Help A little encouragement, please?

[Starlit]

I broke up with my partner recently. I don't want to go into too much detail but bottom line is, I put in so much effort and hardly any of it was reciprocated.

I've already been in a depressive funk lately and this really hasn't helped lol. Could I get some positive encouragement to try and get myself back on track? To take better care of myself and salvage my grades before the semester ends? I also really need to clean my room, lol.

I dunno, I really just want to feel like I'm worth loving, haha. A very simple thing to want, but also a very pathetic thing to want.

 

[headinspace]

Its not pathetic to want to be loved, friend.

Everyone deserves love! Breakups suck big time.. Im still slightly hung up on one that happened to me over a year ago, so I know the feeling. Its cliche and all, but with time itll get better. Give yourself time to grieve! Scream, cry, shout, beat the fuck out of your pillow, whatever tickles your pickle to release emotions you may repress. Take time to take care of yourself because you deserve to be taken care of. Even just the smallest things. Watch something you like or have been meaning to. take a hot bath and relax with some tunes! Eat some mac n cheese!! Do things that-even if just for a moment, it makes you feel good.

On the subject of school, Semesters are almost over! What better way to kickstart the warmer months than with good grades!? I'm positively sure you are gonna pass! make a to do list, knock a few assignments out every day! Start with the biggest grades first though, don't want the major stuff biting you in the ass. The room cleaning i cant give motivation for because im also very in need of a cleaning and havent found that myself haha.

Its gonna suck for a while, and youre gonna hurt. But you gotta remember that this is just a moment in an expansive life. Things come and go and unfortunately not everythings gonna be a good moment. You are so deserving of love and a good life. Hell, you got out of a relationship that doesn't sound like it was good for you, maybe thats the start of good in itself! You're a good person, and I think that youre gonna come out on top stronger than ever. Take it one day at a time, friend, and you'll soon find yourself in a better situation than you left. You are awesome. You are loved. You are important. And I know you will do good things in life!!! Hugs!!

 

[SoftWorries]

You're completely worth loving. Nature is born out of being in love with itself. You were born from nature. You were born into a world worthy of love like every child is. It's an inherent value of being a living thing. No one and nothing can take away from you your worthiness to be loved. Your worthiness for love is infinite, unmeasurable and contained inside of you.

 

[Starlit]

Its not pathetic to want to be loved, friend.

Everyone deserves love! Breakups suck big time.. Im still slightly hung up on one that happened to me over a year ago, so I know the feeling. Its cliche and all, but with time itll get better. Give yourself time to grieve! Scream, cry, shout, beat the fuck out of your pillow, whatever tickles your pickle to release emotions you may repress. Take time to take care of yourself because you deserve to be taken care of. Even just the smallest things. Watch something you like or have been meaning to. take a hot bath and relax with some tunes! Eat some mac n cheese!! Do things that-even if just for a moment, it makes you feel good.

On the subject of school, Semesters are almost over! What better way to kickstart the warmer months than with good grades!? I'm positively sure you are gonna pass! make a to do list, knock a few assignments out every day! Start with the biggest grades first though, don't want the major stuff biting you in the ass. The room cleaning i cant give motivation for because im also very in need of a cleaning and havent found that myself haha.

Its gonna suck for a while, and youre gonna hurt. But you gotta remember that this is just a moment in an expansive life. Things come and go and unfortunately not everythings gonna be a good moment. You are so deserving of love and a good life. Hell, you got out of a relationship that doesn't sound like it was good for you, maybe thats the start of good in itself! You're a good person, and I think that youre gonna come out on top stronger than ever. Take it one day at a time, friend, and you'll soon find yourself in a better situation than you left. You are awesome. You are loved. You are important. And I know you will do good things in life!!! Hugs!!

Thank you so much ;_; you seem like such a nice person..

You're completely worth loving. Nature is born out of being in love with itself. You were born from nature. You were born into a world worthy of love like every child is. It's an inherent value of being a living thing. No one and nothing can take away from you your worthiness to be loved. Your worthiness for love is infinite, unmeasurable and contained inside of you.

Thank you ;_; this is some really beautiful writing.

 

[headinspace]

Thank you so much ;_; you seem like such a nice person..

no worries!! i try to help when i can :) you got this!

 

[laceandsilk]

first of all, if no one has told you, i hope you know that you should be incredibly proud and what you did was brave and admirable. it must have been hard to break things off with someone you put so much effort into. you deserve someone who cherishes you as much as you cherish them. you are deserving of so much love, and it's not pathetic at all to want this or doubt that u deserve it. i think many people have that anxiety. i know i have it every day. you are trying your best and that's enough. as for your grades and room, take it one step at a time. maybe just tidy one section. take ten minutes to study one subject you're falling behind in. it could just be looking at notes for a bit. sometimes if i start something with a small goal i end up doing it longer than i expect to. and if im too miserable doing it, at least i only have a small goal to reach. i dont know if that helps at all ;~; and remember to be kind to yourself, especially during such an emotionally tumultuous time.

