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borderline-feline

borderline-feline

Constantly Sleepy Catgirl
Dec 28, 2022
645
Over a week ago, I applied to my old workplace since I feel like I can work again. I haven't heard back about it at all. I don't know if I should contact their HR to see if they're outright rejecting me.

In the case that I am rejected, I need a new job. The problem is that I can't drive. The only reason I was able to do my last job is that it's where my father and sister work.

Is there anything I can do to take control of this situation so that I can turn myself around?
 
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stillunemployed

lol lmao
Jun 1, 2023
176
Well, you are braver than me, I would never go back to my previous workplace, since I meticulously burned that bridge.

Start applying to jobs you can get to without a car and expect to get ghosted. A lot.
Get past that somehow and keep applying. Still keep applying.

Eventually you'll get invited to interviews, but those are almost always not what you expect.

The job market is absolute chaos these days. People are being let go and then called back on a whim.
There is still a huge shortage in labor, yet some companies are already counting on AI doing everything and then get shocked when they find out AI can't do anything.

Just try very hard to not take setbacks seriously. Have faith in your abilities and experience and if you can, try and learn something new.
 
borderline-feline

borderline-feline

Constantly Sleepy Catgirl
Dec 28, 2022
645
Well, you are braver than me, I would never go back to my previous workplace, since I meticulously burned that bridge.

Start applying to jobs you can get to without a car and expect to get ghosted. A lot.
Get past that somehow and keep applying. Still keep applying.

Eventually you'll get invited to interviews, but those are almost always not what you expect.

The job market is absolute chaos these days. People are being let go and then called back on a whim.
There is still a huge shortage in labor, yet some companies are already counting on AI doing everything and then get shocked when they find out AI can't do anything.

Just try very hard to not take setbacks seriously. Have faith in your abilities and experience and if you can, try and learn something new.
It's not bravery, just desperation. I have no options outside of my old job because I can't drive. There's nothing in walking distance. I'm fucked.
 
lovedread

lovedread

Tyra Banks screaming “LEARN SOMETHING FROM THIS.”
Jan 2, 2020
128
maybe you could try to get a remote job/call center job? ive heard theyre a pain in the ass and lowkey difficult to get, but at least you wouldnt need a car to go. if you did end up going this route, just be wary of scam job postings. there are certain jobs and websites that vet the job postings beforehand, like workfromhomequeen and rebellionratrace i think? anyway good luck
 
borderline-feline

borderline-feline

Constantly Sleepy Catgirl
Dec 28, 2022
645
maybe you could try to get a remote job/call center job? ive heard theyre a pain in the ass and lowkey difficult to get, but at least you wouldnt need a car to go. if you did end up going this route, just be wary of scam job postings. there are certain jobs and websites that vet the job postings beforehand, like workfromhomequeen and rebellionratrace i think? anyway good luck
I've thought about doing work from home, but I have my doubts that anything I could do from home would have good pay or benefits. At the end of the day, insurance and a stable income are the two things I really need.
 
Ambivalent1

Ambivalent1

Your best friend 🫂
Apr 17, 2023
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It's not bravery, just desperation. I have no options outside of my old job because I can't drive. There's nothing in walking distance. I'm fucked.
Will ctb have to be an option then? That's sad 😢
 
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whywere

Visionary
Jun 26, 2020
2,676
1) Is your father and sister still there?

2) How did you quit?

3) Are they hiring?

4) How was your past performance?

In my past experience, if one can check off the boxes of 3 and 4 and one quit the right way, 2-week notice, then I would contact hr. NOW, unless it is a small company/firm, ask for the head of hr. He/she is the one who can make decisions, NOT an assistant usually and also, they can pull strings sometimes for a person.

In my thoughts, no matter what the position involves, bringing back a past employee vs a new one can save time and expense on occasions.

Also, make sure and SELL yourself to hr. If one, sometimes, wants a position back selling the power(s) to be makes a person look diligent and someone who can contribute to the bottom line.

I have hired and released (fired) folks and bringing someone on who is eager to be there makes everything meld so much quicker and better for everyone.

Walter
 
1MiserableGuy

1MiserableGuy

Specialist
Dec 30, 2023
367
Are you physically unable to drive, or just one of those new under the age of 25 types that are totally capable of doing so but won't?
 
borderline-feline

borderline-feline

Constantly Sleepy Catgirl
Dec 28, 2022
645
Are you physically unable to drive, or just one of those new under the age of 25 types that are totally capable of doing so but won't?
I can't drive because of autism and ADHD. I can't stay focused on the road and get overwhelmed by the amount of things I have to pay attention to.
1) Is your father and sister still there?

