Why is it so god damn hard to just find someone to hold me while I cry?

[orangepotato]

Seriously, I'm at the point of seriously considering paying a sex worker just to hold me while I cry.

Why is it SO HARD to find in this society? Literally just this one thing would alleviate so much mental anguish. All I want is to be held while I cry and being told it's OK. Normies don't understand. They take being loved for granted so much. They act like therapy is some silver bullet that will make up for society just letting me rot. "Go to therapy!" is pretty much society's police way of "go pay to talk to someone, I don't want to deal with you or acknowledge your pain." You know, if 10 years ago a girl had done this for me I probably wouldn't be suicidal right now at 34. Literally that's all I ask for - but society just wants me to rot. I wasn't asking for a hero. Just for one god damn fucking hug and set of ears.

 

[meetapple]

A lack of intimacy (by that I don't necessarily mean sex) can be quite hazardous to one's physical as well as mental health.

 

[Midgardsorm]

You know, once I saw an interview with a sex worker, she said that a lot of people (Mostly older guys) comes to her and spend most of the time talking. She feels like she is a psychologist of some kind.

It's strange, those guys could have went to a therapist and yet, they were there. Maybe there's something about therapy, something that they are doing it wrong.

I left therapy a few days ago and I had a closure session with my therapist. I said that I felt that people are too fast in making assumptions, try reasoning, try to solve your problem. When the first thing to do would be acknowledge your pain. Make you feel that you are with someone that understands you, make you feel comfortable, supported.
Sometimes we need to shed tears first, cry as much as we can and then try to solve problems.
Surprisingly, she agreed with me. She even apologized, it was the first time ever that someone apologized to me. I cried, in the last session I felt like I was finally being understood by someone, just for a brief moment.

I cry every day, there's nobody here, I have a family that I can't talk to. Friends that left me and some relationships with them are even worse. There's simply no one. I shed every drop of tear that I have before going out on the world, pretending that everything is okay. Making jokes and smiling.

A hug? A friend? An ear? A comforting voice?
I guess that's asking too much.

 

[aanka]

hey there,
@Midgardsorm it sounds like your therapist and you were beginning to find something. it might be worth going back to them and pursuing the openness and honesty. I can be a friend if u like

@orangepotato please feel free to message me if you want to talk. I'm 36

 

[-FrozenRobot-]

Hmm I don't know. Maybe people like us are cursed. No matter how many people are around me during the day, I always end up crying alone at night.

 

[Pluto]

I admire you people for being able to cry. I've ended up a robot.

 

[-FrozenRobot-]

I admire you people for being able to cry. I've ended up a robot.

Man, you're a robot? Check my username. Haha. It's true that you can't cry after a certain point in life. Maybe we ran out of tears. Now I'm just dead inside walking around, waiting for my body to join my soul.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

You have to not have any unmet emotional needs in order to get that, apparently. Oh, and you have be "functional" as well. I give life a rating of 10/10.

 

[Dark Spring]

Sorry if I don't make myself clear, my English is not very good.
First I would like to tell you that I go with you in this feeling, if only someone would give us a hug of those that are of understanding, that help you to unburden and loosen all your inner knots with tears. Those silent hugs that do not judge, only understand the pain and emptiness.

I, my friend, who do not know you at all, offer you my embrace, in the distance, in virtuality, but above all in the feeling and company you need.

 

[Akerblad]

most of the time i'm pretending that nothing happens despite thinking really serious in commit suicide, i know what you feel but at least you can cry and that's a good way to leave your emotions flow, you're not so dead inside yet

 

[tiredplant777]

Yes. I think about this a lot. It also scares me because I think it would scare people away. I've thought about hiring a sex worker too actually just for hugs but the idea always kind of scared me.

 

[Marktheghost]

I need somebody to hold me too.

And I seem to have lost the ability to cry.

 

[angelus]

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Hmm I don't know. Maybe people like us are cursed. No matter how many people are around me during the day, I always end up crying alone at night.

I can totally relate.

 

[S like Siren]

I feel you so much...:(

 

[moths]

god. tthis is exactly how i feel fuck i just want to be held and listened toeven though i feel like i dont deserve it im too disgusting and being vulnerable is terrifying but god i need it

 

[FuneralCry]

Loneliness can be painful and can send many people into despair. I'm sorry you are suffering. Crying is a thing that I can no longer do. In a way I do miss it. It has been a long time since I cried.

 

[Tired_only]

Seriously, I'm at the point of seriously considering paying a sex worker just to hold me while I cry.

Why is it SO HARD to find in this society? Literally just this one thing would alleviate so much mental anguish. All I want is to be held while I cry and being told it's OK. Normies don't understand. They take being loved for granted so much. They act like therapy is some silver bullet that will make up for society just letting me rot. "Go to therapy!" is pretty much society's police way of "go pay to talk to someone, I don't want to deal with you or acknowledge your pain." You know, if 10 years ago a girl had done this for me I probably wouldn't be suicidal right now at 34. Literally that's all I ask for - but society just wants me to rot. I wasn't asking for a hero. Just for one god damn fucking hug and set of ears.

I could of written this. I can heavily relate.

 

[H0110W]

I haven't been held in over a decade. Just the thought makes me uncomfortable at this point. But I remember it felt good. I wished I could hold a girl I was in love with at some point but it was a platonic relationship and I could never hold her.
I also haven't cried in so many years I don't even remember when it last happened...

Paying a sex worker wouldn't work at all, because it's not the act of being held that you need, what you need is being loved.

 

[Naufrago]

In our world people who care about others are lacking, people are more concerned with having to be. The competitive search for material goods, having more than the neighbor, being the best and the greatest is leaving the individual in a state of apathy, indifferent and cold.
I'm sorry for your pain, sorrows and neediness. It seems that only those who understand and feel that are the ones in the same boat. I can't cry anymore either.

