do you think genuinely happy adults exist?

[SufferingInDenmark]

i wonder this sometimes... i bet there are some. actually i'm kinda sure.
but i know how dishonest most humans are, to others and to themselves...
there's a lot of "cope talk" involved in many people's so called "happiness"... a lot of self deception is also sometimes needed to pull off the happy act.

my own dad (RIP).
he was never a complainer, and actually complained about people complaining lol.
...
then one day, my aunt told me she saw him crying when he thought he was alone.

i think 100% genuinely happy adults are extremely rare.

 

[martyrdom]

I was genuinely happy not that long ago, for most of my life.

 

[inprosperus]

People who are genuinely happy as in happy all of the time definitely do not exist. But people who are *generally* content, satisfied with life, hopeful for the future, happy with their lives definitely exist. They have lower moments, they grieve, they have rougher days, but their baseline is happiness.
As additional proof, I believe that's why people tend to react to depressed or suicidal people with useless positivity and worthless advice of the "it'll pass" variety. Because for them, it really does. Despair isn't their baseline, so they expect themselves (and, erroneously, others) to bounce back. Just a thought.

 

[SufferingInDenmark]

People who are genuinely happy as in happy all of the time definitely do not exist. But people who are *generally* content, satisfied with life, hopeful for the future, happy with their lives definitely exist. They have lower moments, they grieve, they have rougher days, but their baseline is happiness.
As additional proof, I believe that's why people tend to react to depressed or suicidal people with useless positivity and worthless advice of the "it'll pass" variety. Because for them, it really does. Despair isn't their baseline, so they expect themselves (and, erroneously, others) to bounce back. Just a thought.

yeah good angle to look at it actually, or maybe they are just so deep in their denial that they can no longer tell the difference between fact and fiction.
(happy versus not happy.)
and at that point... i guess they have successfully faked it until they made it.
they kept the self deception going for so long that it became true, type shit.
i'm not explaining it perfectly...

 

[inprosperus]

yeah good angle to look at it actually, or maybe they are just so deep in their denial that they can no longer tell the difference between fact and fiction.
(happy versus not happy.)
and at that point... i guess they have successfully faked it until they made it.
they kept to self deception going for so long that it became true, type shit.
i'm not explaining it perfectly...

Honestly yeah. For a lot of people it has to be that, just faking it until you make it. But if you delude yourself into believing you're happy to the point that it becomes true... well, that can't be so bad. Maybe some people just come to accept their circumstances. I could never, but all the power to them, I suppose.
But I agree with the idea that everyone suffers at some point in their life, just not to the extent of having an unhappy life. I hate othering us but I think suicidal people are just uniquely unfortunate. The average person won't even get to know of sasu, even less feel the need to start posting on it.

 

[penguinl0v3s]

Definitely. Just not me.

 

[Terrible_Life]

Many people fool themselves into an illusion and think they would be happy

 

[frightful-venison]

Yes. I've met them. I've been dating my boyfriend since high school and his parents are just really genuinely content. I have spent a lot of time at their house and I feel like if it were a facade then there would be some underlying stress or tension, but there never is. They're stressed sometimes, but it seems brief and they work together to resolve it. I hope that if I find a way path forward my life looks like theirs.

 

[PI3.14]

Yes

 

[itsgone2]

I know people that are genuinely happy. They work hard and made good choices. Came from good parents. It exists. Just not for us