2) How did you quit?

3) Are they hiring?

4) How was your past performance?

In my past experience, if one can check off the boxes of 3 and 4 and one quit the right way, 2-week notice, then I would contact hr. NOW, unless it is a small company/firm, ask for the head of hr. He/she is the one who can make decisions, NOT an assistant usually and also, they can pull strings sometimes for a person.

In my thoughts, no matter what the position involves, bringing back a past employee vs a new one can save time and expense on occasions.

Also, make sure and SELL yourself to hr. If one, sometimes, wants a position back selling the power(s) to be makes a person look diligent and someone who can contribute to the bottom line.

I have hired and released (fired) folks and bringing someone on who is eager to be there makes everything meld so much quicker and better for everyone.

Walter
1. My father and sister are still working there.

2. I didn't put in a two weeks notice because I was too overwhelmed at the time. I couldn't handle another day, let alone 2 weeks.

3. They have position posted, so I'd assume that they're hiring, but they might not be.

4. I was able to make rate even when having lowkey meltdowns and crying. I was one of the best performing employees, and I was specifically told by my manager that I was a reliable employee. The problems I had were attendance (they have an unrealistic attendance policy) and the aforementioned meltdowns because of my autism. The HR manager also hates me.
 
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soulkitty

soulkitty

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Apr 6, 2024
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I can't drive because of autism and ADHD. I can't stay focused on the road and get overwhelmed by the amount of things I have to pay attention to.

1. My father and sister are still working there.

2. I didn't put in a two weeks notice because I was too overwhelmed at the time. I couldn't handle another day, let alone 2 weeks.

3. They have position posted, so I'd assume that they're hiring, but they might not be.

4. I was able to make rate even when having lowkey meltdowns and crying. I was one of the best performing employees, and I was specifically told by my manager that I was a reliable employee. The problems I had were attendance (they have an unrealistic attendance policy) and the aforementioned meltdowns because of my autism. The HR manager also hates me.
I completely understand I have an extremely hard time driving because of anxiety and how slowly my brain works, your struggles are completely valid. I wish I had some advice to give, I hope you hear back from your old job soon 💙 good luck!!
 
Ambivalent1

Ambivalent1

Your best friend 🫂
Apr 17, 2023
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I'm not sure which of those suck more ass, people our own age or that space western cape shit
Which gen do you admire? Star wars is overrated much like every derivative tv show and movie on nowadays.
 
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whywere

Visionary
Jun 26, 2020
2,676
I can't drive because of autism and ADHD. I can't stay focused on the road and get overwhelmed by the amount of things I have to pay attention to.

1. My father and sister are still working there.

2. I didn't put in a two weeks notice because I was too overwhelmed at the time. I couldn't handle another day, let alone 2 weeks.

3. They have position posted, so I'd assume that they're hiring, but they might not be.

4. I was able to make rate even when having lowkey meltdowns and crying. I was one of the best performing employees, and I was specifically told by my manager that I was a reliable employee. The problems I had were attendance (they have an unrealistic attendance policy) and the aforementioned meltdowns because of my autism. The HR manager also hates me.
Here are my 2 cents on this and also going by past experience when I hired folks, and also, I will be frankly very honest here, so this is NOT EVER personal, it is business.

I would lay it all on the line to the HEAD of HR and/or my manager then I was there. They have to know everything about why and what happened that you left. With that said one aspect that will be made clear on the spot is whether they have empathy and caring or not. If so great if not, then one knows what they MIGHT be getting back into.

When folks have been upfront with me, I usually could make accommodations and we worked great together.

I said al this because you said that you were doing well in your position and if the company has half a brain, they will rehire you, if you are honest and I mean honest with them. If not, then look at the aspect that you dodged a bullet as they would be hell to work around.

My gut feeling is that if you and them and have a adult mindful conversation, they will hire you back in a heartbeat.

Also mention to them, the cost and time of bringing a new person up to speed in the position, BUT I would only mention this as a kind of hail Mary effect.

This is my thoughts, good. bad, crazy, whatever, I am just going by life experience is all.

One last thought, whatever country that you live in what type of laws are there to help disabled workers. Where in the U.S., at least my experience is that accommodations can be made a lot of the times, sometimes a company/firm does NOT want to incur the expenses, but big deal, law is law.

Walter
 
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