What was easier for you? School or work?

[paredler]

To me, school was easier than work. I mean, not really, school was very stressful and not at all fun, but at least at leisure time, hobbies, family dinners and holidays were sure fun. I really enjoyed spending time with my loved ones and engaged in different hobbies I had after school. Holidays were very fun and I made the most of them thanks to my loving family. These meetings were very meaningful to me and I truly believed I would develop and grow to become something in this world. When I started working, I didn't have much times for hobbies, and even when I did, I didn't have much energy for it. After work I just collapsed in front of the tv. I also a lot less enjoyed seeing my relatives on family dinners. It's like the magic these events had during childhood was gone. I became a lot sadder, more suicidal and mentally heavier to be fun to be around. I think the reason for it is that on school not matter how stressful it is, you always know you can go back home to the things you love and you have hope that everything will be alright. At work, you have a lot less stability. If you make a mistake at work, you may lose your job and therefore may lose your home and become much more vulnerable, it's impossible to enjoy "leisure tine" when you're always under threat of losing your safety.

What was it like for you? Same? Similar? Different?

 

[Death is my goal]

nothing is worse than school

 

[Tired_of_myself]

Work is worse for me

School you know is going to end at some point and you feel like you have a future ahead

And work you have to deal with other people's shit for money

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

So far all of my jobs have been way easier than school. School is a complete drag because I never cared to remember any of the things they force me to learn anyway. Even subjects I thought I liked suddenly became uninteresting and obtuse just because I felt like I had to learn about them.

At least when work is tiring and boring I get paid for it.

 

[wCvML2]

Work feels like pushing up the same pointless boulder every day, while school could delude me that I'm somehow progressing in life.

 

[DearMe]

As someone currently schooling and has work after school... I prefer working because it's all in-office hours. School is more difficult for me due to the research and amount of group projects I must attend to, it also obstructs my holidays due to the homework prepared in advance and having to pass it after the holiday ends.

 

[anhedonya]

School without question. Every time. Yes school had its own issues but like you said, I still had time for life. I talked to my friends there and came home and talked to my friends online after eating dinner. It didn't necessarily make me suicidal to go to school- some of the events may have upset me but school was a safe haven away from my mother most days. Work.... that's different story. I can't eat a real meal before or during work anymore because the sheer dread I get having to clock in and talk to my coworkers makes me want to throw up.

 

[Nikitatos]

Work feels like pushing up the same pointless boulder every day, while school could delude me that I'm somehow progressing in life.

We're all just gerbils on a wheel.

 

[divinemistress36]

Work I was always to dumb for school

 

[Agon321]

Definitely school.

I'm young so I didn't work long, but I did for about 3 years.

School was much more enjoyable.
This is because I didn't care about grades.
I had a tactic just to pass. Nothing more.
Of course, my grades weren't terrible because I had good grades in some school subjects, but I didn't care.

It was much more fun and easier. While you're at school, you may be under the illusion that your life will be special.
Once work begins, life brings you down to Earth very quickly.

I wasn't bullied at school either, so I don't have any trauma.
Of course, there were some conflicts, but that's normal. Nothing special.

Most people I meet in life would like to go back to their school days.
There are several reasons.
Romanticizing the past, socializing, fewer responsibilities, less stress (it depends), more fun, nostalgia, etc.

When you're in school, everything seems simpler. This was my case.

If someone was bullied at school or was simply VERY stressed, they will have bad memories of school.

A lot also depends on someone's ambitions. I didn't care about my school performance, but it mattered to other people.
For some people, poor school performance means a worse job. Worse work means worse well-being.
Therefore, someone may feel negative emotions towards school because they failed to achieve what they wanted.

There are also cases of people who now have a much better life than before, so they do not necessarily miss the past.

I generally prefer school because I'm lazy, my ambition is dead, my expectations are zero and I can't achieve anything in life.
At school I could still live in an illusion. Work destroyed this illusion.
Of course, I'm most likely mentally ill, so it has defined my entire life. I got sick (if I'm sick) at probably a relatively young age and did nothing to help myself.
So my perspective may be wrong.

 

[Forever Sleep]

In terms of people, school was hell for me. (Mainly a suspected narcissistic family member I was there with who created all kinds of havoc.) In terms of stress though, work has usually been worse.

