24 minutes !

[D11FER]

After waiting 3 weeks for an urgent referral to go through to my local mental health team (East Sussex) as I'm really struggling and wanted to give support one last try before Ctb! I finally received my call today it lasted 24 minutes to be told the whole of the uk is depressed and we can do nothing for you. Your going to have to fix yourself and speak to Gp again to see if they will review my meds? I should go for a walk and also be thankful for what I have rather than focus on what I have lost.
I love my country and I love the NHS for what they have achieved in the last 14 months with Covid.
But f me I'm struggling ask for help and was brushed aside. We will never recover from this mess as somewhere along the line we lost a little piece of our humanity

 

[WornOutLife]

Damn, that sucks.
In my case, my therapist and psych dumped because they had to do a lot of paper with my medical insurance and didn't feel like doing it.

I wonder when these people and the system will work and help people for real.

 

[D11FER]

I doubt it my friend

 

[Silver]

Sorry to hear that @D11FER . Others have written here before about their poor experience with the NHS too. It seems what you experienced isn't too uncommon

 

[Unicorns]

I'm sorry to hear they didn't help. I live in the UK too and it's not just you. Half the battle can be trying to get treatment. Have you tried Mind? They can be good and helpful.

 

[NodusTollens]

Damn- I'm sorry.
I'm over the constant push onto stronger & stronger meds without tackling the cause. You deserve more than just 24 minutes. HUGS.

 

[AQUA]

Try calling a suicide hotline as they will/might give you further advice and tell you more info about what you had to wait 3weeks for. best of luck!

 

[Mentalmick]

Mental health services in the UK have been on the slide for years and this is going to make it ten times worse. Binning you off after one lousy phonecall is outrageous.

 

[D11FER]

Sorry to hear that @D11FER . Others have written here before about their poor experience with the NHS too. It seems what you experienced isn't too uncommon

It's scary to imagine the amount of people out there that could of been saved if they gave a shit! I might of been one of them

Mental health services in the UK have been on the slide for years and this is going to make it ten times worse. Binning you off after one lousy phonecall is outrageous.

Thank you mick to be fair it was 24 minutes and 42 seconds lol

I'm sorry to hear they didn't help. I live in the UK too and it's not just you. Half the battle can be trying to get treatment. Have you tried Mind? They can be good and helpful.

Thank you I have a look :)

 

[blahblahhh]

I think we all need to have a mental health discussion! The downfall from these lockdowns is causing a major crisis that could potentially cause more deaths that this so-called virus itself. You're not alone, friend! Not one bit.

 

[D11FER]

I think we all need to have a mental health discussion! The downfall from these lockdowns is causing a major crisis that could potentially cause more deaths that this so-called virus itself. You're not alone, friend! Not one bit.

Thank you

 

[Callie Arcale]

That's the health care system in a nutshell. Disturbing and disheartening.

 

[Soulless Angel]

that is messed up, I am currently under a mental health team, but I do feel brushed off, she wants to help but in the fact she's pushing me/encouraging me to be independent, get a proper job etc etc, I know deep down I am not ready for this, but shes saying I need to do this, as well as telling me I need heavy therapy!
The UK mental health system sucks ass it really does.

Yes the UK may be depressed but theres life long depression and Situational depression , which I believe the latter is, a depression that is temporary and can be dealt with easier then those suffering long term, but sadly we are now all being brushed under the same title and the help just is no longer there

 

[D11FER]

that is messed up, I am currently under a mental health team, but I do feel brushed off, she wants to help but in the fact she's pushing me/encouraging me to be independent, get a proper job etc etc, I know deep down I am not ready for this, but shes saying I need to do this, as well as telling me I need heavy therapy!
The UK mental health system sucks ass it really does.

Yes the UK may be depressed but theres life long depression and Situational depression , which I believe the latter is, a depression that is temporary and can be dealt with easier then those suffering long term, but sadly we are now all being brushed under the same title and the help just is no longer there

It's a shocking truth and I would love a study of the amount of people they had referred to them that then CTB'd within 2 weeks of being brushed aside with little thought care or consideration. And maybe hold someone accountable for the life that could of been saved with the right level of empathy. Some days I just need a hug and for someone to tell me I'm not the monster I feel like I am x

 

[Soulless Angel]

It's a shocking truth and I would love a study of the amount of people they had referred to them that then CTB'd within 2 weeks of being brushed aside with little thought care or consideration. And maybe hold someone accountable for the life that could of been saved with the right level of empathy. Some days I just need a hug and for someone to tell me I'm not the monster I feel like I am x

I've been signed off from the HTT before after a nurse witnessed a full blown panic attack, and self harming! I only have them involved now because the police put there foot down and said something needs to be done now, before its too late,

I am sorry you are in a bad place, can I ask your situation or is that too rude of me

 

[D11FER]

I've been signed off from the HTT before after a nurse witnessed a full blown panic attack, and self harming! I only have them involved now because the police put there foot down and said something needs to be done now, before its too late,

I am sorry you are in a bad place, can I ask your situation or is that too rude of me

One year tomorrow I was thrown out of my family home after being accused of having a affair with so called friend of mine. I never had an affair but we were good friends but because my friend thought my wife didn't treat me well enough she decided to create a fantasy world where I was part of it. Created 100's of text messages by texting herself on 2 phones and then screen shooting these and exactly on our 28th year anniversary expose this pack of lies.
I lost my soul mate and my 3 wonderful children who no longer have any respect for me what so ever. As well as my home.
currently living in my mum and dads spare room with 2 draws and 1/2 a wardrobe to me name.

