Venting A simple life.

[Lara Francis]

Hi.
I think i just need to vent and say how the last 3 years of my life have been devastating and and beyond comprehension.
I have been at the very edge of life so many times that my current state of mind feels completly normal even though it is irrational atm.
I can vaguely remember when life seemed simple and hazzle free but now it is just one thing after the other.!
These things are not small issues either.
My brother is missing ! He seems to have been sleeping rough,taking drugs and drinking.He is an adult but has stopped taking his meds for epilepsy so i am worried about this situation.
he lives 80 miles away but maybe i should go and look for him.! I fear that i will soon recieve a phone call saying he is dead otherwise.i know he was not happy where he was living but i know that he does not want to die but will be taken advantage of and it may be the consequence !
My head is racing and is way to busy and full to think.
Sorry for the waffle.xx

 

[color_me_gone]

Lara, I am aware of all the other stuff you are going through, and now this!
You just go ahead and rant, rant and more rant, you need it.
Has a missing person's report been filed?
If he lives 80 miles away, it would be a pretty futile effort to go look for him.
Does he carry a cell phone?

 

[Lara Francis]

Lara, I am aware of all the other stuff you are going through, and now this!
You just go ahead and rant, rant and more rant, you need it.
Has a missing person's report been filed?
If he lives 80 miles away, it would be a pretty futile effort to go look for him.
Does he carry a cell phone?

Hi there.
My other brother has reported him to the police.his phone has not been answered in weeks! But that may not mean too much as he is always loosing it.
I suggested going to look for him but my family are telling me its not a good idea but what other option is there ?
I hope he's not dead and they are not telling me because i have a lot on my plate and they think it will send me into a severe depresson again.That would not be fair,right ?

 

[Retched]

Oh hon- I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you get word soon. Life is so cruel sometimes- giving us too much to handle. I'll be thinking about you and as hard as it is- try to remain strong & lean on us all you have to. Big hugs.

 

[Lara Francis]

Oh hon- I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you get word soon. Life is so cruel sometimes- giving us too much to handle. I'll be thinking about you and as hard as it is- try to remain strong & lean on us all you have to. Big hugs.

Thankyou,hugs x

 

[color_me_gone]

That would not be fair,right ?

Agree.
Hugs to you Lara.

 

[Lara Francis]

Agree.
Hugs to you Lara.

Hugs back to you too xx

 

[SeekingSolace]

We're all here to listen and offer support. I'm sorry you are going through such a difficult time. Sending you hugs.

 

[Lara Francis]

We're all here to listen and offer support. I'm sorry you are going through such a difficult time. Sending you hugs.

I love all these hugs.thanku.x

 

[color_me_gone]

I love all these hugs.thanku.x

We love giving them! Thank You 2. xx

 

[Made4TV]

I'm really sorry to hear about all of this. I'll add on to the hugs as well. Hugs.

 

[JustAboutDone]

@Lara Francis this is awful, I'm so sorry
Have you had any news? I know your instincts must be to look for your brother but I feel perhaps you might be best staying with your son. I know it must be so hard :-(
Keep us updates xx

 

[odette]

Why don't your parents want you to look for him?

 

[Lara Francis]

Why don't your parents want you to look for him?

Exactly !
Do they know something.?

I know i have put the family through alot of heartache and worry over the past few years and they may think i will relapse but i would rather know.

 

[odette]

Exactly !
Do they know something.?

I know i have put the family through alot of heartache and worry over the past few years and they may think i will relapse but i would rather know.

Are you going to confront them about it?

 

[Lara Francis]

@Lara Francis this is awful, I'm so sorry
Have you had any news? I know your instincts must be to look for your brother but I feel perhaps you might be best staying with your son. I know it must be so hard :-(
Keep us updates xx

Thanku for your thoughts.
I still have no news.

My mind was going on over drive last night and i did not sleep until the early hours.
Jamie ( who is the missing brother) is the only biological brother i know ,so this is hard.we grew up in care and my other brother is a foster brother.xx

 

[JustAboutDone]

Thanku for your thoughts.
I still have no news.

My mind was going on over drive last night and i did not sleep until the early hours.
Jamie ( who is the missing brother) is the only biological brother i know ,so this is hard.we grew up in care and my other brother is a foster brother.xx

Jeez that makes it so much harder :-(

The trouble is if you go looking and anything happens to you, your son will lose his mummy xxx

Have you put out messages on fb twitter etc? I know it's an obvious thing to ask

 

[Lara Francis]

Are you going to confront them about it?

I am going to talk to them tonight.( i will face time them as they are in spain).
I just need to keep a stable mind set as i have social worker visits this afternoon and i need to give a good impresson.
I feel so mentally stressed ! Xx

 

[Lara Francis]

Jeez that makes it so much harder :-(

The trouble is if you go looking and anything happens to you, your son will lose his mummy xxx

Have you put out messages on fb twitter etc? I know it's an obvious thing to ask

I am not sure what the police or family have done as i only found this out last night.i was told he has been missing for 2 months ! Xx

 

[JustAboutDone]

I am not sure what the police or family have done as i only found this out last night.i was told he has been missing for 2 months ! Xx

Oh fgs. Sweetie. Start writing down all the concrete stuff you have
Eg last address last phone number etc
I know family police etc do this but sometimes it helps me if I am really stressed just to put pen to paper

Write down anything you can think of, any friends, hobbies clubs church literally anything xx

 

[odette]

I am going to talk to them tonight.( i will face time them as they are in spain).
I just need to keep a stable mind set as i have social worker visits this afternoon and i need to give a good impresson.
I feel so mentally stressed ! Xx

Please update how it went! If there is any news in the next couple of days, I would really like to hear it.

 

[Lara Francis]

Please update how it went! If there is any news in the next couple of days, I would really like to hear it.

Hi.
My brother has been found.!
He is looking abit rough apparently but has returned to his flat.
Thanku for your thoughts everyone,i will be able to sleep now.
I am still angary i was not told but at least he is alive. Xx

 

[JustAboutDone]

Hi.
My brother has been found.!
He is looking abit rough apparently but has returned to his flat.
Thanku for your thoughts everyone,i will be able to sleep now.
I am still angary i was not told but at least he is alive. Xx

Oh I am so glad for you!! That must be such a relief xx I hope you can get some sleep and enjoy the weekend with your little boy x

 

[Lara Francis]

Oh I am so glad for you!! That must be such a relief xx I hope you can get some sleep and enjoy the weekend with your little boy x

Yes its such a relief to all.i hope he will be able to get the help and support needed to get his life back on track x