It's good to find someone else here. This has been a long lonely painful trip to get this far, and unless I do something, will be a lot longer and more painful. I have I'm guessing about 3 years but things seem to be getting more difficult faster than I'd assumed.
My biggest concern is suddenly having a symptom I simply can't manage on my own and being forced to go along with someone else's plan, which might be radically different than my own. A stroke, for instance, could make me completely dependent. I'm "the world's most independent woman" according to my 32yo daughter, and can't imagine something worse than being forced to live in a place with despair all around me.
ive gotten together with a lawyer who says I can refuse any medical care legally, but if I have had a stroke I may not be able to tell them I don't want the first medicine they'd give me, which is made to lessen the effects. My mom and grandmother died of what were initially strokes, but my mom survived, heavily impaired, for 7 months, until she refused to eat or drink in the nursing home that was her hell.
I tried ctb 3 years ago with alcohol and pills but woke up in intensive care furious I was still here. I'd apparently taken a bad fall in the hotel room that I can't remember. it must have been loud. Hotel staff broke into my room. I suffered lasting damage andended up with a numb shin, ankle and toes, which added to my need for a cane, then a walker, and soon, a wheelchair.
I have been clear with siblings and my daughter I will not choose to live through to the natural end of this disease but it took a lot of deep conversations and mounting symptoms to show them my point of view, which is that I've lived an adventurous full life and there's nothing on my bucket list, so why should I sit and wait around for more of this?
Here in the US I could move to another state that requires 6 months of residency before I can even begin to ask for permission but that move would be awful, and I don't think I should have to ask for permission anyway.
I assume I will be alone for the process, in deference to others who just can't be present. I respect the pain it would put them in and don't want to make it more difficult. I know I can't be responsible for their pain but if I can lessen it by explaining my reasons and by leaving quietly, I'll do it unless they say they would like to be included.
we had a party for my dad after he died. I was his executor and there was plenty of money to fly the family to Florida and rent a big house for everyone. I'd cleaned out his house and brought lots of things I thought they might be interested in having, and we sat around a giant dining table with all the stuff in the middle as everyone chose. We had a 3 day weekend and there were lots of good memories.