 

[Endeavour]

One year tomorrow I was thrown out of my family home after being accused of having a affair with so called friend of mine. I never had an affair but we were good friends but because my friend thought my wife didn't treat me well enough she decided to create a fantasy world where I was part of it. Created 100's of text messages by texting herself on 2 phones and then screen shooting these and exactly on our 28th year anniversary expose this pack of lies.
I lost my soul mate and my 3 wonderful children who no longer have any respect for me what so ever. As well as my home.
currently living in my mum and dads spare room with 2 draws and 1/2 a wardrobe to me name.

That sucks, my wife did have an affair but painted me as the villian and her as the victim. She's so good at turning on the water works she convinced everyone I was the problem.

When I met her I had a house, she didn't even have a full time job.

Now I don't have a house (she does) and I don't have a full time job (she does).

I feel like I've been conned and scammed and I can assure you - you're not alone in this feeling of being at the shitty end of a very shitty stick.

 

[loopylou]

My mental health team have given up on me. I have BPD which apparently can be cured with DBT. I have to been in a strong mindset for the therapy which lasts a couple of months. I haven't felt strong enough to endure it so they basically told me to grow up and they can't help me any further.

 

[Soulless Angel]

One year tomorrow I was thrown out of my family home after being accused of having a affair with so called friend of mine. I never had an affair but we were good friends but because my friend thought my wife didn't treat me well enough she decided to create a fantasy world where I was part of it. Created 100's of text messages by texting herself on 2 phones and then screen shooting these and exactly on our 28th year anniversary expose this pack of lies.
I lost my soul mate and my 3 wonderful children who no longer have any respect for me what so ever. As well as my home.
currently living in my mum and dads spare room with 2 draws and 1/2 a wardrobe to me name.

Shit dude, I am so sorry you went through that, that's going to mess any one up :(

 

[D11FER]

Shit dude, I am so sorry you went through that, that's going to mess any one up :(

Thank you :(

My mental health team have given up on me. I have BPD which apparently can be cured with DBT. I have to been in a strong mindset for the therapy which lasts a couple of months. I haven't felt strong enough to endure it so they basically told me to grow up and they can't help me any further.

It's disgusting to be told to grow up ! It's soul destroying to have another human being belittle you're feelings and you're state of mind. I share you're pain

That sucks, my wife did have an affair but painted me as the villian and her as the victim. She's so good at turning on the water works she convinced everyone I was the problem.

When I met her I had a house, she didn't even have a full time job.

Now I don't have a house (she does) and I don't have a full time job (she does).

I feel like I've been conned and scammed and I can assure you - you're not alone in this feeling of being at the shitty end of a very shitty stick.

This world is not fair or just and the amount of people I now see that will literally rip you apart to get what they want. Sometimes I'm ashamed to be a human being

 

[NeverGoodEnuff]

After reading here for months, is there anywhere that has good mental health care? Is there even such a thing??

 

[D11FER]

After reading here for months, is there anywhere that has good mental health care? Is there even such a thing??

To be honest don't think it's the mental health teams rather than complete lack of resources and funding. They can't sign post someone somewhere if there's not a pathway to follow. However it's the way they do it that needs addressing.
And I'm very sure private mental health services in the UK are top banana!!!

 

[Mentalmick]

And I'm very sure private mental health services in the UK are top banana!!!

Yep, I'm of to the Priory as we speak.

 

[D11FER]

Yep, I'm of to the Priory as we speak.

Best of luck hope it's not the one near me ! I've taught there and not sure I'd want to cared for at that particular one

 

[NeverGoodEnuff]

Once, I had a good, successful psych session.

It was months after my husband died. I walked in, sat down, and she asked, "Why are you here, what is your goal?" Never been asked that before. I was so surprized, I said, "I want to stop crying." We talked for maybe 30 minutes. Nothing about childhood, none of that. Just about losing my husband. Come back next week.

Ok. Next week, I walk in and there are two chairs placed facing each other. I sat in one. She said, "Your husband is sitting in that other chair. Tell him how you feel." I did, that took maybe five minutes. Then she had me switch chairs and pretend I was my husband. "Now, what do you have to say to your wife?" I have to say this all felt very silly and it was all I could do to play along and not just laugh at how stupid and simplistic it seemed. I had to think about what he would say, or what I thought he would say. And that was that he wanted me to be happy, to live the rest of my life in a good way.

The next week, I walked in and said, "It worked. I'm fixed. Thank you." And left.

 

[D11FER]

Once, I had a good, successful psych session.

It was months after my husband died. I walked in, sat down, and she asked, "Why are you here, what is your goal?" Never been asked that before. I was so surprized, I said, "I want to stop crying." We talked for maybe 30 minutes. Nothing about childhood, none of that. Just about losing my husband. Come back next week.

Ok. Next week, I walk in and there are two chairs placed facing each other. I sat in one. She said, "Your husband is sitting in that other chair. Tell him how you feel." I did, that took maybe five minutes. Then she had me switch chairs and pretend I was my husband. "Now, what do you have to say to your wife?" I have to say this all felt very silly and it was all I could do to play along and not just laugh at how stupid and simplistic it seemed. I had to think about what he would say, or what I thought he would say. And that was that he wanted me to be happy, to live the rest of my life in a good way.

The next week, I walked in and said, "It worked. I'm fixed. Thank you." And left.

Love that