 

[Snake of Eden]

I cant even cry. At least you got that

 

[Mlee75]

Seriously, I'm at the point of seriously considering paying a sex worker just to hold me while I cry.

Why is it SO HARD to find in this society? Literally just this one thing would alleviate so much mental anguish. All I want is to be held while I cry and being told it's OK. Normies don't understand. They take being loved for granted so much. They act like therapy is some silver bullet that will make up for society just letting me rot. "Go to therapy!" is pretty much society's police way of "go pay to talk to someone, I don't want to deal with you or acknowledge your pain." You know, if 10 years ago a girl had done this for me I probably wouldn't be suicidal right now at 34. Literally that's all I ask for - but society just wants me to rot. I wasn't asking for a hero. Just for one god damn fucking hug and set of ears.

Aww I went for a few years without a hug and it sucked. I even thought about getting a professional cuddler off Craigslist, they absolutely exist but in a more rural area they're probably method hookers but no judgment. A hug is a hug. Finally, I got a dog. He hates hugs Anyway, sending you a ghost hug

Aww I went for a few years without a hug and it sucked. I even thought about getting a professional cuddler off Craigslist, they absolutely exist but in a more rural area they're probably method hookers but no judgment. A hug is a hug. Finally, I got a dog. He hates hugs Anyway, sending you a ghost hug. have tried making yourself a regular at a local bar, weird s*** can go down late nights and I had a similar situation I was just wanting to cuddle and I found someone and we just cuddled. I'm a female though so it's easier on my end

 

[LONE WOLF.]

Hmm I don't know. Maybe people like us are cursed. No matter how many people are around me during the day, I always end up crying alone at night.

Same here

Seriously, I'm at the point of seriously considering paying a sex worker just to hold me while I cry.

Why is it SO HARD to find in this society? Literally just this one thing would alleviate so much mental anguish. All I want is to be held while I cry and being told it's OK. Normies don't understand. They take being loved for granted so much. They act like therapy is some silver bullet that will make up for society just letting me rot. "Go to therapy!" is pretty much society's police way of "go pay to talk to someone, I don't want to deal with you or acknowledge your pain." You know, if 10 years ago a girl had done this for me I probably wouldn't be suicidal right now at 34. Literally that's all I ask for - but society just wants me to rot. I wasn't asking for a hero. Just for one god damn fucking hug and set of ears.

 

[tetra]

I can't remember the last time I had a hug, if I had one right now it would probably go right through me. I'm probably better off falling asleep hugging my pillow knowing how weird people get about the touchy feelies.

 

[wantittoendsoon]

There actually are professional huggers....Google it.

 

[jay308]

If you are crying , I want to hug you and will cry with you. sharing pain and tears will relieve us both.

 

[Regen]

Absolutely true. I feel a deep sadness in my heart when I read this. But also a feeling of luck that there are others who feel the same. Something is really wrong with most of the humans. It is only love and empathie with each other, what is really nescessary. Everybody need somebody to love.

In some citys there are kuddle-partys. But I think this is more for kuddling then to get a hug while crying. I think the idea of paying a sex-worker for that is not the most bad.

I think there is some special body-therapy which works similar. Regular therapy works with words. But there is a kind of therapy that works with the body feelings! My psychologists is a big fan of it, but sadly I cant do that. I think you should search something like that for you. For some people it works really wonderful.......

 

[Forever Sleep]

It's SO important to be able to show your emotions in front of others. I used to cry with my Nana about my Mum- she died when I was 3. We would mourn her together. It was such a comfort. It's a strange thing to miss but I do miss my Nana for that as well as everything else. (She died when I was 10.)

Not sure what country you're from but the British stiff upper lip is SO harmful. If you repress all that stuff, or end up having to cry alone, I think it just causes problems further down the road.

I'm so sorry for you. I wish we were all able to comfort one another. All I can do is send you a virtual hug. I'm so sorry you are suffering alone.

 

[BBBB]

Seriously, I'm at the point of seriously considering paying a sex worker just to hold me while I cry.

Why is it SO HARD to find in this society? Literally just this one thing would alleviate so much mental anguish. All I want is to be held while I cry and being told it's OK. Normies don't understand. They take being loved for granted so much. They act like therapy is some silver bullet that will make up for society just letting me rot. "Go to therapy!" is pretty much society's police way of "go pay to talk to someone, I don't want to deal with you or acknowledge your pain." You know, if 10 years ago a girl had done this for me I probably wouldn't be suicidal right now at 34. Literally that's all I ask for - but society just wants me to rot. I wasn't asking for a hero. Just for one god damn fucking hug and set of ears.

Thank you so much for sharing. You're not alone! I SO wish the same thing! I literally have no one! No one to cry to, no one to hug me, no one to talk to.... just no one!
Again, you're not alone. I know it's so painful.

 

[weightedrocks]

Seriously, I'm at the point of seriously considering paying a sex worker just to hold me while I cry.

Why is it SO HARD to find in this society? Literally just this one thing would alleviate so much mental anguish. All I want is to be held while I cry and being told it's OK. Normies don't understand. They take being loved for granted so much. They act like therapy is some silver bullet that will make up for society just letting me rot. "Go to therapy!" is pretty much society's police way of "go pay to talk to someone, I don't want to deal with you or acknowledge your pain." You know, if 10 years ago a girl had done this for me I probably wouldn't be suicidal right now at 34. Literally that's all I ask for - but society just wants me to rot. I wasn't asking for a hero. Just for one god damn fucking hug and set of ears.