Discussion How guilty do you feel about your planned end?

[Jodes]

My gf, father and brother hurt. But my emotions are a rollercoaster, no treatment available! (?) EUPD
My gf has no family and is vuknerable, I dont know what to do besides find her a new, decent boyfriend before I go!! But for all intents and purposes she will have to be exclusively mjbe until I'm gone, thats the deal!
Has anyone seen research that looks at how to minimise mourning?

 

[GreenLantern]

My death won't actually hurt anyone because all I have are enemies, but I wish it did.

 

[Jodes]

Please everyone vote :)

 

[stargazer]

2nd option

 

[EndofMyRope]

I've isolated myself to the point that I don't talk to anyone anymore. My ex-husband will be devastated. Although divorced, we still love each other and he's my closest friend... I worry what my death will do to him as he's a recovering alcoholic/addict and just coming off of a very, very recent relapse that landed him in a hospital on an IV Ativan drip detoxing from alcohol for 14 days.

 

[Jodes]

I've isolated myself to the point that I don't talk to anyone anymore. My ex-husband will be devastated. Although divorced, we still love each other and he's my closest friend... I worry what my death will do to him as he's a recovering alcoholic/addict and just coming off of a very, very recent relapse that landed him in a hospital on an IV Ativan drip detoxing from alcohol for 14 days.

Is he pro-choice?

 

[Tyuiop]

I know my family will be hurt, but they should be prepared for it: I've been suicidal since fifteen, and this year I had two attempts. And I constantly tell my only friend that going to kill myself, so he should be prepared for it too. Also I think my family has pretty much given up on me, and they are secretly waiting for me to ctb.

 

[EndofMyRope]

Is he pro-choice?

I've never had that actual conversation with him... He knows I've been suicidal in the past, but I haven't told him how bad it is this time around. He has too much on his own plate and I don't want to add to his burden. He's been with me through a lot, has witnessed a lot of my self-harm and debilitating depression, but it wears on people after a while. I don't think he would understand me wanting to ctb. He would want me to go back to yet another hospital, to keep trying, probably believing that there's some "cure" out there. He wouldn't understand that I'm just not fixable anymore.

 

[Jodes]

I know my family will be hurt, but they should be prepared for it: I've been suicidal since fifteen, and this year I had two attempts. And I constantly tell my only friend that going to kill myself, so he should be prepared for it too. Also I think my family has pretty much given up on me, and they are secretly waiting for me to ctb.

No way wouud they have given upon on younunless theyre psychopaths

 

[EndofMyRope]

No way wouud they have given upon on younunless theyre psychopaths

No, I'm with jodes on this one--my family had completely written me off. They've given up. Just don't want to deal with it anymore but I understand. Hell, I don't want to deal with me anymore either.

 

[stargazer]

I just don't care and just won't care anymore about any "feelings" I leave behind.

 

[Jodes]

I know my family will be hurt, but they should be prepared for it: I've been suicidal since fifteen, and this year I had two attempts. And I constantly tell my only friend that going to kill myself, so he should be prepared for it too. Also I think my family has pretty much given up on me, and they are secretly waiting for me to ctb.

I just don't care and just won't care anymore about any "feelings" I leave behind.

Guilt?

 

[Jodes]

No, I'm with jodes on this one--my family had completely written me off. They've given up. Just don't want to deal with it anymore but I understand. Hell, I don't want to deal with me anymore either.

I was hoping for a positive response :-$ sorry you feel like that

 

[Tyuiop]

No way wouud they have given upon on younunless theyre psychopaths

Guilt?

I don't feel really guilty, it's my own life and they are not the ones living it. But then again, I'm putting off my ctb all the time. I think they have understood that i'm not going to do anything like getting a good job and stuff, so maybe they understand that life isn't for me.

 

[MsM3talGamer]

I've been a ghost my whole life. No one's gonna notice I'm gone.

 

[Vegrau]

No guilt. I have gone too far for that. I came here without consent. I dont need their consent either to leave. They dont love me. They only love the idea they have of me. They dont even know me. Hahaha

 

[NumbItAll]

I am very sad for my family but not necessarily guilty about it. Life is not some precious gift; it is a giant shit sandwich that I never asked for.

 

[furax53]

my family and my friends may be very sad but I know that I would have no choice because I arrive ah lead the way of life that I lead before

 

[Help_Me]

I have no one and nothing to worry about, as I achieved nothing in my life. No debts, family e.t.c. This means I am completely out of guilt. Just empty meaningless life of meaningless person.

 

[Roulette]

Feeling of guilt died ages ago
Everyone has someone, why would they miss me

 

[wanttodie]

No or little guilt.

 

[weedoge]

Very.. Logically I think its maybe irrational guilt but yet still have this stupid feeling of obligation

 

[Sundayafternoon]

Only a little as it relates to my dad. But he knows I plan to go. He also knows he wasn't much help during my life so he shouldn't feel too bad.

I never miss an opportunity to tell him I hate being here and wish like hell he and my mother had found something else to do that day.

I worry about my cat.

 

[Throwaway563078]

I have been trying to avoid this place and not think of suicide and give life a chance mostly because the biggest barrier between me and really getting close to suicide is guilt. The guilt is still there

 

[samsays89]

The poll is pretty evenly spread out. Hmm. Personally no guilt, but I worry about my dog. No one would treat her as well as I do.

As for minimizing guilt, I think someone posted something about "suicide survivors" which is people that care about someone that successfully killed themselves, not someone who survived a suicide attempt. And a lot of them felt guilty about not being able to tell someone was suicidal. So maybe to minimize guilt, let them know it wasn't their fault at all, and you worked so hard at hiding your behavior, and they helped so much to keep you going for as long as you did, and all their messages/etc. were so treasured, but in the end, it just had to be done. I think it's just human instinct, to help someone, so by default they'll feel bad, but I also think they can get over it as long as they were healthy to begin with.

 

[TAW122]

Some guilt. Few close ties.

Some of these close ties are my family and a few people IRL who are around me oftenly. However, I can't let them hold me back from doing what I've set out to do.

 

[Made4TV]

I have so much guilt. It's nearly the only thing that has kept me here so long. That and a tiny glimmer of hope...and curiosity about advances in the future. But guilt is the huge thing. And it may yet stop me. I'm so highly empathetic that I feel all their pain in advance and it crushes me.

 

[ausboy96]

I'm terrified of how much I'll distress my mum. I love her so much but there's nothing that can be done for me anymore. It's time I ended it. I really hope when I attempt soon that I succeed cos I can't bear to see the look on her face when I've attempted and failed.

 

[Jodes]

I'm terrified of how much I'll distress my mum. I love her so much but there's nothing that can be done for me anymore. It's time I ended it. I really hope when I attempt soon that I succeed cos I can't bear to see the look on her face when I've attempted and failed.

I hope you stay withb us , find peace

 

[ausboy96]

I hope you stay withb us , find peace

You want me to fail at my attempt or to decide not to attempt?