 

[astonishedturnip]

School = I had no money or freedom, spending my nights slaving over homework and studying, bullied to hell, treated like shit by many of my teachers, out of shape, worried about my future, surrounded by teenage/young adult drama and exhausted from waking up at 6am every morning. On the other hand, I was surrounded by people my own age, I was close to my friends, had crushes, long summers and holidays off, in lots of clubs, stayed up late all night with no responsibilities, and felt like the future was full of potential.

Work = Finally got money, but after the first couple of days it dawned on me that I'd probably be doing this every week for the next 45 years of my life. No more spending nights in homework or essays but my free time was shot, just too tired to do a lot after work. No more bullies or waking up early but no more crushes, friends, breaks, excitement. However I do feel a sense of gratification from a job well done and it's nice to be an adult and have freedom of choice and making my own decisions.

All in all I would say that school was better for my social life but work was better for everything else. I breezed through my classes at school so I didn't struggle academically but the variety of work is nice.

 

[FireFox]

I actaully liked work better than school and people think I am werid for saying that.

At school I was regularly builled and fought back against the people who were bullying me. The teachers at school punished me for fighting back but never the builles who started. A boy at school was bullying so I kicked in the balls. The women teachers at school told me how its wrong and how I shouldn't do that while the boy who started it nothing happened to him.

I was builled relentlessly over my looks and people at school thought I was the werid girl. In class I answered questions correctly and participated a lot in class discussions especially in history and Religious Education. I was quite outspoken on such topics.

At school the main friendship group I had were a group of white girls with blonde hair blue eyes , their parents were from Ireland and 1 lgbt Polish boy. Polish boy was mean to me at times even saying how I should go jump under a bridge and the girls just let him.When I was in sixth form ( senior year in USA) a new white girl came to the group and didn't want me in the group. My friends pretty much allowed her to force me out.

I preferred work because I got to meet new people, travel to different places across the city I live in and I learned new skills. Work gave me disposable income which allowed me independence to buy my own stuff.

 

[astonishedturnip]

The teachers at school punished me for fighting back but never the builles who started. A boy at school was bullying so I kicked in the balls. The women teachers at school told me how its wrong and how I shouldn't do that while the boy who started it nothing happened to him.

Same thing happened to me! I was just supposed to "ignore them" even though they made my life a living hell every single day. I was a star student and always minded me own business yet they always acted like I was no better than the rat fucks who tormented me daily. I've blocked out almost all memories of middle school because the bullying was the bad.

There are workplace bullies of course but in my experience they were very few and far between, and I could handle them deftly.

 

[FireFox]

In terms of people, school was hell for me. (Mainly a suspected narcissistic family member I was there with who created all kinds of havoc.) In terms of stress though, work has usually been worse.

@Forever Sleep I can relete actually we have similar experiences. The people who I went to school with also attended the same chruch in my neighbourhood. Every Wednesday night when I was doing my confirmation I had to see these people. It was not fun.

I was put in the worst group ever because majority of the kids in the group were the most annoying arsehole classmates of the school population. Sessions were just choas.

There was a weekend religious retreat which they wanted us to go and I refused to go because am not spending a weekend with the people who ignore me at school everyday and treat with me contempt. I am so glad i didn't go because one of retreat leaders the running the retreat programme was a creepy pevert filrting with one of the teenage girls, people were not happy.

School without question. Every time. Yes school had its own issues but like you said, I still had time for life. I talked to my friends there and came home and talked to my friends online after eating dinner. It didn't necessarily make me suicidal to go to school- some of the events may have upset me but school was a safe haven away from my mother most days. Work.... that's different story. I can't eat a real meal before or during work anymore because the sheer dread I get having to clock in and talk to my coworkers makes me want to throw up.

@anhedonya School for many young people can be an escape from home. In lockdown I felt so sorry for the young people who live with abusive parents and now stuck with them due to school closures.

In the UK lockdown multiple kids were murdered by their parents and some of these cases went on to be the worst child abuse cases in UK history.

Alfie Phillips joins a tragic rollcall of children killed in lockdown

The toddler died on 28 Nov 2020, just days into the second Covid lockdown, with a 'myriad of bruises', broken ribs, arms and leg, after the attack in Benham's caravan in Hernhill, near Faversham.