 

[msocks]

Give yourself time to grieve! Scream, cry, shout, beat the fuck out of your pillow, whatever tickles your pickle to release emotions you may repress.

I remember talking to my therapist a few years ago about anger building up inside me. I would direct it inwards and let the self hate flow instead of expressing it at all. I said I was so wound up I wanted to scream and break something.

T: So do it.
Me: What?
T: Go to a yard sale, buy some cheap stuff. Yell and smash the hell out of it.
Me:

It helped. Dude I miss her she was the best.

 

[headinspace]

I remember talking to my therapist a few years ago about anger building up inside me. I would direct it inwards and let the self hate flow instead of expressing it at all. I said I was so wound up I wanted to scream and break something.

T: So do it.
Me: What?
T: Go to a yard sale, buy some cheap stuff. Yell and smash the hell out of it.
Me:

It helped. Dude I miss her she was the best.

Im still very guilty of bottling everything up until I hit a breaking point, but smashing things was always my go to! Id get cheapo plates from the dollar store and go someplace private (theres a lot of old abandoned houses and buildings near me) and would break the fuck outta them. It felt so freeing. Sometimes Id write my feelings or thoughts or just straight gibberish on them before breaking them. Id always have a nice cry after because im an angry crier haha

Honestly may have to do this again soon, its been a minute

 

[msocks]

Im still very guilty of bottling everything up until I hit a breaking point, but smashing things was always my go to! Id get cheapo plates from the dollar store and go someplace private (theres a lot of old abandoned houses and buildings near me) and would break the fuck outta them. It felt so freeing. Sometimes Id write my feelings or thoughts or just straight gibberish on them before breaking them. Id always have a nice cry after because im an angry crier haha

Honestly may have to do this again soon, its been a minute

I think I need to do it again too. It's been years. It was very cathartic. Hell yeah Dollar Tree let's go.

I also wrote stuff on the plates. And may have burned pics of my boss's boss.

 

[paoS]

do a thing no matter how small for yourself everyday until it becomes a routine to love yourself. takes time and its not easy but very doable. you got this, sending out much love

 

[composingthefuture]

I broke up with my partner recently. I don't want to go into too much detail but bottom line is, I put in so much effort and hardly any of it was reciprocated.

I've already been in a depressive funk lately and this really hasn't helped lol. Could I get some positive encouragement to try and get myself back on track? To take better care of myself and salvage my grades before the semester ends? I also really need to clean my room, lol.

I dunno, I really just want to feel like I'm worth loving, haha. A very simple thing to want, but also a very pathetic thing to want.

this may not help you, but i hope you can find at least some comfort in my words. breakups are never easy, and it's completely understandable why he would cause you to feel that way. you deserve so much better, and im sure you have people who can support you each step of recovery. he's just one guy, there's billions more to meet and potentially get into a relationship with. healing will take a while, but it's not the end for you. you are worth loving, i can tell you're a kindhearted person who was just treated wrong. if nobody else, i platonically love you, and im sure many others out there love you too

 

[EmpathyMinded]

Wanting love is never pathetic, and a lack of receiving it doesn't mean that you deserve to be without it. The problem with the right to autonomy is that others can use theirs to reject us. The same power of choice we can use to do things that make us happy they can choose to be indifferent to us or make us miserable. It's the unavoidable yin/yang of life. But we always have the power to keep making new choices that make us happy, and they can't take that away from us. Importantly here, they can't take that way from you. Think about that. There is a power in you that not a soul can ever take. That's badass, and so are you.

I'm sorry to hear about the breakup that trigger ed this round of feelings. I can actually relate to this personally, my last relationship was exactly like you described. In my case, I broke up with her because I couldn't take it anymore, but it still hurt for the reasons you described. With a bit of time it hurt less. Longer still, it didn't hurt at all. And eventually, I was just grateful: I realized I was no longer selling my limited time alive to someone who didn't value it. I would rather give that time to someone like you, who actually needs it and can appreciate it and (hopefully) have a better day because of it. Everyone works through pain differently, but I believe you can get past that jerk and be better for it.

As for the grades issues, I know it may be daunting now, but it can't last forever. Don't let it define you. See yourself as the badass that can achieve better ones, sure, but don't think your value lies in that either. My grades were never great, but I still became the person that can be here today. If those poor grades were the cost of being able to arrive to this moment and talk to you and make you feel better, I would do it all over again.

I'm here if you need anything.