A job would fix my problems

[WitheringAway]

A job and money would make me want to live. I just want a job for my qualifications I have a degree I deserve a decent job for all the efforts I put in uni instead I'm stuck jobless not even private sector wants me I feel useless and pathetic I hate asking my mom for money she always belittle me and tells me I don't need it god fuck I just want a steady income I'm worthless af fml

 

[ARW3N]

Nothing angers me more about life than the way human beings are defined by what they do for a living. We've become commodities rather than human beings. We are forced to endlessly prove ourselves to others. It's just one more reason why I give a thumbs down to life. Needless to say, the way suicides are regarded as an "economic" loss says it all.

 

[lotus11]

I'm in the same boat, have been unemployed all year. I also have a degree from a good University. Applied to literally hundreds of things, spent hours and hours filling out those ridiculously long application forms which you never hear anything back from and can't even get a job in Tescos...its fucking bullshit.

 

[Despondent]

You do deserve a good job

It sounds to me like you really want this. I don't think you're worthless but I know that no matter what it is that I say, that doesn't always take that feeling away (trust me!). Instead of focusing on getting accepted into a private sector maybe right now, you can consider finding a part or full time job at a restaurant or grocery store. You seem so passionate about getting a good job so just hear me out. This way, you can make your own money without asking your mom for any.

I'm suggesting this because you seem clear that a job would fix everything for you (which is awesome to hear) and this could help you with feeling more independent and changing how you see yourself. While you're working and making your own money, you can always revisit looking for the job that you dream of. I think if you know that you're making your own money then maybe you would feel slightly better about this.

I know that this isn't as easy as I'm making it out to be. I'm not looking to solve what it is that you're going through because if it was that easy, I know you'd be able to do it yourself. I'm offering you advice and if there's anything that I want you to take away from this it's that there's no timeline on life. Even when all of this does make you feel sad, remind yourself that you accomplished something awesome -- you experienced university.

 

[WitheringAway]

You do deserve a good job

It sounds to me like you really want this. I don't think you're worthless but I know that no matter what it is that I say, that doesn't always take that feeling away (trust me!). Instead of focusing on getting accepted into a private sector maybe right now, you can consider finding a part or full time job at a restaurant or grocery store. You seem so passionate about getting a good job so just hear me out. This way, you can make your own money without asking your mom for any.

I'm suggesting this because you seem clear that a job would fix everything for you (which is awesome to hear) and this could help you with feeling more independent and changing how you see yourself. While you're working and making your own money, you can always revisit looking for the job that you dream of. I think if you know that you're making your own money then maybe you would feel slightly better about this.

I know that this isn't as easy as I'm making it out to be. I'm not looking to solve what it is that you're going through because if it was that easy, I know you'd be able to do it yourself. I'm offering you advice and if there's anything that I want you to take away from this it's that there's no timeline on life. Even when all of this does make you feel sad, remind yourself that you accomplished something awesome -- you experienced university.

I agree with what you said. I myself would recommend the same if I saw someone posting the same thing I posted. Unfortunately that's not a possibility for me for many reasons I'll mention some:
Im a woman living in an Islamic traditional country in the shithole Middle East. Girls working In grocery stores restaurants etc are considered a disgrace to her family and I come from a traditional family as well.
The priority goes to men when it comes to hiring employees at such places so even if I decide to just abandon my family and do it anyway chances are they're gonna pick a man over me so it's hopeless. Only hope for me is a decent job in a hospital (my major)

spent hours and hours filling out those ridiculously long application forms which you never hear anything back from

I fill out those while crying

 

[ARW3N]

I agree with what you said. I myself would recommend the same if I saw someone posting the same thing I posted. Unfortunately that's not a possibility for me for many reasons I'll mention some:
Im a woman living in an Islamic traditional country in the shithole Middle East. Girls working In grocery stores restaurants etc are considered a disgrace to her family and I come from a traditional family as well.
The priority goes to men when it comes to hiring employees at such places so even if I decide to just abandon my family and do it anyway chances are they're gonna pick a man over me so it's hopeless. Only hope for me is a decent job in a hospital (my major)

I fill out those while crying

I fully empathise with your position because I've seen the appalling way women are treated in Egypt. There are many Muslim women in Britain who work in the medical profession. In fact, many Western women also work in the medical profession because of the notion that the caring professions are more appropriate for women than men. I don't know if that idea also exists in the Middle East.