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Work is worse for me

School you know is going to end at some point and you feel like you have a future ahead

And work you have to deal with other people's shit for money

@Tired_of_myself School sometimes can prepare you for work in ways you don't always realise.

At school I was the werid girl who was relentlessly builled by the other kids and I struggled to fit in and make friends. Those experiences of fighting back alone at school and being excluded by the school population including my own friendship group prepared me to fight when I was having problems in my last job.

In my last job I was nice to everyone at work and helped people whenever they needed assistance but still the workplace didn't give me the same respect. I was too different from my colleagues I was the youngest in the department, I was outspoken and not scared to stand up entilted customers whereas my colleagues were older and quieter and pretty much kissed management backsides. At work I experienced exclusion from the workplace crowd, disrespect from my boss and humiliated by older colleagues who should know better.

I was miserable everyday at work but I never gave up and fought to make everything work out for the best. My school experiences gave me that experience to cope.

Same thing happened to me! I was just supposed to "ignore them" even though they made my life a living hell every single day. I was a star student and always minded me own business yet they always acted like I was no better than the rat fucks who tormented me daily. I've blocked out almost all memories of middle school because the bullying was the bad.

There are workplace bullies of course but in my experience they were very few and far between, and I could handle them deftly.

@astonishedturnip This is why teen suicide over bullying is an enormous problem in schools. Buillies keep doing their behaviour because they face no real consequences for their actions.

Children who bully grow up to be adults who bully especially within positions of authority. Bullying in Politics, the military, the police force and the corporate world are examples of bully adults taking over and ruling the world.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I never worked yet but I feel like school would be easier for me than work because of how the workload seems to be less in comparison. Also, school isn't contingent on socialising at all whereas work is. At school, what matters more is intelligence, not how well you can socialise whereas, at work, it's the converse that's true. Not to mention that I got into university easily because of intelligence but, when it comes to work, I could be applying for numerous jobs and repetitively fail whereas I can easily get into university and study. Basically, school is easier for me because the workload is easier and, also, there isn't really a socialising element in school the same way there is for work.

Oh, btw, I say all of this as somebody who has been bullied in school for a decade. I still find school easier despite that. Though, in the ideal case, I'd rather not work and not attend to school either

 

[veinofether]

School was hell. Childhood in general, really. An unhappy childhood is like being stuck in a dark tunnel and the light is almost invisible it's so far away. Nobody understood me, people treated me like a freak. I attached myself to a social group to avoid being a complete outcast but was never truly friends with them. Didn't stay in touch with anyone. Got bullied relentlessly. Work is still unpleasant but at least people are less openly shitty and hateful and I get financially compensated.

 

[FireFox]

School was hell. Childhood in general, really. An unhappy childhood is like being stuck in a dark tunnel and the light is almost invisible it's so far away. Nobody understood me, people treated me like a freak. I attached myself to a social group to avoid being a complete outcast but was never truly friends with them. Didn't stay in touch with anyone. Got bullied relentlessly. Work is still unpleasant but at least people are less openly shitty and hateful and I get financially compensated.

@veinofether At school I was the school freak and an outsider. My life at school was hell when a group of boys at school filmed me doing a sex act on another boy.

When I was 16 a boy at school showed interest in me and wanted me to perform oral sex on him. I really wanted him to like me so I agreed to it. His friends filmed the entire thing and taunted me over it whenever I had encountered his friends at school. The boy never told his friends to stop. Eventually it publicly came out what happened and boy told me to never speak to him again and stopped talking to me at school it was so painful the slient treatment. He even began being racist to me. I still attended school and just rode out the embrassmet of people gossiping about me and lived with the torment knowing the video was on of his friends phone and I couldn't do anything about it. I was scared to tell the teachers because they would have phoned our all parents. I was depressed as a result of everything because I had no one to turn too. I was a fighter as a teenager if I was not I would have been a suicide statistic.

 

[derpyderpins]

If we're just talking about the day-to-day school is superior, but not being dependent on my parents gives work the upper hand.

 

[cinderdust]

My meaningless minimum wage retail job was preferable to school or home as a kid, but it couldn't pay for rent or basic necessities long-term. I'm trying to push myself through higher education so I can be independent, but if you're too stupid for STEM and out of shape for the trades like me you're basically screwed.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Loafing around was always easier for me.

 

[theboy]

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