Friends?

[SoulWhisperer]

After the umpteenth harassment from my toxic parents (That I shouldn't have considered probably) that still got me curious or wondering?...

Do you guys still manage to make friends and keep relationships despite the struggles?

I personally am a mess and reached 0 friends quota a few years ago, after saying "oh yeah it's my choice" (Spoiler: it wasn't). And due to my depression and fucked mind I can't seem to be making friends in the slightest.

A part of me is afraid the issue is me and that I'm too lazy or something, purposefully living online (where my only friends are). That thought is haunting me but not the focus of today's post.

 

[pain6batch9]

Actually, thank you. I was going to make a thread similar to this about how people sustain relationships while experiencing mental health issues. I'd be interested to see the final results, comments.

 

[sorararara]

i have a good amount of friends, but my mental health is greatly affecting things. i'm not afraid that i might hurt my friends or drive them away. that was a concern at one point, but i've learned how to control my shitty outbursts and clinginess.

i'm just so miserable in all of my relationships.
i cherish my friends and i make sure that they all know how much i love them, but i feel so lonely all of the time. i've posted about it a lot, but i just feel so worthless and alone because i'm not really anybody's favorite person. i don't feel important to anyone unless i am the MOST important person to them. i constantly need attention and validation, it's honestly ridiculous. the way i feel is really selfish so i don't really bother anyone about it. i feel very guilty and that i don't deserve the people in my life, so i don't bug my friends with these thoughts. i just cry about it on this forum lolol.

sometimes i think i'd be happier if i didn't have friends. i feel alone with and without friends, but at least my loneliness would be valid if i were truly alone. at least i wouldn't feel like such a selfish piece of shit.
though, i spent a lot of my life with 0 friends. i went months without even interacting with people outside of my family, and i don't think i can do that again.

sorry for yapping lol

 

[Dida]

I have work acquaintances but I distanced myself/lost a lot of my friends due to depression.

 

[Unknown21]

I have some good friends online But in real life I have none.

 

[RueTheRavenPrincess]

I have very close life-long friendships that I'm quite grateful for. I think the key is being around people who you feel safe sharing your darkest parts around. A few of my friends are suicidal and depressed themselves, and sometimes we have discussions together much like the conversations on these forums. It is very empowering to know that people you love are also facing similar demons. True friendship is very balming, and i'm sorry about your struggles with friendship, friends for sure take alot of energy to maintain, and i'm sure my friends are more forgiving of my depressed absence becuase they have known me forever and are invested in me even when i'm a bad friend. I'm very lucky.

 

[Mirrory Me]

I understand the idea of being unsure of how it might work in practice, especially if you've been away from others for a long time. I've wondered if it's more normal to be alone when you get older, especially because you haven't developed the habit (or have the financial means) to go out with others. I may be too old to just hang out with people somewhere, but I would like to get out of the apartment somewhere (if there were some common hobby circle or, is it only for young people...). I could try to challenge myself next week to do something unusual, then when the money has come back into the account - good luck to others too.

 

[fatladysings]

I have lost several friends due to my schizoaffective disorder but ever since going on to antipsychotic meds, I no longer lose friends. The antipsychotic caused my aggression to literally vanish and turned me into a quiet little lamb overnight. I now have a few close friends, but not a huge number of friends, because I am quite strongly antisocial at times and need a lot of peace and quiet and time alone. I've always enjoyed my own company a bit too much.

I'm sorry you lost your friends, I hope you don't miss them too much. And I'm sorry that your depression and psychological issues have stopped you from making more friends. I hope you feel that you have got some friends in this forum.

 

[M4rii]

I only have one person I know from before. Today I can hardly make any friends and keep them with me for a long time

 

[imnotsurewhy]

I dont have friends because i m boring And also that would make me happy And i feel pathetic if i feel happy even for a moment

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I have none. No family left, either. My cousin was my best friend, but he died about 6 1/2 years ago.

 

[SoulWhisperer]

i have a good amount of friends, but my mental health is greatly affecting things. i'm not afraid that i might hurt my friends or drive them away. that was a concern at one point, but i've learned how to control my shitty outbursts and clinginess.

i'm just so miserable in all of my relationships.
i cherish my friends and i make sure that they all know how much i love them, but i feel so lonely all of the time. i've posted about it a lot, but i just feel so worthless and alone because i'm not really anybody's favorite person. i don't feel important to anyone unless i am the MOST important person to them. i constantly need attention and validation, it's honestly ridiculous. the way i feel is really selfish so i don't really bother anyone about it. i feel very guilty and that i don't deserve the people in my life, so i don't bug my friends with these thoughts. i just cry about it on this forum lolol.

sometimes i think i'd be happier if i didn't have friends. i feel alone with and without friends, but at least my loneliness would be valid if i were truly alone. at least i wouldn't feel like such a selfish piece of shit.
though, i spent a lot of my life with 0 friends. i went months without even interacting with people outside of my family, and i don't think i can do that again.

sorry for yapping lol

It's okay, I understand the attention part and the consequence of feeling selfish about it. I too yearn for care, attention and love from others, it's a natural thing for people, especially if they're struggling with stuff. No matter what, I say it's understandable

 

[assistedsuicidelove]

Nope not even one

 

[Lookingtoflyfree]

By friends do you mean people who message me? Nope. I will message people but it's always "oh yeah, let's go for a drink" and it never happens.

In the last day before my death I delete all my social media accounts. None of the people in my life care about me while alive, why care when I'm dead?

I remove all traces from me and return back to a home planet of sources and never interact with another human again. Fade away completely.

 

[assistedsuicidelove]

By friends do you mean people who message me? Nope. I will message people but it's always "oh yeah, let's go for a drink" and it never happens.

In the last day before my death I delete all my social media accounts. None of the people in my life care about me while alive, why care when I'm dead?

I remove all traces from me and return back to a home planet of sources and never interact with another human again. Fade away completely.

Yes this is it

 

[-nobodyknows-]

I have friends until I start having issues. That tends to drive everyone away

 

[needthebus]

none

I am unhappy with or without friends im unhappy all the time im not sure if it would be possible to make friends but it would require effort i tried before and it all felt fake because i am mostly unhappy and pretending to be happy with people when doing things

there was one friend i had but i had a hard time trusting them and then they died. the friend was sad about stuff too but also started yelling and being mean, so we were less close at the time they died but this person was still my favorite person and meant a lot to me. i fucked up and shouldn't have grown so distant and gotten so protective. its easier to be alone. and i dont want new friends just death. im over it. and just sad all the damn time.

 

[NoName_NoLife]

I have 1 friends but online but irl i have 0 i never have a real friend to whom I could tell everything