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Forever Sleep
Earned it we have...
- May 4, 2022
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So, this is going to be a rather anti-natilist rant that honestly- doesn't really say anything new I'm afraid. I don't mean to offend those with children either. I know all our circumstances are different and I do actually understand to an extent- why my parents had me. While I wish they hadn't- I don't feel like I can blame them.
Still- it really hit me on another thread where someone was refering to all the anguish and guilt so many of us are going through- worrying about what impact our suicides would have on those left behind (ironically on our parents a lot of the time.) They made the case that- if only people thought as hard about creating life as we are about ending it...
So- while I know this isn't an easy question to answer accurately- how long do you think your parents thought about having children vs how long have you been suicidal?
For me, my parents actually always wanted children and they had trouble conceiving. In my case, I was initially lucky that they would have raised me in a loving and stable environment. Just that fate intervened and my Mum died young. They were married over a decade, so I suppose let's be generous and say they wanted children for that long too. I've been suicidal to varying degrees for 32 years. So that's 10 years of them planning to 32 years of me regretting my life.
Maybe this is all just a pointless exercise but I feel like suicide is so often seen as some impulsive act- which is 'wrong' and 'unstable' and 'mentally unhinged.' Yet birthing a child is rarely seen like that- even when it is unplanned and sadly unwanted. I suppose because birth is more natural than suicide. Still- haven't we come further than that?!! We're THINKING animals afterall. Doesn't quality of life matter?!!
I honestly don't know where I'm going with this. I don't think everyone who births a child is wrong or that children who come from very difficult backgrounds will certainly end up suicidal.
Still, I guess it's just my frustration that life- literally any life is seen as good and rational whereas wishing to end it- even after decades of deliberation is seen as crazy. I suppose because once the birth has happened- you have a living being- who's rights ought to be respected and valued and there's always the chance they might end up ok.
I just thought it would be interesting to see in timescale (roughly): How long do you think your parents spent thinking about your birth vs how long you have wanted to end your life?
I'd like to re-emphasize that I'm not trying to drum up hatred towards our parents (I love mine dearly.) I just think it's a curious thing that (I'm guessing) contemplating bringing an independant lifeform into the world seems (in what I see as the 'normies' perspective) to seem to warrant less thought than making the decision to end your own life. What's more- even after decades of pondering- if you do CTB- people will still likely think you were irrational and impulsive.
Of course, I guess I already know the answer- that a 'normal' brain and a reasonable life probably means you will think your child will be happy- so- they probably don't need to think about it that much. I guess my brain is just so pessimistic- I look at the world like it is and consider my genes and think that I love my unborn child too much to inflict a life upon it. (Plus, I'm ugly, so there's little for me to worry about getting pregnant .)
Thanks for reading- if you got this far...
Still- it really hit me on another thread where someone was refering to all the anguish and guilt so many of us are going through- worrying about what impact our suicides would have on those left behind (ironically on our parents a lot of the time.) They made the case that- if only people thought as hard about creating life as we are about ending it...
So- while I know this isn't an easy question to answer accurately- how long do you think your parents thought about having children vs how long have you been suicidal?
For me, my parents actually always wanted children and they had trouble conceiving. In my case, I was initially lucky that they would have raised me in a loving and stable environment. Just that fate intervened and my Mum died young. They were married over a decade, so I suppose let's be generous and say they wanted children for that long too. I've been suicidal to varying degrees for 32 years. So that's 10 years of them planning to 32 years of me regretting my life.
Maybe this is all just a pointless exercise but I feel like suicide is so often seen as some impulsive act- which is 'wrong' and 'unstable' and 'mentally unhinged.' Yet birthing a child is rarely seen like that- even when it is unplanned and sadly unwanted. I suppose because birth is more natural than suicide. Still- haven't we come further than that?!! We're THINKING animals afterall. Doesn't quality of life matter?!!
I honestly don't know where I'm going with this. I don't think everyone who births a child is wrong or that children who come from very difficult backgrounds will certainly end up suicidal.
Still, I guess it's just my frustration that life- literally any life is seen as good and rational whereas wishing to end it- even after decades of deliberation is seen as crazy. I suppose because once the birth has happened- you have a living being- who's rights ought to be respected and valued and there's always the chance they might end up ok.
I just thought it would be interesting to see in timescale (roughly): How long do you think your parents spent thinking about your birth vs how long you have wanted to end your life?
I'd like to re-emphasize that I'm not trying to drum up hatred towards our parents (I love mine dearly.) I just think it's a curious thing that (I'm guessing) contemplating bringing an independant lifeform into the world seems (in what I see as the 'normies' perspective) to seem to warrant less thought than making the decision to end your own life. What's more- even after decades of pondering- if you do CTB- people will still likely think you were irrational and impulsive.
Of course, I guess I already know the answer- that a 'normal' brain and a reasonable life probably means you will think your child will be happy- so- they probably don't need to think about it that much. I guess my brain is just so pessimistic- I look at the world like it is and consider my genes and think that I love my unborn child too much to inflict a life upon it. (Plus, I'm ugly, so there's little for me to worry about getting pregnant .)
Thanks for reading- if you got this far...