 

[WitheringAway]

I fully empathise with your position because I've seen the appalling way women are treated in Egypt. There are many Muslim women in Britain who work in the medical profession. In fact, many Western women also work in the medical profession because of the notion that the caring professions are more appropriate for women than men. I don't know if that idea also exists in the Middle East.

Actually it's the opposite in the country I'm from. Health care professions for women is also a disgrace and shame cus its a mixed environment with men. They think teaching in an all girls school is really the only thing women are good for. Fortunately for me my family isn't that close minded. But I know some girls who had great grades and wanted to major in medical professions but their families did everything they could to stop them and now they're teachers.

 

[Alucard]

Before, I thought that a job would fix my problems. In fact, it made them worse.

 

[TAW122]

While I'm not in the same boat (I was years ago), even a job let alone a cushy, well-paid job, would not be sufficient to fix my internal problems. I have personal and philosophical reasons for wanting to CTB and having a job may afford me more options, but at the end, death would be my final answer to all of my life's troubles.

 

[Brick In The Wall]

A job and money would make me want to live. I just want a job for my qualifications I have a degree I deserve a decent job for all the efforts I put in uni instead I'm stuck jobless not even private sector wants me I feel useless and pathetic I hate asking my mom for money she always belittle me and tells me I don't need it god fuck I just want a steady income I'm worthless af fml

May I ask what degree you have? The market is inundated with a young crowd that has degrees now.

Extra certs and courses can help to some extent. But most employers seek someone with experience as well as a degree.

It's sort of a catch 22 situation in where you can't get experience without a job, but also can't get a job without experience. You could try internships and networking to try to solve this problem as well.

 

[WitheringAway]

May I ask what degree you have? The market is inundated with a young crowd that has degrees now.

Extra certs and courses can help to some extent. But most employers seek someone with experience as well as a degree.

It's sort of a catch 22 situation in where you can't get experience without a job, but also can't get a job without experience. You could try internships and networking to try to solve this problem as well.

Bachelor, nursing as well as biotechnology diploma
Never worked so don't have the experience they always ask for. I have a bunch of random certificates from courses I took ranging from courses for one day to courses for 3 months etc most of them were paid for.

It's sort of a catch 22 situation in where you can't get experience without a job, but also can't get a job without experience.

That's basically where I'm stuck at.. I also completed an internship but nothing came out of it.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

I feel this to an extent. Money would solve a lot for me. A job in the other hand made me worse ..I can't emotionally handle most that involve people interaction and my back is so fuck I tried being a janitor but couldn't do it because of pain. It feels hopeless...we are trapped as wage slaves only for jobs to be automated away...there is insane unemployment right now and the guy vernments answer is "find a new job" what a load of Bs.

 

[WitheringAway]

I feel this to an extent. Money would solve a lot for me. A job in the other hand made me worse ..I can't emotionally handle most that involve people interaction and my back is so fuck I tried being a janitor but couldn't do it because of pain. It feels hopeless...we are trapped as wage slaves only for jobs to be automated away...there is insane unemployment right now and the guy vernments answer is "find a new job" what a load of Bs.

Tbh an ideal job for me would be a no human interaction job.. but that's nearly impossible. It's just too exhausting to socialize and interact with people for me. Unfortunately the career I have a degree for is basically dealing with patients which I don't think I'd have the patience for. I remembered during internship I pulled my hair a lot and was biting my nails at home from stress. I also used to dream a lot about what happened during the day which felt like I had to work too while I was asleep. VERY EXHAUSTING

 

[Worthless_nobody]

Tbh an ideal job for me would be a no human interaction job.. but that's nearly impossible. It's just too exhausting to socialize and interact with people for me. Unfortunately the career I have a degree for is basically dealing with patients which I don't think I'd have the patience for. I remembered during internship I pulled my hair a lot and was biting my nails at home from stress. I also used to dream a lot about what happened during the day which felt like I had to work too while I was asleep. VERY EXHAUSTING

My once upon a dream job was being a hairstylist.. QUICKLY dropped that one and tried focusing on no people interaction jobs after my last job in customer service drove me to insanity. Sadly my physical problem prevent me from janitor, housekeeping night stocking and covid ruined it further. :(

 

[WitheringAway]

My once upon a dream job was being a hairstylist.. QUICKLY dropped that one and tried focusing on no people interaction jobs after my last job in customer service drove me to insanity. Sadly my physical problem prevent me from janitor, housekeeping night stocking and covid ruined it further. :(

Customer service sounds like a nightmare!! I've seen shocking vids and saw how rude and violent people can get with employees. Some people just don't treat CS employees like humans it's disgusting!!!