and I caught her in those lies. And when she needed me, I was always there for her whenever I could. If I was busy and she called me in distress I would drop everything and listen to her, try to help her. But when I needed her, she was there only when it was convenient for her it seems... And whenever I had some little successes or some good things happened (those things don't happen to me often) she tried to diminish my joy a bit. I don't know why she became like that, maybe she was never genuine, but it was a hard decision to tell her how I feel and that we need a break from each other. She got extremely offended, said something not so nice to me so I blocked her everywhere. I still miss her, she has really good qualities about her personality, but I can't deal with toxicity and being taken for granted. Maybe it's for the best.

I am sorry to read this.

I find that people with mental conditions should stay away from toxic people. A 2 minute interaction with a toxic person can cause a person to have a relapse, and be down for months. I stay away from my sister for this reason.

Yes, I am looking for a new best friend.

 

[whywere]

My best friend ever drown and that was the catalyst for my mental health issues. Had 3 friends on here who dumped me, and that pain is enough for me to stay without any friends. Walter

 

[BlankUser]

I find that people with mental conditions should stay away from toxic people. A 2 minute interaction with a toxic person can cause a person to have a relapse, and be down for months. I stay away from my sister for this reason.

Yes, I am looking for a new best friend.

You're absolutely right. And it's even worse when your own family member is like that.
I hope you find someone you can trust and have a genuine friendship. Good luck!

 

[logan]

My best friend ever drown and that was the catalyst for my mental health issues. Had 3 friends on here who dumped me, and that pain is enough for me to stay without any friends. Walter

That is really sad.
But no matter what happens, you should not exclude other people from your life.
People change, you change and so do your circumstances.

 

[ClownMe]

never really had a best friend I used to have "kinda" close friends before i moved towns in my early teens and I haven't seen or talked to them ever since.

 

[shy]

I was inseparable with someone from about age 5 to 9. Then my family and I moved to a neighbouring country, we still talked on the phone for about a year, it just fizzled out after that.

Made a new best friend after that, until we went to different high schools and stopped talking.

Haven't had any close friends since.

 

[luten]

You're absolutely right. And it's even worse when your own family member is like that.
I hope you find someone you can trust and have a genuine friendship. Good luck!

thank you

 

[luten]

You're absolutely right. And it's even worse when your own family member is like that.
I hope you find someone you can trust and have a genuine friendship. Good luck!

I do not have trust issues, I trust people until they show me otherwise, how about you?

update: once I fed a tiger cup, he tried to attack me after he finished his milk. I have it on video hahah. I told him that I came all the way from x to feed his tiger ass, and this is how he thanks me? I said never again!

 

[BlankUser]

I do not have trust issues, I trust people until they show me otherwise, how about you?

update: once I fed a tiger cup, he tried to attack me after he finished his milk. I have it on video hahah. I told him that I came all the way from x to feed his tiger ass, and this is how he thanks me? I said never again!

I hardly trust people, I had to deal with a lot abuse and was betrayed even by my relatives. So I think it can take me several years to fully trust someone.

Haha wild animals are unpredictable. I think dogs are the most trustworthy. Cats and felines - probably the least

 

[luten]

I hardly trust people, I had to deal with a lot abuse and was betrayed even by my relatives. So I think it can take me several years to fully trust someone.

Haha wild animals are unpredictable. I think dogs are the most trustworthy. Cats and felines - probably the least

I guess it becomes a problem when one relies on people.

I have never had this problem with Elephants, but they much smarter, they can reason. In-fact, in the wild elephants often help prey to get away, they chase away lions, because they don't like seeing other animals get killed. They even protest when the prey is already dead.

 

[Largeletters]

Right before high school, I moved schools and left behind the "friends" I had there. I had a close friend of mine of two years move across the country last summer. Some still are around, we've just drifted apart, but I still have about four close friends.

She has almost everything i could ever want… and i am just that sick echo of what i was when i thought i was going somewhere in life so long ago-

I relate. I'm sorry.

 

[FuneralCry]

I've always been pretty introverted but as a child/teenager I still had some friends. I am not in contact with any of them now though. I kinda drifted apart. I found it quite hard work really and a lot of the time I was around them, I was wishing to be alone really. I prefer animals to humans in general.

 

[BlankUser]

I guess it becomes a problem when one relies on people.

I have never had this problem with Elephants, but they much smarter, they can reason. In-fact, in the wild elephants often help prey to get away, they chase away lions, because they don't like seeing other animals get killed. They even protest when the prey is already dead.

Wow, I never knew this about elephants. I know that they are very compassionate about their own kind though and suffer a lot when they lose their baby;(

 

[luten]

I've always been pretty introverted but as a child/teenager I still had some friends. I am not in contact with any of them now though. I kinda drifted apart. I found it quite hard work really and a lot of the time I was around them, I was wishing to be alone really. I prefer animals to humans in general.

Yeah it happens, the drifting apart thing. People getting married, having children.

I am obsessed with animals since my childhood. I talk to them like they understand everything. I dont see any difference between me and an animal, we look up to the same moon, we share the same air.

Wow, I never knew this about elephants. I know that they are very compassionate about their own kind though and suffer a lot when they lose their baby;(

Elephants do take revenge. If you kill one of their own, they will kill you. If you are respectful towards them, then it is unlikely that they will harm you. They sometimes chase people, and roll their cars, because they dont like the sound of car engines.

 

[Makko]

Never had a friend in my life. It's strange, though. I was never bullied or excluded. When I think back, in all the different places I've been, there are a lot of people who wanted to be my friend. I enjoyed the attention but never felt like reciprocating any of their friendly gestures, so there was never a connection. They were just silhouettes in the fog, fading in and out. I don't understand friendship.

 

[Fehler]

I had my time where I had a group that suited me well, we were all a bunch of geeks (magic, warhammer, D & D…) but with the passage of time the group got smaller. I still have contact with some of them, but I have assumed that they meet many times and they don't tell me anything about it.
Currently they are only playmates or casual chatter, I cannot consider them friends if I no longer trust them.
Years ago I had a best friend, but over time his manipulative nature was exposed (he himself recognized it...). Eventually I stopped talking to him and he did exactly the same.