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ConfusedAndWeird
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- Apr 12, 2021
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I just had a realization that one of the inherent pro-life arguments has a very prominent bias against suicidal people. It's often said that suicide is wrong because "It will cause pain to your loved ones if you choose to end your life." However, let's say you said that you wanted to end your life because your own pain was intolerable. They would say something like "Not my problem, go talk to a psychiatrist or call a hotline or something." So my question is this. If it's suicidal people's responsibility to get help if they feel so much pain that they want to die, why isn't it the responsibility of those left behind in a suicide to come to terms with their loss?
I think it's hypocritical. If one of us "falls apart" and becomes unable to cope with living, it's our fault for not putting in enough effort to fix it, but at the same time, if someone else "falls apart" because of the person's suicide, it's still the fault of the one who chose to end their life, even if it's likely that person would have died within the life time of those left behind if it wasn't by suicide. Allegedly the fact that the death is by suicide arbitrarily makes it worse than one by natural causes and that's the reason why this is the case.
My point is that it makes absolutely no sense that we're supposedly responsible, not only for our own well being, but for the well-being of everyone else. And I may sound callous when I say this, but I don't feel any guilt if anyone else falls apart after I ctb. Oftentimes, people will say that if a romantic partner uses suicide as a threat to get things from you, it is abusive because it tries to coerce you to being solely responsible for both your own well being and your partners. So I view similar "Well if you die, I'll suffer and my life will be ruined" threats as extremely similar and I think that in that sense, prolifers place way too much responsibility on those who want to die, especially considering how much they have to suffer to reach that point in the first place.
I know my family would probably fall apart and my friends would be sad if I left, but it's not my problem, just like my own problems were never their responsibility and they didn't feel like they needed to fix them in a way we could both agree upon. My problems are my problems and their problems are theirs. We're all responsible for our own wellbeing and if that's true then it's also true we can have freedom on how we choose to preserve it. I choose to CTB for my own peace of mind and to protect myself from all further suffering. If what I do with my own body causes mental distress to other people, then their distress is not my responsibility and they can deal with it using the method of their choice.
I think it's hypocritical. If one of us "falls apart" and becomes unable to cope with living, it's our fault for not putting in enough effort to fix it, but at the same time, if someone else "falls apart" because of the person's suicide, it's still the fault of the one who chose to end their life, even if it's likely that person would have died within the life time of those left behind if it wasn't by suicide. Allegedly the fact that the death is by suicide arbitrarily makes it worse than one by natural causes and that's the reason why this is the case.
My point is that it makes absolutely no sense that we're supposedly responsible, not only for our own well being, but for the well-being of everyone else. And I may sound callous when I say this, but I don't feel any guilt if anyone else falls apart after I ctb. Oftentimes, people will say that if a romantic partner uses suicide as a threat to get things from you, it is abusive because it tries to coerce you to being solely responsible for both your own well being and your partners. So I view similar "Well if you die, I'll suffer and my life will be ruined" threats as extremely similar and I think that in that sense, prolifers place way too much responsibility on those who want to die, especially considering how much they have to suffer to reach that point in the first place.
I know my family would probably fall apart and my friends would be sad if I left, but it's not my problem, just like my own problems were never their responsibility and they didn't feel like they needed to fix them in a way we could both agree upon. My problems are my problems and their problems are theirs. We're all responsible for our own wellbeing and if that's true then it's also true we can have freedom on how we choose to preserve it. I choose to CTB for my own peace of mind and to protect myself from all further suffering. If what I do with my own body causes mental distress to other people, then their distress is not my responsibility and they can deal with it using the method of their choice.